This blogger is an ass hole
Ladies and gentleman. I have an announcement to make about a particular blogger. I will tell you a story first. This blogger has made a social network for Arab bloggers and he added me to it without my knowledge. I appreciated the gesture and I kept up with his blog as well and became an active commenter on his blog. I actually liked his blog and I found him a very educated person who has very interesting thoughts. He seemed from his writing as an intellectual with a lot of knowledge of various subjects. I wanted to talk to him more. It was my choice. I am very open and I love talking to people that interest me as human beings. So I added him to msn and I started the chats.
When I talked to him, he was a completely different person. He turned 180 degrees from his writing style to this horny guy who only used sexual innuendos. At times he would suggest that I should go over to his city and maybe try to get a job. I told him why would I go alone to this city? I am not even American and I have no interest in doing so. I just found it odd. He then kept telling me more and more about his girlfriends and his sexual experiences with them like it was an ordinary every day matter to him. I kept asking him and wondering why is he so fake in his writing in his blog. Why can’t he be him self?
After a while, I just lost interest in talking to him. Last time I talked to him, all I said was hello and then he started using sexual connotations that only a low class guy would say. I was fed up, and I said change the subject or else. So I did and I tried to talk to him about another subject matter that was more serious and he said, “who do you think I am? your boyfriend?”
That’s when I blocked him off msn. From my disgust I removed the link to his social Arab blog network and to his personal blog too. I just removed him and I never talked to him again.
This was 2 months ago….
Last week, he posted a messaged on my blog which I pretty much didn’t bother to answer properly. I didn’t delete it because I like to give visitors the freedom of expression. The same day, I get a phone call to my cell phone and I didn’t know whose number that was since I removed his number from my address book. He leaves me a message saying, “why have you removed my blog links from your blog?” I was surprised that someone would go to that extreme to call me and ask me that question. In my case I didn’t know who it was first. I was like who has my number? Was it my EX? Was he off somewhere on a business trip and calling me? I had to hear 3 more times to understand the message and make sure I am hearing it right. Remove link? I was like who is this? It’s not my EX. He doesn’t have a blog. So I used my trusty google friend and looked up the area code. It was Washington state.
I was like Aaah. It’s Sam from Qwaider planet.
I then got an email 2 hours later from him.
Qwaider <xxx@xxxx> Jul 27 (5 days ago)
to “Mona <xxxx>
date Jul 27, 2007 7:21 PM
subject Mona, you owe me an explanationI tried everything, even calling you
And I heard absolutely nothing back from you. All I’m asking to to know what’s wrong. Did I piss you off or something? Did I upset you? What is going on!!?You can just reply to me and say whatever you want, you could do it in a civilized way. I would have done that to you!
Anyway, if you have something to say, I’m all ears, and if I made any mistakes I’m willing to apologize. But I would really want to know why! I’m not asking much
I called, and tried to get in touch because I thought we were friends.
I read it and I was like, should I ignore or tell him the truth? I just found it odd that after two months of me not talking to him he would notice this.
So I replied back,
Mona xxxx <xxxx@xxx.com> Jul 27 (5 days ago)
to Qwaider <xxxxx@xxx.com>
date Jul 27, 2007 7:58 PM
subject Re: Mona, you owe me an explanationHello Samer,
It’s funny that now you bother.. I have removed you from my blog like 2 months ago. I just find it funny that now you realized it. Didn’t you notice that I don’t post on your blog and I don’t chat or talk to you? I’m sorry to ask this, but are you a bit slow? Really.. I was surprised you called you or bothered. I just found it very odd to see that NOW it bothered you.
Anyways, the reason I removed you because I can never ever have a normal conversation with you. Every time I talk to you, you use sexual innuendos and act like a savage horny animal. It was getting boring and I was totally fed up with it. I wasn’t able to say hello, how are you without you throwing in some stupid comment. And when I tried to have a serious conversation with you, you would reply to me saying, “who am I your boyfriend?” Which I thought was completely pathetic and uncalled for. You treat me like I am nothing and think I am one of those stupid Arab girl who just want to chat with a guy for fun..
