I am not going to generalize an entire population of Arab girls in any way, or try to explain things that are not already obvious to most of us. To some this may seem like a shock, and to others it is as normal as seeing a girl and guy make out in front of them at the bus stop.
So I repeat, I am not generalizing or speaking about a selected group of Arabic girls who supposedly come from an Muslim family and have extremely religious families.
I will explain first the concept about being an Arab Muslim girl. We do not live under a man’s rule. We are not forced to do anything we do not please. I am sorry the Western media shows our culture to be prejudice against women. On the contrary, our culture requires women to be equal to a man, work, raise family, and back in the old days, women fought side by side to a man in wars. Women are supposed to be chaste before marriage, and so are MEN. Like I said, the equality of both genders in all their actions and life style is a must. That’s how an Arabic Muslim society is. So I am done explaining the truth about our culture.
So I hear stories about Arab girls and guys, drinking, the sex, the clubs, the drugs. It is all stories that circulate between the community. It is more of sinful gossip you hear. It is shocking to the ear, however, it is not something most of us believe. Most of us think, “that’s just absurd!” Or, “Haven’t their parents raised them and taught them anything?” Or, “No way, her/his mom is extremely religious and went to Hajj (pilgirimage to Mecca).” Or, “Look what the Western world done to them!” And so on. Lots of excuses and rubbish that is heard between the community. No one believes it, and no one knows the truth. No one really speaks of it nor a girl or guy brag about it to their friends. It is a hush hush situation.
Maybe I am just getting too old. Back in the old days when I was 18 or 19. I heard this crap. I never believed it. It was just absurd for a girl to have a boyfriend. If a girl did, it would be a guy she was eventually going to marry. That’s how girls and guys meet. It was a rebellion of the late 90′s early 2000′s. A girl and guy did not want an arranged marriage. They wanted things to be done their way and for them to meet their life partner.
Simple. Understandable, fair, and makes sense. (Simple and innocent love story that ended in marriage.)
However, as time passed, I kept hearing more direct rumors. I am sorry, not direct. I hear it from Arab girl’s mouths!
One time I was sitting with a Lebanese girl who had a guy she liked studying in Toronto. (200 km from my city.) This girl was extremely pretty and guys here were dying to have her as a girlfriend. I was sitting there, and another Palestinian girl passed by. She didn’t even go to the University, but her Sudanese boyfriend did. She was talking to my friend, and was explaining her boyfriend situation. The Lebanese girl had extreme fear of marriage and didn’t want to sleep with the guy and didn’t want to get married till she was 28 or 29. (Fear of men?) Anyways, the Palestinian girl was in shock.. She said, “what? you don’t sleep with him. It’s normal. Just take birth control pills like me.”
The Lebanese girl’s mouth fell open and so did mine. What the fuck did we just hear?
This was about 6 years ago.
So now I guess things changed. It has become a non-hush or secretive thing. It became an every day thing you hear. Not a rumor, not a secret sinful thing to hear, no no. It was words coming straight out of a girl’s mouth.
One Arab guy said to another friend of his, “Why should I marry this girl? Who would come to our wedding? She slept with all my friends. Who would I invite then?”
Since the Arab community is very close and everyone seems to know everyone else. Arab girls no longer found interest in Arab guys. (They had enough of them.)
So I heard more interesting stories. Since the stories are permeating a lot quicker, and things are more clear out in the open, Arab girls decided that since they are not virgins, no one really wants them from their community, they would find someone else. Yes, I swear to God I am not lying. It has become a desperate measure for them to find “any” guy. Just so they will always have that feeling that they are desired physically and loved by “any” guy.
Disgusting? Yes. Absurd and ridiculous? Yes. Shameful? Yes.
So what the hell happened to our morals, religion and culture? I guess that’s what the Western media tried to really explain. “Arab women are enslaved by men that they are not respected.” Maybe, it is just those women who fucken do not know how to earn that RESPECT!
God it sucks being an Arab girl. Just hearing stories of this crap makes me sick to my stomach and fearful of what our society has become.