I always thought I had anger management issues at time.. well.. then I realized.. from answering these questions that I am not as bad as some ppl at all!!
Do You…
- grit your teeth? No
- get a headache? No
- get sweaty palms? No
- get dizzy? No
- get red-faced? Sometimes
- get a stomachache? No
- feeling like running away? Used to
- get depressed? Yes
- feel guilt? No
- feel resentment? No
- become anxious? Sometimes
- feel like lashing out? No
- cry / yell / scream? Sometimes
- use substances? No
- get sarcastic? No
- lose sense of humor? Sometimes
- become abusive? No
- withdraw? Yes
- become too intense? No
- creep out in mysterious ways? No
- contribute to physical problems? No
- flare too quickly? No
Stuffing
- Do you hide your anger? Yes
- Do you tend to avoid direct confrontation? Yes
- Are there times when you feel bad for getting angry? No. I actually feel better.
- Is it hard for you to admit when you’re angry? Yes
If so, you may be considered a “Stuffer�
I am a stuffer I guess
Some reasons why we “stuff” are:
- Fear of hurting / offending someone
- Fear of losing control
- Fear of being disliked or rejected
- Feeling it’s inappropriate (not ok) to be angry
- Feeling unable to cope with a strong and intense emotion
- Fear of damaging / losing a relationship
- It’s a learned behavior (but it can be unlearned!)
- Living in an unfamiliar environment, such as university
Consequences / Problems:
- Anger comes out — regardless
- Impairs relationships
- Compromises physical and mental health
Escalating
- Does your anger “escalate” to rage? No
- Do you try to control your emotions, but are unable to? Sometimes
- Do you blame and shame the provoker of your anger? Yes
- Does your anger sometimes lead to abusive situations? No
Some reasons why we “escalate” are:
- Feeling like there are no other choices of addressing the situation
- Demonstrating an image of strength and/or power
- Avoiding the underlying emotions
- Fear of getting close to someone
- It’s a learned behavior (but it can be unlearned!).
- Lack of appropriate communication skills
Consequences / Problems:
- Desired results may be short-term
- Possibility of physical destruction
- Impairs relationships
- Compromises physical and mental health
- Legal ramifications
I guess I am not so so bad.. :S Well.. sometimes but not much!