To me it was not the case and I just wanted to have friendly conversation with other human beings on this earth!
If you want to remove me from your social rss feeds I don’t care. That’s your choice. I blog for my self and to interact with people. That’s all. I don’t take it THAT seriously.
Thank you,
Have a nice day
-Mona
He replied back after that and said,
Qwaider <xxxx@xxx.com> Jul 28 (4 days ago)
to Mona <xxx@xxx.com>
date Jul 28, 2007 12:09 AM
subject RE: Mona, you owe me an explanationYeah, I am slow. I don’t go around looking who has me, and who removed me and all that good stuff.
Your action was uncalled for but, it’s completely up to you what you decide in your life.. A little notice to other parties would really be polite and helpfulAnyway, as you have probably noticed, I didn’t pay attention because … well, I’ll leave that to myself.. Instead of saying something smartass
Good luck, have a wonderful life as for other community services I provide. Don’t worry, I don’t let personal judgment get in the way.
I might be a typical arabic guy in many things, but I think few things about me are different.
Again, thank you for taking the time to respond back to my email . I wish you good luck .. And I assure you I won’t be bothering you again
I ended it there, I didn’t bother and I didn’t want to make a big deal. Life moves on. Right?
So I am a loyal reader of Moey’s blog. I love reading and I comment whenever I feel that I have something to say. It’s an interesting blog and I enjoy reading his thoughts.
So Moey had a problem with some people and posted this blog entry.
I didn’t read people’s comments. I just see if the blog owner has replied to me, and that’s it. Today I read Moey’s post to reply to some blog visitors and I saw Qwaider’s comment and Moey replying, “some people do not understand… what can I do?”
So I read Qwaider’s comment carefully and I was like wtf. He didn’t mention me or anything, but it was like a smack in the face and it was like indirectly written to me and he knew I read Moey’s blog. It was like he was thinking that “I will tell you off and make sure you read this.” This is what Mr. Qwaider wrote:
Qwaider
Take it easy my friend. Rest assured, many people (my self included) love you the way you are. And would never judge you. No body’s worth it. People who think that removing a friend off their blogroll is their way of punishment make me really laugh at how juvenile their way of thinking is. It’s like this, one day you have someone on your blogroll because you like their ideas. Then something happens, and now you just hate everything about them?! LOL
So I decided to write this post. I don’t care if it was directed towards me or anything, but his thoughts and ideas were completely stupid and he needed someone to tell him off. I knew exactly what it meant. And I just needed him to push my buttons to address this issue. To show everyone that people who are bloggers are fake and they write a bunch of crap in their blog about anything to get hits and visitors. It gives them the power of popularity that they are craving. Although they write non sense and about any subject to be diverse and having their friends comment. Yet us real bloggers who post about every day life and our inner thoughts and problems and even things we like get humiliated and ridiculed. They don’t care who they hurt and they don’t care what they say. As long as they get the satisfaction of gaining more visitors. I mean how many posts did Qwaider have in the past few months about the site visitors and the popularity of his blog and social blog network? It’s like his inner most satisfaction is the HITS he gets to his site.
Anyways, thanks for wasting my time posting this crappy post. I just needed to vent because someone had to tell the TRUTH of this hypocrite.
Updated: August 7th, 2007 – I am turning off the comments to this post. No one will be allowed to comment anymore. I stopped replying and I said I will no longer bother with this post. It is history. So get over it people!
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انا اول شي بØييكي على جرأتك ÙÙŠ كتابة هذا الموضوع يا منى .. الي بصراØØ© عانيت منه قبلك واظن كتير مرقوا بنÙس التجربة بس ما Øدا اجته الجراءة انه يكتب الي صار معه !!
