Ladies and gentleman. I have an announcement to make about a particular blogger. I will tell you a story first. This blogger has made a social network for Arab bloggers and he added me to it without my knowledge. I appreciated the gesture and I kept up with his blog as well and became an active commenter on his blog. I actually liked his blog and I found him a very educated person who has very interesting thoughts. He seemed from his writing as an intellectual with a lot of knowledge of various subjects. I wanted to talk to him more. It was my choice. I am very open and I love talking to people that interest me as human beings. So I added him to msn and I started the chats.
When I talked to him, he was a completely different person. He turned 180 degrees from his writing style to this horny guy who only used sexual innuendos. At times he would suggest that I should go over to his city and maybe try to get a job. I told him why would I go alone to this city? I am not even American and I have no interest in doing so. I just found it odd. He then kept telling me more and more about his girlfriends and his sexual experiences with them like it was an ordinary every day matter to him. I kept asking him and wondering why is he so fake in his writing in his blog. Why can’t he be him self?
After a while, I just lost interest in talking to him. Last time I talked to him, all I said was hello and then he started using sexual connotations that only a low class guy would say. I was fed up, and I said change the subject or else. So I did and I tried to talk to him about another subject matter that was more serious and he said, “who do you think I am? your boyfriend?”
That’s when I blocked him off msn. From my disgust I removed the link to his social Arab blog network and to his personal blog too. I just removed him and I never talked to him again.
This was 2 months ago….
Last week, he posted a messaged on my blog which I pretty much didn’t bother to answer properly. I didn’t delete it because I like to give visitors the freedom of expression. The same day, I get a phone call to my cell phone and I didn’t know whose number that was since I removed his number from my address book. He leaves me a message saying, “why have you removed my blog links from your blog?” I was surprised that someone would go to that extreme to call me and ask me that question. In my case I didn’t know who it was first. I was like who has my number? Was it my EX? Was he off somewhere on a business trip and calling me? I had to hear 3 more times to understand the message and make sure I am hearing it right. Remove link? I was like who is this? It’s not my EX. He doesn’t have a blog. So I used my trusty google friend and looked up the area code. It was Washington state.
I was like Aaah. It’s Sam from Qwaider planet.
I then got an email 2 hours later from him.
Qwaider <xxx@xxxx> Jul 27 (5 days ago)
to “Mona <xxxx>
date Jul 27, 2007 7:21 PM
subject Mona, you owe me an explanationI tried everything, even calling you
And I heard absolutely nothing back from you. All I’m asking to to know what’s wrong. Did I piss you off or something? Did I upset you? What is going on!!?You can just reply to me and say whatever you want, you could do it in a civilized way. I would have done that to you!
Anyway, if you have something to say, I’m all ears, and if I made any mistakes I’m willing to apologize. But I would really want to know why! I’m not asking much
I called, and tried to get in touch because I thought we were friends.
I read it and I was like, should I ignore or tell him the truth? I just found it odd that after two months of me not talking to him he would notice this.
So I replied back,
Mona xxxx <xxxx@xxx.com> Jul 27 (5 days ago)
to Qwaider <xxxxx@xxx.com>
date Jul 27, 2007 7:58 PM
subject Re: Mona, you owe me an explanationHello Samer,
It’s funny that now you bother.. I have removed you from my blog like 2 months ago. I just find it funny that now you realized it. Didn’t you notice that I don’t post on your blog and I don’t chat or talk to you? I’m sorry to ask this, but are you a bit slow? Really.. I was surprised you called you or bothered. I just found it very odd to see that NOW it bothered you.
Anyways, the reason I removed you because I can never ever have a normal conversation with you. Every time I talk to you, you use sexual innuendos and act like a savage horny animal. It was getting boring and I was totally fed up with it. I wasn’t able to say hello, how are you without you throwing in some stupid comment. And when I tried to have a serious conversation with you, you would reply to me saying, “who am I your boyfriend?” Which I thought was completely pathetic and uncalled for. You treat me like I am nothing and think I am one of those stupid Arab girl who just want to chat with a guy for fun..
To me it was not the case and I just wanted to have friendly conversation with other human beings on this earth!
If you want to remove me from your social rss feeds I don’t care. That’s your choice. I blog for my self and to interact with people. That’s all. I don’t take it THAT seriously.
Thank you,
Have a nice day
-Mona
He replied back after that and said,
Qwaider <xxxx@xxx.com> Jul 28 (4 days ago)
to Mona <xxx@xxx.com>
date Jul 28, 2007 12:09 AM
subject RE: Mona, you owe me an explanationYeah, I am slow. I don’t go around looking who has me, and who removed me and all that good stuff.
Your action was uncalled for but, it’s completely up to you what you decide in your life.. A little notice to other parties would really be polite and helpfulAnyway, as you have probably noticed, I didn’t pay attention because … well, I’ll leave that to myself.. Instead of saying something smartass
Good luck, have a wonderful life as for other community services I provide. Don’t worry, I don’t let personal judgment get in the way.
