Your family, my family
I was talking to a friend and she kept complaining to me about the way her parents treat her. She comes from a very well off family. As in rich. Yet, she works and barely earns a 1000 dollars a month. Maybe less, depends on her work hours. However, when she asks her parents for money (5 dollars), they tell her “no, don’t you work?” I was dumbfounded when she was telling me the story. My family is completely the opposite. Even when we had nothing, my parents will ask me if I wanted anything.
Till this day, as a 26 year old girl with a job, my parents still ask me if I want money. Sometimes I ask my mom for a Toonie or 5 dollars because I want coffee in the morning and I didn’t have change on me. My dad would over hear the conversation and says, “give her 20!” Then he says, “I can go get you cash if your mom doesn’t have any.” I am like wow wow.. back off. I just want some change. My parents never question what I do with my money or why I ask for money. My mom knows I like shopping, but she knows I never buy anything expensive. If I do, (once in a blue moon), then I tell her. Normal. I got nothing to hide. However, they never ask me what I do with my money, what I buy, how much I have in the bank. Nothing.
They know I work, they know my salary, and they are happy and don’t care what I do with my money or when I ask for money. Only thing my mom keeps asking me, “how much money left to pay off your student loans, and always save your money. You never know what the future holds.” I do save my money, but she always asks me that. Once I finish my student loans I would be relieved! I could pay more or even completely pay it off right now, but why should I? I rather go shopping! 
So why are parents who are very well off treat their children so badly? Making them almost beg for money. I mean I understand that people our age should be well off and not in need of our parents, but sometimes it is nice to just know they are still on our side. That they can and are willing to help us out when time is needed.
Maybe my family is just different and just really nice when it comes to money. Maybe it is harder when you had a family suffering from lack of money for years to others who have too much that parting with it, even to their children, is hardest thing imaginable to them.
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I agree with children having to earn their own money, my family was by no means well off but we did more then OK but I still had to work for what I wanted. Hey when I was 8 I was working at my current place of employment to but a bike at the end of the summer and riding it for the first time knowing I had earned it was the best feeling I’d ever had! I do think that your parents should still be there to help out if your desperate, but not for hand outs. Oh and a word of advise on your students loans! Are you not paying interest on it? That, for me, is more then enough reason to pay it off as quick as you can!
Allah yekhallehom la eleek manmoon, my family is the same thank God.. although I work & make good money bas till today my mom asks if i need money or she goes n’ buys me stuff…
I don’t think that circumstances changes how people look at money; Noveau riche – people who get wealthy quickly tend to forget where they come from & act stupid… o some rich people are humble & manage to spend their money wisely… it all comes down to the person – parents themselves. how they raise their kids & teach them the value of money…
Mona-good post! Wallah the the cheapest people I ever met were also some of the richest people I know. We have this guy here (my dad’s best friend) who is a multi millionaire (not kidding), he has clothing boutiques that famous people have shopped in. Anyway, he makes his 3 kids that have driving liscences all share one car and they used to have to share it with the mom as well!
I think I wrote 2 posts about money and my family, my family is also like your famiy alhamdulilah, in the fast few years they’ve gone through some serious hard financial times and my dad would give me his last twenty if he knew I didn’t have money-I guess with them they don’t want us to feel financial hardship because they’re more familiar with it.
Bill – I agree with you. We have to earn our own way, and not accept hand outs unless we are desperate.
Chikapappi – your parents are like my parents.. are we lost twins with same family! lool
Asoom – I know.. I swear I think rich people are the cheapest because they have so much and parting with it is like sweet sorrow to them!
WOW MOna, congratulation !!!!all your posts during ramdan are so positive, you start talking about anything nice in your life, This is the best you can do to live happy.
Keep doing it….!!!!!!!!
Some parents choose to be hard on their children to teach them the value of money and hard earning. They don’t want their kids to grow up having everything easy. To them, this is how they want their kids to grow up as. I can’t say they’re cheap, I don’t know their motives but some parents are like that.
i think its a case by case basis kind of thing….some kids have no clue about money and think its just a given…they probably need the harder lessons from parents…other kids seem to naturally have an understanding that to get something you have to work for it. Yep..i agree most rich people are VERY tight but not all… i’ve met a few who remember where they came from. As for myself..my parents and i didnt have a very good relationship when i was growing up..in fact i moved out at 17 and they left the country.. :lol: with no relatives and being an “only” i was def on my own. Things are much better now…they buy me dinner a couple of times a month..