سامر اله اسلوب كتير غريب انه يشد البنت لتØكي معه على الشات وانه تزور البلوغ تبعه اكتر من مرة باليوم ..
قصتي معه بلشت من اكتر من سنة تقريبا .. لما بلشنا Ù†Øكي على الشات وكل كلامه كان بذيء وكله تلميØات جنسية ومغامرات كاذبة
اعترضت اكتر من مرة على كلامه وطريقة Øديثه المتكررة عن الجنس وكنت اهرب من مواضيعه بØجة اني مشغولة.. لما انعدل شوي ورجع كلامه طبيعي رجعت علاقتي ÙÙŠ طبيعية واعطيته رقم موبايلي!!Øكى معي مرة على الموبايل كنت بالشغل ÙˆØكى كلام زي وجهه كلام ما بدل غير على انه بلا ترباية وبلا اخلاق .. انصدمت كي٠طريقة كلامه على البلوغ مبين عليه ابن عيلة وناس ومتدين .. بس هو ابعد ما يكون عن الدين !!
شطبت ايميله .. شطبت البلوغ تبعه.. عملتله بلوك.. شطبته من Øياتي !! هيك ناس Øرام من البداية ننغز Ùيهم ونعطيهم وجه
وتجربتي هاي واØدة من كتير تجارب سمعتها من بنات بعرÙوا سامر
وكلهم Ù†Ùس النتيجة !! تعرضوا لتØرشات جنسية عن طريق الانترنت
ما عندي اشي اقوله .. غير الله يهديك يا ابن الناس .. بنات الناس مش لعبة بين ايديك .. اذا باميركا عندك الوضع طبيعي Ùا يا ريت تبعد عن بنات بلدك الي بصراØØ© متبري منك !! wtf
Gada3a :good: I am really sick and tired of those people, I wish to scream “ENOUGH” but I think you did it your way and that was great!!
Dear mona,
I am sorry I am writing this with out my name, and this even shows how amazing you are.. Because you have the courage to write it all, and say it all.
what happened to you, happened to me too and to many other fellow girls’ bloggers. But unfortunately no one had the guts to talk about it, because our Arab world will always blame the girl.
We are blogging to break the silence, and to have a space of our own, away from the domination of men, but monsters like Qwaider think that they still can abuse our minds with their shit..
Thanks for saying it Out Loud.. This maybe my first time to your blog, but surely not the last
Love
3anjd 3anjd … bravooo :yaay: nifse ashoof sho radet fe3l hal wa7ad :animal2:
:good: 3an jad ya nano.. O ana kaman.. walla3at..
omg! wut a story!! i guess guys will always be guys eh!
I also was raped by Qwaider.LOL
No honestly, this maybe true, I don’t know.
I can’t defend Qwaider cause I’m not a girl. Qwaider is a good friend. And I personally think that this is not an issue to blog about. I mean we are all adults here, if a man is harassing you online the best thing to do is to block him, Not give him your MSN contact or your mobile phone number.
I do not think blogging about this and taking this public is good for either of you.
I don’t need to hear about your private issues with other bloggers, spare us the details.
And for those anonymous female victims, I suggest to start a VBQ (victimized By Qwaider) club, LOL wallah emseebeh, now all enemies of Qwaider jumping on board.
I hate to write about these issues, but by writing about your own experience ( one sided story) you are manipulating other people’s view of Qwaider,and that’s not right.
Frame your own view of him, but let other do their own judging please, don’t influence their judgment.
I know I’m gonna get heat for saying my mind,but this never bothered me, bring it on.
Peace
لو انك بنت يا خالد.. واتعرضت للي صار وانØكى Ùوق
كنت انتهزت الÙرصة Ù„Øتى تØكي شو صار معك …
بس بتضلوا !! شباب
Hmmm… I am not influencing the judgment of him. I provided evidence and that’s it.
By the way guys.. I appreciate your gestures. I only wrote out this post because I wanted to speak the truth and I am fed up with the shit bloggers do. It’s sickening.