I might be a typical arabic guy in many things, but I think few things about me are different.
Again, thank you for taking the time to respond back to my email . I wish you good luck .. And I assure you I won’t be bothering you again
I ended it there, I didn’t bother and I didn’t want to make a big deal. Life moves on. Right?
So I am a loyal reader of Moey’s blog. I love reading and I comment whenever I feel that I have something to say. It’s an interesting blog and I enjoy reading his thoughts.
So Moey had a problem with some people and posted this blog entry.
I didn’t read people’s comments. I just see if the blog owner has replied to me, and that’s it. Today I read Moey’s post to reply to some blog visitors and I saw Qwaider’s comment and Moey replying, “some people do not understand… what can I do?”
So I read Qwaider’s comment carefully and I was like wtf. He didn’t mention me or anything, but it was like a smack in the face and it was like indirectly written to me and he knew I read Moey’s blog. It was like he was thinking that “I will tell you off and make sure you read this.” This is what Mr. Qwaider wrote:
Qwaider
Take it easy my friend. Rest assured, many people (my self included) love you the way you are. And would never judge you. No body’s worth it. People who think that removing a friend off their blogroll is their way of punishment make me really laugh at how juvenile their way of thinking is. It’s like this, one day you have someone on your blogroll because you like their ideas. Then something happens, and now you just hate everything about them?! LOL
So I decided to write this post. I don’t care if it was directed towards me or anything, but his thoughts and ideas were completely stupid and he needed someone to tell him off. I knew exactly what it meant. And I just needed him to push my buttons to address this issue. To show everyone that people who are bloggers are fake and they write a bunch of crap in their blog about anything to get hits and visitors. It gives them the power of popularity that they are craving. Although they write non sense and about any subject to be diverse and having their friends comment. Yet us real bloggers who post about every day life and our inner thoughts and problems and even things we like get humiliated and ridiculed. They don’t care who they hurt and they don’t care what they say. As long as they get the satisfaction of gaining more visitors. I mean how many posts did Qwaider have in the past few months about the site visitors and the popularity of his blog and social blog network? It’s like his inner most satisfaction is the HITS he gets to his site.
Anyways, thanks for wasting my time posting this crappy post. I just needed to vent because someone had to tell the TRUTH of this hypocrite.
Updated: August 7th, 2007 - I am turning off the comments to this post. No one will be allowed to comment anymore. I stopped replying and I said I will no longer bother with this post. It is history. So get over it people!
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Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 1:23 am
. 8O , I’m speechless…
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:10 am
Thank god someone post it,
you proved my point about him ,i kept tell guys about how this guy is fake , but a very few believe that , i don’t read his posts or comment AT ALL , we had a huge argument(s) on his blog and mine and almost none of bloggers say a single word that he’s SICK .. sorry for post this as whisper , i will post something else out,
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:19 am
Strong Girl
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:52 am
Dear mona,
I am sorry I am writing this on a whisper, and this even shows how amazing you are.. Because you have the courage to write it all, and say it all.
what happened to you, happened to me too and to many other fellow girls’ bloggers. But unfortunately no one had the guts to talk about it, because our Arab world will always blame the girl.
We are blogging to break the silence, and to have a space of our own, away from the domination of men, but monsters like Qwaider think that they still can abuse our minds with their shit..
Thanks for saying it Out Loud.. This maybe my first time to your blog, but surely not the last
Love
Hayat
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:58 am
انا اول شي بحييكي على جرأتك في كتابة هذا الموضوع يا منى .. الي بصراحة عانيت منه قبلك واظن كتير مرقوا بنفس التجربة بس ما حدا اجته الجراءة انه يكتب الي صار معه !!
سامر اله اسلوب كتير غريب انه يشد البنت لتحكي معه على الشات وانه تزور البلوغ تبعه اكتر من مرة باليوم ..
قصتي معه بلشت من اكتر من سنة تقريبا .. لما بلشنا نحكي على الشات وكل كلامه كان بذيء وكله تلميحات جنسية ومغامرات كاذبة
اعترضت اكتر من مرة على كلامه وطريقة حديثه المتكررة عن الجنس وكنت اهرب من مواضيعه بحجة اني مشغولة.. لما انعدل شوي ورجع كلامه طبيعي رجعت علاقتي في طبيعية واعطيته رقم موبايلي!!حكى معي مرة على الموبايل كنت بالشغل وحكى كلام زي وجهه كلام ما بدل غير على انه بلا ترباية وبلا اخلاق .. انصدمت كيف طريقة كلامه على البلوغ مبين عليه ابن عيلة وناس ومتدين .. بس هو ابعد ما يكون عن الدين !!
