A Conversation
I was chatting with some guy on arablounge. I go there when I am bored and thinking maybe I can find someone who is interesting to talk to. So this guy who is also Palestinian and an engineer started a chat session with me without even saying hello.
He asked, “why are you not married?”
I said, “great question. You tell me.”
He said, “What’s wrong with you?”
I said, “what do you mean?”
He said, “Palestinian girls your age are married by now with at least 2 kids. There must be something wrong.”
I said, “yep… there is something definetly wrong.”
He said, “I can tell. You are too old to even be on this site. There has to be something wrong.”
I said, “yep. I am sorry that my age limit is not appropriate to your standards since you are 35 and not married.”
He said, “It’s ok for a guy to be in his mid 30’s and not married, but not a girl.”
I said, “so although I am 8 or 9 years younger than you, I am too old?”
He said, “old for my standards, you should have been married by now. What’s wrong with you really? ”
I said, “it’s guys like you that make me happy I am not married. By the way, you are too short for me. I am 5′7″ buddy. Unlike you who has the height of a 12 year old. Next time read my specs and not just look at my picture thinking I am 18! Bye you blind dumb ass!”
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LOL! Good! nice reply – again with the age thing and ASSumptions :lol:
Seriously, they look at girls as MEAT – flesh – I met this girl who’s younger than my younger sister – she was with her baby – i felt weird seeing how young she is – her mom goes like: “ba3dek metel ma enti?!” I said yes
I hate that …
uhhh YIKES!!…great conversationalist… a guy like that makes me feel MUCH better about myself.. heh.. ok..thats not fair of me to say…not the culture i was brought up in.. (shrugs) I like to think of myself as open minded… People should do things when they are ready… as for me…apparently i have awful judgement when it comes to women..i think i’ll stick to playing fetch with my dog..
guys tend to be ass holes from time to time.. and they need me to tell them off!
Well a guy with that attitude deserved it…wont get any argument from me on that.. theres nothing quite like making judgments with nothing more than presumptions and a lack of facts.. look before you leap as they say..you might just land in the tigers den!
3anjad mutakhalif!
yep.. lost a few brain cells with age.. it happens
I don’t know why I’m responding to this…
but when I was living in Palestine a few years back (2000) i met a lot of Palestianian girls who were still single at 25 (granted they were husband hungery) but single at 25 -30 was not abnormal… though it could be that only the single or widowed/divorced english speaking ones were the ones who ever talked to me well i was there may be the reason why it seemed normal == from a object observer
I think life is different in different countries. The Arabs in North America think that a girl should marry young to protect her.. and if she is not, then something is wrong with her.
I have been on arablounge and no one ever asked me that. It is sad that you are being judged for not being married. I was never married and when I see the stress some of my friends are going through for being married and how their husbands are very anal about the way they treat them and their children makes me glad to be single. I am extremely independent and like my own company. Everyone has their preferences and you should not settle for anyone who isn’t meeting yours.
I know Marianna.. married life is not any better.. that’s why Arab girls suffer from it because a lot of marriages are arranged.
Hey Mona…
I came across ur blog and just read what you wrote abt arab lounge. I know some guys on there are idiots, but not all. I met my husband on arab lounge, and alhamdolallah we r happily married and have a 1 yr old daughter now. Life couldnt be better. I got lucky, and inshAllah if its what you want, it will happen to you. But if u really are interested in meeting an arab muslim guy whose head is not in the toilet, stay strong, and be persistent. they are very hard to fine. I thought impossible for a long while. Good Luck!!!
thanks Lana for the encouragement.