For those who wrote their comment in Arabic, I had hard time reading it. I TRIED! I think it was positive, I just need to make the words bigger so I can read it better. LOL
Palforce,
This is the only time I wrote anything about some other blogger. I know he is your friend, however I am sorry. I had my own opinion of him and I provided evidence to back up my opinion. Remember this is my blog and I share my point of view. I am not trying to convince anyone with anything. I could care less. Next time don’t judge me about this. If you don’t like what I wrote and you seem to be the only person defending him, then please don’t bother with this. I am very stubborn and I will not listen. I am just sick and tired of hypocrites on the net. So I addressed my concern. That’s all!
You just have to ignore him.
He’s blaming you for everything. But he’s refusing to acknowledge how his bad behavior insulted you.
Kiss Qwaider Planet goodbye for me!
Gad3a ya mona…
Girls should speak up more and defend themselves if some people still think of us as cheap sex toys!
Ok I spent the time reading every comment you guys posted. Even the ones in Arabic. I am shocked to be honest of how other girls have had the same experiences as well. It seems that he is a disgusting infection that is going on in the blog sphere and he only cares about power of his blog and how much he can control it. He even judges and redicules other social blog networks such as Palestine and Jordan blogs to be awful social tools and his to be the best. He even decides which blogs he adds to his network and he is very biased about it. He also used to read my posts and tells me to change some things that he deems inappropriate. I mean why is it any of his business what we write? Because your blog is in his social feeds does not mean he can control what we write.
I just don’t understand how people can be THAT fake.
hi summer!!
Oh WOW! Qwaider wrote that kind of junk to you??? Shame, shame, I am SO sorry. With all these other girls it was him too, or some other guy?
yes all those girls who commented are talking about him.
Kinzi, this is the last i expected from you. To judge with only hearing one side of the story is bias, sa7?
We only have one side of the story, and a bunch of anonymous girls. If they truley wanted to achieve social reform, they should have posted proudly with their names, and signitures! until then, I think we should treat all what is said in a skeptical manner.
And what is presented does not reflect any ill behavior on the side of Q. I can see emails written from a friend to a friend. The rest of the chats that Mona is narrating is not posted, so it remains a narrative with blurs and doubts ciculating around.
Sacratea.. I am assuming you are his friend.. I do have all the chat logs.. do you like me to post them? I have everything saved.. so please don’t say it is a one sided story when I have posted emails that he directly have written.. I provided evidence that obviously you ignored to read.
Secretea, thank you for assuming I would normally reserve judgement before hearing both sides, but his words are there. Not saying Mona misunderstood his intent, or he was joking, but that he is a “normal Arab guy”.
I wouldn’t automatically assume Mona was lying, either. I did ask if the other girls were all referring to him, or some other male. But since I work with girls that are subject to such behaviour regularly, I know I am biased toward a female victim.
I’m glad that you have a strong and pure relationship with Q.
I have tried to make friends with this Arab guy, Omani from this forum I am on and he PM’d me on my personal email. Well, he starts to ask the same things about my sexual prowness, going to visit him etc…and I told him that I would not fly half way around the world to get a piece of ass when I can get it here. I said that to point out to him that he is being desparate to want to meet someone he never seen in person for some action…of course he got offended.
There are just some guys–like the idiot who you dealt with that have a screw loose, think they are God’s gift to women :lmao: blah blah….if he bothers you again report him. He is just an immature ass who thinks his crap is better than anyone else’s. Very immature and one dimensional. Good riddance.
Kinzi:
a normal Arab guy ?? Sorry, I’m afraid I’m an Arab guy. Are you judging me ??
I’m normal too. That makes ma a “normal Arab guy”
Abed.. don’t worry.. a lot of these comments and reactions are due to very angered people of seeing the truth.. you may not be a normal Arab guy.. you might be a bit special..