شطبت ايميله .. شطبت البلوغ تبعه.. عملتله بلوك.. شطبته من حياتي !! هيك ناس حرام من البداية ننغز فيهم ونعطيهم وجه
وتجربتي هاي واحدة من كتير تجارب سمعتها من بنات بعرفوا سامر
وكلهم نفس النتيجة !! تعرضوا لتحرشات جنسية عن طريق الانترنت
ما عندي اشي اقوله .. غير الله يهديك يا ابن الناس .. بنات الناس مش لعبة بين ايديك .. اذا باميركا عندك الوضع طبيعي فا يا ريت تبعد عن بنات بلدك الي بصراحة متبري منك !! wtf
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:17 am
Gada3a :good: I am really sick and tired of those people, I wish to scream “ENOUGH” but I think you did it your way and that was great!!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:22 am
Dear mona,
I am sorry I am writing this with out my name, and this even shows how amazing you are.. Because you have the courage to write it all, and say it all.
what happened to you, happened to me too and to many other fellow girls’ bloggers. But unfortunately no one had the guts to talk about it, because our Arab world will always blame the girl.
We are blogging to break the silence, and to have a space of our own, away from the domination of men, but monsters like Qwaider think that they still can abuse our minds with their shit..
Thanks for saying it Out Loud.. This maybe my first time to your blog, but surely not the last
Love
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:27 am
3anjd 3anjd … bravooo :yaay: nifse ashoof sho radet fe3l hal wa7ad :animal2:
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:36 am
:good: 3an jad ya nano.. O ana kaman.. walla3at..
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 5:02 am
omg! wut a story!! i guess guys will always be guys eh!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 5:10 am
I also was raped by Qwaider.LOL
No honestly, this maybe true, I don’t know.
I can’t defend Qwaider cause I’m not a girl. Qwaider is a good friend. And I personally think that this is not an issue to blog about. I mean we are all adults here, if a man is harassing you online the best thing to do is to block him, Not give him your MSN contact or your mobile phone number.
I do not think blogging about this and taking this public is good for either of you.
I don’t need to hear about your private issues with other bloggers, spare us the details.
And for those anonymous female victims, I suggest to start a VBQ (victimized By Qwaider) club, LOL wallah emseebeh, now all enemies of Qwaider jumping on board.
I hate to write about these issues, but by writing about your own experience ( one sided story) you are manipulating other people’s view of Qwaider,and that’s not right.
Frame your own view of him, but let other do their own judging please, don’t influence their judgment.
I know I’m gonna get heat for saying my mind,but this never bothered me, bring it on.
Peace
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 5:44 am
لو انك بنت يا خالد.. واتعرضت للي صار وانحكى فوق
كنت انتهزت الفرصة لحتى تحكي شو صار معك …
بس بتضلوا !! شباب
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 6:42 am
Hmmm… I am not influencing the judgment of him. I provided evidence and that’s it.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 6:45 am
By the way guys.. I appreciate your gestures. I only wrote out this post because I wanted to speak the truth and I am fed up with the shit bloggers do. It’s sickening.
For those who wrote their comment in Arabic, I had hard time reading it. I TRIED! I think it was positive, I just need to make the words bigger so I can read it better. LOL
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 6:49 am
Palforce,
This is the only time I wrote anything about some other blogger. I know he is your friend, however I am sorry. I had my own opinion of him and I provided evidence to back up my opinion. Remember this is my blog and I share my point of view. I am not trying to convince anyone with anything. I could care less. Next time don’t judge me about this. If you don’t like what I wrote and you seem to be the only person defending him, then please don’t bother with this. I am very stubborn and I will not listen. I am just sick and tired of hypocrites on the net. So I addressed my concern. That’s all!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 7:01 am
You just have to ignore him.
He’s blaming you for everything. But he’s refusing to acknowledge how his bad behavior insulted you.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 7:08 am
Kiss Qwaider Planet goodbye for me!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 7:47 am
Gad3a ya mona…
Girls should speak up more and defend themselves if some people still think of us as cheap sex toys!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:44 am
Ok I spent the time reading every comment you guys posted. Even the ones in Arabic. I am shocked to be honest of how other girls have had the same experiences as well. It seems that he is a disgusting infection that is going on in the blog sphere and he only cares about power of his blog and how much he can control it. He even judges and redicules other social blog networks such as Palestine and Jordan blogs to be awful social tools and his to be the best. He even decides which blogs he adds to his network and he is very biased about it. He also used to read my posts and tells me to change some things that he deems inappropriate. I mean why is it any of his business what we write? Because your blog is in his social feeds does not mean he can control what we write.
I just don’t understand how people can be THAT fake.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 12:17 pm
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 12:36 pm
hi summer!!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 1:35 pm
Oh WOW! Qwaider wrote that kind of junk to you??? Shame, shame, I am SO sorry. With all these other girls it was him too, or some other guy?
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 1:42 pm
yes all those girls who commented are talking about him.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 2:06 pm
Kinzi, this is the last i expected from you. To judge with only hearing one side of the story is bias, sa7?
We only have one side of the story, and a bunch of anonymous girls. If they truley wanted to achieve social reform, they should have posted proudly with their names, and signitures! until then, I think we should treat all what is said in a skeptical manner.
