Comments on: Judgemental People

By: Rebellious Arab Girl » Blog Archive » Comprehending who’s Language? Mine or Yours?

Tue, 27 Feb 2007 02:21:46 +0000

[...] Now I am 26 and I still speak Arabic. The problem is I did go through a phase of almost 7 or 8 years b4 I got to University where Arabic no longer became my first language. It became somewhat messed up because I didn’t speak it much and it was much easier to speak English. As I got older in my high school here in Canada, a lot more Arabs started showing up. I didn’t know who they were because I could care less really. I met one girl that figured I was an Arab because I decided to take a non science course! Bad move! Well, my name is Mona and I look like one. Duh! So she was like “wow. You speak English fluently.” I looked at her and said.. “yah so”. She is like but can you speak Arabic? I was thinking to my self, why is she asking that? If I spoke English well does that mean I couldn’t speak Arabic well? It amazed me. Then she started speaking Arabic to me and I replied back. She kept criticizing and saying no. You cannot speak it well. Also you have a Lebanese accent. That is not a Palestinian one. I was like hmm. So I couldn’t speak it well but I had a Lebanese accent. Weird ah? So I am from northern Palestine near Lebanon. Maybe walking distant to the Lebanese border as the old generation would say, and I am criticized for having a different accent and I cannot speak Arabic well. This all happened during a 5 minute conversation before class started. This goes back to the article I wrote about judgmental people. I wasn’t joking about that one. I have gone through it many times in my life. [...]

By: afaf

afaf — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 12:41:11 +0000

well, if they stop doing that then they wouldnot be ppl anymore… just forget about them cuz they exist everywhere…
peace..

By: Mona - Rebellious Arab Girl

Mona - Rebellious Arab Girl — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 14:39:24 +0000

you are right.. the hell with them!
but at the same time.. I wish people can stop this mentality.. it is just not right!

By: afaf

afaf — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 14:38:44 +0000

same thing applies for ppl u meet in real life… adn why would u care of those if they already judge u…to hell with them…

By: Mona - Rebellious Arab Girl

Mona - Rebellious Arab Girl — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 01:08:48 +0000

nah.. this is not about my blog.. this is about real ppl out there.. people I have met face to face.. also my blog has something to do with it… but not as much as real life people..

By: afaf

afaf — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 01:06:50 +0000

well, ppl have tendency to judge ppl at the spot, it is like a race, and everyone wants to have the first adn the right saying…dunno how to describe it and maybe that is what is stopping me from having my own blog, mainly cuz i have to deal with ppl like those cuz u have no right to decide who comes around and who leaves a comment adn bear on mind that u can never satisfy all ppl at same time, there is always someone there who feels that the whole world owes him and projects that everywhere that person goes too….so, just ignore them and simply tell them “this is me whether u like it r not, but i am not gonna change me to suit u…”
hope things will ease off with u a bit soon….
peace…

By: Digital Nomad

Digital Nomad — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 03:39:12 +0000

Raising my hands and waving frantically lol, coz I have connected with people on first glance or first exchange of pleasantries. Sometimes, you can tell a genuinely sweet or genuinely witchy personality peeking out from whatever the mask is. Many times, I have given saccharine-sweet people a chance, on the basis that maybe they are genuine…only to realize that my initial impressions were correct. Its not based so much on the appearance or the grouchiness, its more a matter of the vibe being put out. For myself, I call it instinct, not judging.