Dear Mona,
Since the fact that I don’t stick my nose into personal issues, I opt to say nothing. I considered the above problem to be a personal problem. I consider you a good blog buddy, and I do respect you. I also consider Qwaider as a good blog buddy, and I do respect him as well.
But a “normal Arab guy” ?? from Kinzi ?? I thought Kinzi is good mature person whom I wholeheartedly respect! That’s why I’m surprised.
And your approval of the “normal Arab guy” judgment is so disappointing, Mona. I’m a normal Arab guy, I’m not special. And It’s not a crime, and It’s not something I’m ashamed of.
Anger is not an excuse! I’m normal, and my grand father was born in Arab territories, that makes me Arab too. so ?? I thought we live in a modern world, sorry my bad.
I’m so disappointed.
Kinzi, what notion or meaning do you kinzi attach to a “normal Arab guy”?? so you also assume that a normal arab guy is a guy who can’t control his harmons??? Unfortunately, you are highly biased in attaching that meaning to ‘a normal Arab guy’
Mona, “Sacratea.. I am assuming you are his friend”
so it is either your way or the highway?? Listen hon, you should not assume I am his or anybody’s friend for me not wanting to judge due to lack of convincing material. And when i stand for a person, i stand because i see that the conviction is not fair. That is all!
Kinzi, you are highly judgemental saying this, “I’m glad that you have a strong and pure relationship with Q.”
what do you mean?? that any female who cmments on Q’s blog will not have a pure relationship with him?? woooow how judgemental!!!
Abed Hamdan – I apologize for calling you special.. you are just an ordinary guy.
Secratea – I don’t know why you are constantly fighting with Kinzi. If you have a problem with her than email her personally or go on her blog. Don’t use my blog as your battlefield. Also I can judge whomever I want. No one dares tells me what to say or what to think. My opinions and I am sticking to them. If you think my opinion is biased and stupid then be gone and stop writing comments on this post to try to make me be neutral. Why should I be neutral and try to weight both sides? By the way, didn’t I weigh both sides and presented the evidence to your face? I don’t understand what you want me to say anymore. You want Qwaidar to post a reply to prove his point to you? Are you constantly checking his blog to see if he retaliated? Well I don’t check his blog, but people are sending me emails telling me what he wrote and it seems like it is full of rubbish because he couldn’t say anything to defend him self. If you are innocent and someone is accusing you of something then you would do anything in this world to prove them wrong. When you sit quite on the matter and not care and just write more rubbish then you know you are guilty and can’t say anything to save your life.
By the way.. what the hell did he write? People emailed me saying that he is talking about today is the last day of his life.. or something stupid like that.. please!!
Anyways.. I don’t need little attorneys or people fighting on my blog cause of this.. if you want to fight, argue with me and not each other.
isnt a blog a space to debate? how on earth do you think i am fighting with Kinzi? Kinzi is a blogger i appreciate and appreciate reading, so I want her to be careful when judging people. I never had an issue with her, and never will. Don’t think your childish way in replying will make fractions between the rest of the bloggers, cool down girl.
So, you post whatever you want, want readers, then you even want to limit readers in expressing their views? what civilized manner is this? I didn’t stop you from saying your word, so cill out and allow people to write their opinions.
Let me get this straight … you add someone to your msn and you chat with him. He goes on using sexual innuendos, but instead of simply blocking him (that is a feature on msn you know), you decide to encourage him by giving him your phone number?
If I was a single guy and I threw a couple of sexual comments during my chat/phone conversation with a girl and she rewarded me by giving me her phone number, even if you mentioned that you don’t like talking about these stuff, still we’re men, we like to think girls are playing hard to get … anyone would go on with the sexual stuff if you reward him by giving him your mobile number.