And what is presented does not reflect any ill behavior on the side of Q. I can see emails written from a friend to a friend. The rest of the chats that Mona is narrating is not posted, so it remains a narrative with blurs and doubts ciculating around.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 2:09 pm
Sacratea.. I am assuming you are his friend.. I do have all the chat logs.. do you like me to post them? I have everything saved.. so please don’t say it is a one sided story when I have posted emails that he directly have written.. I provided evidence that obviously you ignored to read.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 2:22 pm
Secretea, thank you for assuming I would normally reserve judgement before hearing both sides, but his words are there. Not saying Mona misunderstood his intent, or he was joking, but that he is a “normal Arab guy”.
I wouldn’t automatically assume Mona was lying, either. I did ask if the other girls were all referring to him, or some other male. But since I work with girls that are subject to such behaviour regularly, I know I am biased toward a female victim.
I’m glad that you have a strong and pure relationship with Q.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 2:29 pm
I have tried to make friends with this Arab guy, Omani from this forum I am on and he PM’d me on my personal email. Well, he starts to ask the same things about my sexual prowness, going to visit him etc…and I told him that I would not fly half way around the world to get a piece of ass when I can get it here. I said that to point out to him that he is being desparate to want to meet someone he never seen in person for some action…of course he got offended.
There are just some guys–like the idiot who you dealt with that have a screw loose, think they are God’s gift to women
blah blah….if he bothers you again report him. He is just an immature ass who thinks his crap is better than anyone else’s. Very immature and one dimensional. Good riddance. 
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:36 pm
Kinzi:
a normal Arab guy ?? Sorry, I’m afraid I’m an Arab guy. Are you judging me ??
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:37 pm
I’m normal too. That makes ma a “normal Arab guy”
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:39 pm
Abed.. don’t worry.. a lot of these comments and reactions are due to very angered people of seeing the truth.. you may not be a normal Arab guy.. you might be a bit special..
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 3:54 pm
Dear Mona,
Since the fact that I don’t stick my nose into personal issues, I opt to say nothing. I considered the above problem to be a personal problem. I consider you a good blog buddy, and I do respect you. I also consider Qwaider as a good blog buddy, and I do respect him as well.
But a “normal Arab guy” ?? from Kinzi ?? I thought Kinzi is good mature person whom I wholeheartedly respect! That’s why I’m surprised.
And your approval of the “normal Arab guy” judgment is so disappointing, Mona. I’m a normal Arab guy, I’m not special. And It’s not a crime, and It’s not something I’m ashamed of.
Anger is not an excuse! I’m normal, and my grand father was born in Arab territories, that makes me Arab too. so ?? I thought we live in a modern world, sorry my bad.
I’m so disappointed.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:15 pm
Kinzi, what notion or meaning do you kinzi attach to a “normal Arab guy”?? so you also assume that a normal arab guy is a guy who can’t control his harmons??? Unfortunately, you are highly biased in attaching that meaning to ‘a normal Arab guy’
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:18 pm
Mona, “Sacratea.. I am assuming you are his friend”
so it is either your way or the highway?? Listen hon, you should not assume I am his or anybody’s friend for me not wanting to judge due to lack of convincing material. And when i stand for a person, i stand because i see that the conviction is not fair. That is all!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 4:22 pm
Kinzi, you are highly judgemental saying this, “I’m glad that you have a strong and pure relationship with Q.”
what do you mean?? that any female who cmments on Q’s blog will not have a pure relationship with him?? woooow how judgemental!!!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 5:01 pm
Abed Hamdan - I apologize for calling you special.. you are just an ordinary guy.
Secratea - I don’t know why you are constantly fighting with Kinzi. If you have a problem with her than email her personally or go on her blog. Don’t use my blog as your battlefield. Also I can judge whomever I want. No one dares tells me what to say or what to think. My opinions and I am sticking to them. If you think my opinion is biased and stupid then be gone and stop writing comments on this post to try to make me be neutral. Why should I be neutral and try to weight both sides? By the way, didn’t I weigh both sides and presented the evidence to your face? I don’t understand what you want me to say anymore. You want Qwaidar to post a reply to prove his point to you? Are you constantly checking his blog to see if he retaliated? Well I don’t check his blog, but people are sending me emails telling me what he wrote and it seems like it is full of rubbish because he couldn’t say anything to defend him self. If you are innocent and someone is accusing you of something then you would do anything in this world to prove them wrong. When you sit quite on the matter and not care and just write more rubbish then you know you are guilty and can’t say anything to save your life.
By the way.. what the hell did he write? People emailed me saying that he is talking about today is the last day of his life.. or something stupid like that.. please!!