But I bow to your subtlety Mona, that was all an excellent blogging material for you, wasn’t it? I mean what’s a better way to get more traffic than to distort a reputation of one of the most acclaimed bloggers around here. Even if it’s all true Mona, you could’ve taken it offline but no, you preferred it this way so you’d look like the victim here, encouraging more anonymous female haters, who could be guys who hate Qwaider or YOU for all we know, to come out of the closet and support your thesis and make Qwaider look like the only thing he does is hunt for girls online. Excellent post Mona … Bravo … BRA-FU**NG-VO!
I am noticing the allies have woken up.. funny.. I refuse to reply to anyone.. for secratea.. you are blocked from posting on my blog.. go share your backwards stupid opinions some where else.. you refuse to accept my opinion and call me childish.. that is how pathetic you are..
who-sane.. hmm.. I agree with you that it was my mistake to begin with.. but he wasn’t like this from the first chat.. he was weird to begin with.. but he slowly changed to his true self.. if that is his true self.. God knows.
LOL i never said one sexual thing to you on msn, and you blocked me
something tells me you block alot of people
:Omg:
by the way, i agree with who-sane… you have nobody to blame but yourself… sure this guy is messed up for trying to hit on ya, but you just kept talk to him more and more… sounds like we are missing a big part of the story here :good:
Omar I blocked you because I had no interest in talking to you, and I did the same to Qwaidar after a while. So don’t make accusations and I have told my part and the reasons.. and I said it was my mistake to begin with. Please read what I wrote and stop trying to be all clever about it.
theres nothing to be clever about… dont twist what you wrote. I read your blog entry, dont be arrogant and say “please read what I wrote” … I know what I read
honestly, you do this alot with your blogging. you blog one thing, and the moment somebody disagrees, you get extremely defensive. If you cant take it, then dont dish it
you cant be the mayor of the city and close the town hall – you try to bail yourself out with blogging “my blog my rules” … thats the desperate plea from every blogger when they get cornered
nice try…
Omar you are Zappalo? I don’t even remember adding you to msn.. I thought you were someone else. However, like I said.. it’s my site! I noticed you don’t like me, yet you comment. And sorry, I meant to tell you to read the comments and not the entry. I did admit it was my mistake. That’s what I should have written.
Anyways, if you have a problem with me then please email me. You seem like you do.
By the way Omar.. I want to explain something to you, I state my opinion, people obviously are going to disagree. No one is the same. I retaliate back obviously to defend my self, and people get furious and call me arrogant. What do you expect me to do? To just accept it. Would you? And I may be defensive, but I didn’t delete any comments. I let people say what they want, and it was my opinion in the end to accept it or not. Right? Wouldn’t you do the same. I just think you are over judging me and this whole post lost all meaning and people are just posting comments and posting that they either agree with this person or with that. It just became a mess and I am regretting it. However, today’s post I am sticking with it. In the end it is mine. Remember..
how come a whisper go as FW: “email”!!!!! to god’s know how many one got it !!
any explanation please??
hey qabbani.. i have no clue about the whisper.. it is a wordpress plugin and I just enable it.. I didn’t code it .. sorry.. plus there were only 4 ppl subscribed to this post.. and most of them signed up after you posted the whipser..
So how come MANY talk about my whisper!! and tells it come as FW: , i saw it !!!
i don’t even have a copy of it !!!
whisper is a privet msg to the post writer !!!
now all blame me for what i say , as am the one who did all this !!!! and make it up!!!!
this is not the first time here , or even first comment for me!!
Qabbani.. I apologize or this.. but I had no idea wallah.. anyways if people are going to judge you and fight with you cause of what you said and it is not even your blog, then seriously they are not your friends or people you should talk to. You said what is on your mind to me and that’s it. I am keeping the whisper application, but I am removing the subscription..
wow looks like im the only guy here who doesnt know qwaider on a personal level.
but i see his comments everywhere, i find them rather lame
Make the world a better place, punch Qwaider in the face
I agree with “some guy”, qwaider’s comments are everywhere and they are so gay
mm no offense but the emails you shared are boooooring YAWN .. post some chat logs .. lets see some of that sexual innuendo .. give us the juicy stuff lol