Anyways.. I don’t need little attorneys or people fighting on my blog cause of this.. if you want to fight, argue with me and not each other.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 6:03 pm
isnt a blog a space to debate? how on earth do you think i am fighting with Kinzi? Kinzi is a blogger i appreciate and appreciate reading, so I want her to be careful when judging people. I never had an issue with her, and never will. Don’t think your childish way in replying will make fractions between the rest of the bloggers, cool down girl.
So, you post whatever you want, want readers, then you even want to limit readers in expressing their views? what civilized manner is this? I didn’t stop you from saying your word, so cill out and allow people to write their opinions.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 7:52 pm
Let me get this straight … you add someone to your msn and you chat with him. He goes on using sexual innuendos, but instead of simply blocking him (that is a feature on msn you know), you decide to encourage him by giving him your phone number?
If I was a single guy and I threw a couple of sexual comments during my chat/phone conversation with a girl and she rewarded me by giving me her phone number, even if you mentioned that you don’t like talking about these stuff, still we’re men, we like to think girls are playing hard to get … anyone would go on with the sexual stuff if you reward him by giving him your mobile number.
But I bow to your subtlety Mona, that was all an excellent blogging material for you, wasn’t it? I mean what’s a better way to get more traffic than to distort a reputation of one of the most acclaimed bloggers around here. Even if it’s all true Mona, you could’ve taken it offline but no, you preferred it this way so you’d look like the victim here, encouraging more anonymous female haters, who could be guys who hate Qwaider or YOU for all we know, to come out of the closet and support your thesis and make Qwaider look like the only thing he does is hunt for girls online. Excellent post Mona … Bravo … BRA-FU**NG-VO!
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 8:04 pm
I am noticing the allies have woken up.. funny.. I refuse to reply to anyone.. for secratea.. you are blocked from posting on my blog.. go share your backwards stupid opinions some where else.. you refuse to accept my opinion and call me childish.. that is how pathetic you are..
who-sane.. hmm.. I agree with you that it was my mistake to begin with.. but he wasn’t like this from the first chat.. he was weird to begin with.. but he slowly changed to his true self.. if that is his true self.. God knows.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 8:58 pm
LOL i never said one sexual thing to you on msn, and you blocked me :P
something tells me you block alot of people
:Omg:
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:00 pm
by the way, i agree with who-sane… you have nobody to blame but yourself… sure this guy is messed up for trying to hit on ya, but you just kept talk to him more and more… sounds like we are missing a big part of the story here :good:
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:02 pm
Omar I blocked you because I had no interest in talking to you, and I did the same to Qwaidar after a while. So don’t make accusations and I have told my part and the reasons.. and I said it was my mistake to begin with. Please read what I wrote and stop trying to be all clever about it.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:07 pm
theres nothing to be clever about… dont twist what you wrote. I read your blog entry, dont be arrogant and say “please read what I wrote” … I know what I read
honestly, you do this alot with your blogging. you blog one thing, and the moment somebody disagrees, you get extremely defensive. If you cant take it, then dont dish it
you cant be the mayor of the city and close the town hall - you try to bail yourself out with blogging “my blog my rules” … thats the desperate plea from every blogger when they get cornered
nice try…
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:15 pm
Omar you are Zappalo? I don’t even remember adding you to msn.. I thought you were someone else. However, like I said.. it’s my site! I noticed you don’t like me, yet you comment. And sorry, I meant to tell you to read the comments and not the entry. I did admit it was my mistake. That’s what I should have written.
Anyways, if you have a problem with me then please email me. You seem like you do.
Thursday, August 2nd 2007 at 9:23 pm
By the way Omar.. I want to explain something to you, I state my opinion, people obviously are going to disagree. No one is the same. I retaliate back obviously to defend my self, and people get furious and call me arrogant. What do you expect me to do? To just accept it. Would you? And I may be defensive, but I didn’t delete any comments. I let people say what they want, and it was my opinion in the end to accept it or not. Right? Wouldn’t you do the same. I just think you are over judging me and this whole post lost all meaning and people are just posting comments and posting that they either agree with this person or with that. It just became a mess and I am regretting it. However, today’s post I am sticking with it. In the end it is mine. Remember..
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 4:25 am
how come a whisper go as FW: “email”!!!!! to god’s know how many one got it !!
any explanation please??
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 6:16 am
hey qabbani.. i have no clue about the whisper.. it is a wordpress plugin and I just enable it.. I didn’t code it .. sorry.. plus there were only 4 ppl subscribed to this post.. and most of them signed up after you posted the whipser..
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:25 am
So how come MANY talk about my whisper!! and tells it come as FW: , i saw it !!!
i don’t even have a copy of it !!!
whisper is a privet msg to the post writer !!!
now all blame me for what i say , as am the one who did all this !!!! and make it up!!!!
this is not the first time here , or even first comment for me!!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:13 am
Qabbani.. I apologize or this.. but I had no idea wallah.. anyways if people are going to judge you and fight with you cause of what you said and it is not even your blog, then seriously they are not your friends or people you should talk to. You said what is on your mind to me and that’s it. I am keeping the whisper application, but I am removing the subscription..
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 11:59 am
wow looks like im the only guy here who doesnt know qwaider on a personal level.
but i see his comments everywhere, i find them rather lame
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 1:09 pm
Make the world a better place, punch Qwaider in the face
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 1:51 pm
I agree with “some guy”, qwaider’s comments are everywhere and they are so gay :P
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 1:54 pm
mm no offense but the emails you shared are boooooring YAWN .. post some chat logs .. lets see some of that sexual innuendo .. give us the juicy stuff lol :P
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 1:57 pm
Hello guys,
I will not discuss this matter anymore. It’s not a juicy gossip station. It’s over really. I am over it. :weird:
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 2:13 pm
Ya shamaatti feek ya Qweider
But to be fair and honest. You could have said all of this without revealing his identity.
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 2:40 pm
I know AblaTaza.. I wish I didn’t, but I was very angry and I do stupid things when I am angry.
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 3:03 pm
ya3ni ma fee juice
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 3:51 pm
LOL @ abla taza! :P :P :P
Mona, I am not surprised the least bit! some people are born sickos!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:07 pm
I have been tempted to break my silence lately thanks to a couple of posts. I commend you for taking a second look at how you are keeping your disappointment in check, thus being more careful about how you come across to readers and how the cultural frame was perceived by onlookers.
I however, see an unintended consequence, ie a bit of a loss of your energy and apologizing when you don’t have to.
I want your fire to burn bright, but channeled in way that doesn’t drive you to self-loathing, an excess of which pushed my original posting.
I almost posted again when I saw this.
Noooooooo…. I don’t want her to fizzle. She is young, bright and this is Summer. Screw the Ex. I want her to channel her fire in more useful introspection and talking more and meeting new people and going out and enjoying the good weather and partying. Being happy-er. Not turning silent and mopey.
Your work seems to benefit greatly; that is fantastic. Just please don’t worry me with the snoozy stuff.
Which brings me to the sleazy stuff…today’s loons you have to fend off.
Let me put in my word of encouragement for this bunch of idiots. Please be careful whom you give your # to.
Never mind this idiot and his defenders. He reaks of insecurity, otherwise he wouldn’t be so quick to be sexual to prove his manlihood. Nor would he be desperate for validation when you yank his links. You owe a warning to NO ONE when you decide to drop or add a link. It is your call. He is just insecure of rejection.
As for the whiners on here like:
secratea: “If they truley wanted to achieve social reform, they should have posted proudly with their names, and signitures!”
mo “post some chat logs .. lets see some of that sexual innuendo .. give us the juicy stuff lol ”
Abed “I’m a normal Arab guy, I’m not special. And It’s not a crime, and It’s not something I’m ashamed of.”
Omar “LOL i never said one sexual thing to you on msn, and you blocked me . something tells me you block alot of people ”
“by the way, i agree with who-sane… you have nobody to blame but yourself”
Who-not-so-sane: “I mean what’s a better way to get more traffic than to distort a reputation of one of the most acclaimed bloggers around here.”
Abla “But to be fair and honest. You could have said all of this without revealing his identity.”
huh?
Hey, nutjobs, how about you back off and take a breather and get a new brain while you are at it. How do you guys keep jobs with such idiotic thinking? Or are you old enough to hold one? Are you a bunch of 12 year old adolescents?
And to all the Arab guys on here that post garbage like this:
Abed “a normal Arab guy ?? Sorry, I’m afraid I’m an Arab guy. Are you judging me ??
Listen, get yourself a therapist or pay someone to slap you around a couple of times. You give all of us a bad name. For Pete’s sake, who goes around saying they are normal or asking others whether they are indeed normal? What kind of wacked out idiotic thinking is this?
Why don’t you let others determine that for themselves based on your behavior and interaction and if it isn’t, like this miscreant hounding Mona, you’ll get the message all right.
Just don’t lose it when you find out you are not.
I mean for Mona to be pushed to write this: “I apologize for calling you special.. you are just an ordinary guy.”
Yikes! These guys are pathetic!
Arabs can’t catch a break, appearently. Our own idiots can be our worst ambassadors.
Mona, please don’t mind these dopes. Just ignore, ignore ignore….and no need to post on Brainf@rt Central.
Hey, Mona, maybe instead of the “Meet Lebanese Girls” ads down on this page for those hoping to meet Hayfa’s sister, you can advertise: “Meet the Therapist” or “BootCamp to Outgrow your ManChild State”
Cheers, Mona
Keep smiling through it all…You rule!!!!!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:23 pm
Oh my God Boston Well Wisher.. As I was reading it I was cracking up. I was surprised my self by people’s comments. At times I felt bad and thought that maybe I should apologize and I thought I crossed the line, but they made it worse by posting ridiculous comments. I have a really bad temper and I couldn’t control it. I mean I was at work and I just kept getting email after another of comments to this post of people who are either angry or extremely happy. I just lost focus and spent the day retaliating. I was amazed by some people’s responses. It was also a bit shocking. And like I said, it was my mistake to begin with, but I ended it and I talked about it by proving my point. That was my intention. I didn’t want to make a big deal or make my site popular cause of it. I just stated my view point. However over 55 comments later I wonder really how Arabs think now a days. Are they thinking logically from their brains or using a backwards mentality of “this is my friend how can you say that shit about him, let’s gang up on her and trash her.” Unfortunately, they didn’t know who they were messing with.
So pathetic.. I regret writing this post just to witness the stupidity of some Arabs out there.
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:31 pm
Mona is smiling !!! :P
:mrgreen: :yaay:
And your ‘friend’ must be
or maybe doing something not so kosher online with one of his many many many GFs 
Hey, Have a great weekend!!!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:33 pm
Also Boston Well Wisher, the adds on the side bar are google adds.. I don’t control them. They just come up based on content of the site. Since the name of the site contains “Arab girl”, then that’s the type of content google will grab for advertisement. I wish I had more control really.
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:34 pm
Boston Well wisher.. this looser online is actually browsing my site right now.. I have an IP spy tracker and it caught him a few times today reading my blog and the comments.
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:50 pm
Damn 62 comments! :o
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 7:53 pm
yah.. did you read them all.. around the 25th comment or so.. around there maybe, people started acting stupid..
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:04 pm
“Also Boston Well Wisher, the adds on the side bar are google adds.. I don’t control them. They just come up based on content of the site. Since the name of the site contains “Arab girl”, then that’s the type of content google will grab for advertisement. I wish I had more control really.”
Of Course….’was just being facetious.
It’s Google, what do you expect. No control for you, all the control for them. They stink!
Also, I am sure you know what color socks I am wearing now thanks to your superior techie skills.(*) That’s why you won’t ’see’ me here after 12 AM Midnight. I wouldn’t want you to ’see’ me in silly pajamas with printed puppies all over. haaaaaaaa Kiddin’ actually, at night I don’t weaaaa…ahh ok, never mind.
Hey, come to think of it, maybe you should ‘move’ to Calif and work with Google. They’re now in the snooping biz. “Google, Snooping is Us” “Google, ‘Search’ is so yesterday”
(sigh…back to making my dogs’ dinner)
Ciao
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:13 pm
hahaha Boston Well Wisher.. you really crack me up!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:14 pm
I’ll keep refreshing the page, by the way so you maximize on the 0.0000015 dollars Google is so generous to give us, lowly common subjects.
One more thing. I should let everyone know what the asterix is for: Mona’s answer is: ” None. You are not wearing any socks.”
Somehow, I still keep coming back even at the risk of abdicating my privacy….Mona peering at me at 2 in the morning. Something not to scary about that….Maybe she can use the friendly chat…talk all that annoys her…maybe that’s why she rushed to trust a jerk to begin with…which brings us to this post…and to by noooow comment #369…ooops sorry, we said NO INNUENDO, so we are going to skip a few numbers at times so we’ll label this one numberrrrrrrr 370. Here we go. Fixed!
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:15 pm
Yeah, I crack you up and pretty soon, my dogs are gonna eat ME up! Gotta run….
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:26 pm
lol.. ok stop.. loool I have a post to write.. I got other things on my mind that are bothering me..
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 8:43 pm
DAMN! 69 comments now I’m exhausted…I need a cake
Friday, August 3rd 2007 at 10:25 pm
And since it is thanks to me that you are alerted to such milestone celebration, I’ll get me a :food1: of your darn cake. Now, you can have your cake, and [I] will eat it too.
Have a good weekend, guy -and gals.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 5:52 am
wow, 71 comments and counting, is that your most discussed post Mona? Did it help with the ad clicks? There, I clicked on both your ads.
What I find very surprising, and pathetic, is how you whine how people judge you all the time, yet when someone judges me, and all the other people who had the audacity to disagree with your post, you quickly rush to agree with them and join them in judging us. Take a good look at your comments and how you’ve been judging people by a comment or two they left on this post.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 7:53 am
Who-sane - stop posting on my blog and proving how pathetic you are.. you are banned.. I am tired of hypocrites like you who only make assumptions about others. It’s my fucking blog.. if you don’t like it, if you have a problem with it, then go fuck your self.. I am tired of you.. you are banned for being an idiot. Anyone else want to join the ban list? Keep posting.. I will not delete any comments. Just save it as historical evidence of how idiotic you people are.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 9:06 am
i’m reading this post and it’s replies and i’m thinking
holy flying chunks of crap! this is unbelievable!
well, i guess the important thing that it’s in your past, whose who have shared your experience feel a bit relieved that someone has the guts to say it out loud. as for himself, well, i’m sure he’s got enough to worry about right now!
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 10:21 am
Well, Qwaider tried to make my life hell once, he got into discussion and instead of talking about the subject he went personal and started making fun of me.
http://moeys.net/2006/08/04/jordanians-stop-the-boycott-crap-it-doesnt-freakin-fuckin-work/
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 10:54 am
This is getting more pathetic by the minute.
SOmeone needs a hug, a mommy hug!
Who-whatever, how much money do you think she makes out of this blog? Next to zilch? What is she using this sudden popularity for? The woman works for her money, she earns it the old-fashioned way; by sweat. Get back under your rock and get a life please.
This loser lost a friend, not a big deal, get over it and move on. Plenty other people left on this planet. Stop embarrassing yourselves and others with you, puh-leeeez.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 10:56 am
Moey I read the comments in that post.. I am sorry you had to endure it.. even you are a guy and he messes with you.. that’s sad..
BostonWellWisher.. just forget it.. don’t worry about him.. he embarrassed him self enough for the past couple of days.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 12:28 pm
Everybody…be nice to Mona and she will be nice to you.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 2:07 pm
So before I talk about the other idiot a quick message to who-sane, if your whole world revolves around how many clicks you get just keep in mind that some of us actually have real lives and and they don’t drool over clicks. As for that idiot “the Q phenomenon HAHAHHAHA” as he called himself in an entry written on his blog supposedly by someone else (yeah right), it is very clear from his blog that he is the kind of guy who was never popular at school or college and he did not stand out even academically, the blogosphere actually gave him the chance all losers get to pretend that he is someone else, being the psycho he is he did not stick to one personality but adopted too many, some of the personalities even now have their own blogs and many are active commenters on his blog and other blogs.
I just can’t understand how you and other girls would talk to this scum in the first place, this guy once went to a night club in jordan seeking attention which he did not get even there so how come you never saw that coming.
Any e-friends of the despicable character mentioned above who might argue where do I get my info from, it is all in his blog you look for it if you want.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 2:13 pm
*shocked* 8O
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 3:22 pm
I have discovered that a lot of those people who posted on this particular post are really one person masking his IP address and using various IP’s (using proxy servers) and posting as different person with different blogs.
Welcome to the world of technology.. lots of people abusing their work position and knowledge of the computer world to satisfy them selves in silly arguments.
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 5:09 pm
I have to say, I have read many shallow posts before by shallow people, but this tops all of them! And before you Ban me from your “kingdom” of bratz(coming soon) I just want to say that teenage is now extended. I remember once how you got upset by some of us just for disagreeing with you, and what do you do when you disagree: You block someone!
Do you know that Q can sue you for this? And a piece of advice: When you have some issues with someone you talk about it privately, this what we call in the arab world “manners” which maybe is a foreign term for some of you out there..
Saturday, August 4th 2007 at 8:45 pm
loool..
Another ally.. sue me for what exactly?? What did I say? Wasn’t it the truth?
I wonder how Bush feels with all his haters.. I bet he goes from blog to another and sues them one by one.
Oh wait.. I forget to mention that there is a free speech law in North America.. Plus I don’t live in the same country as he.. so he can sue me all he wants.. lol
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 2:30 am
sorry i dropped in from a link on one of the blogs i read but my oh my, all that happened?
i would have liked to sympathize with u rebellious arab girl but ur rather bitchy attitude makes it impossible to support u in any way. u brought it on to ur self & should bear the consequences of ur stupidity. OMG the more i read ur comments the more i hate u.
theres a big difference between defamation and freedom of speech, but its obvious to every1 here that ur too dim witted to notice that which might get u in deep poop for all this foolish deed.
finally id like to suggest removing the word arab from ur nickname because by that ur only giving arabs a bad name, shame on you for doing that.
apologies if my 1st comment is a nasty 1 but ppl like u just make me wanna throw up
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 8:57 am
. 8O
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 9:01 am
It’s funny how all of you drop from the sky and come to this particular post.
As for you Gypsy Girl, you can say whatever you like. You can hate me for whatever you like. In the end, as you claim to be and what we say in Arabic, you are part of the “NAWAR”.. because inty nooreyeh wa jayeh et2ooly lel 3alam into mish 3arab.. shoofi 7alek.. inty men el NAWAR.
By the way.. I don’t know who you are or how you got here, but I am glad you don’t like me. I don’t have to see you here again commenting with all stupidity.
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 9:45 am
Reading all these nasty comments written by Arabs makes me think MOST Arabs are…basically hateful.
If Mona is the worst that the Arab world has to offer in terms of morals or manners then I’d rather stick to the likes of her, since most Arabs molest their children or allow others to molest them.
http://www.psychohistory.com/htm/eln03_terrorism.html
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 10:57 am
Mona,
i am not commenting on ur post, but rather on how u handled it, regardless if it REALLY happend or not…i have Two Words for u….
GROW UP!
and other who rushed in to add gas on fire, if there was a fire….
GET A LIFE!
peace to all…
Sunday, August 5th 2007 at 11:01 am
Afaf.. why you here? aren’t you an active commenter to Sam’s blog.. I think you need to stay there or he will get offended by you being here.
have a nice day..