Why are Arab girls so stupid when it comes to marriage?
Don’t let the title fool you. Actually no, I do mean it. Some Arab girls out there are stupid. To me, my biggest and most annoying pet peeve is Arab girls meeting guys off the net and going across seas to marry them and bringing them back here. Girls bringing guys here? Where is the dignity? Do you have no self respect? No girl should be doing that. I am so sick of hearing stories of girls meeting anonymous guys off the net and “falling in love.” Bull shit. Those girls are only desperately wanting to get married before their 20th or 21st birthday. Their family mentality is so old school that if their daughters don’t get married in her first year or two of her twenties than no one would ever look at her. Also girls want to stay pure but can’t handle the thought of sex anymore and want any guy so badly!
So you know that a decent educated guy over here won’t marry you because you just finished high school and you have no career aspirations or future but being a hatching egg for the idiot’s off springs? You want to have dumb kids? Sure go ahead. It’s better then having bastard children. At least they will have a father name to fall back to if you marry him.
Why am I being so angry? Well, cause I am sick of hearing stories of those stupid girls who are barely 19 or 20 years old and divorced. Don’t you think a girl is better off not married and being in her mid or late 20’s or even early 30’s than being a divorced young girl? Seriously, what is worse?
This morning I heard from my mom a story of a girl who’s wedding we went to about 2 years ago. Lovely Syrian Mohajabah girl who was 19 at the time. She met an Egyptian guy off the internet. She fell in love. Never met him face to face, and she dragged her mom and dad all the way to Egypt to meet him and marry him. No engagement, nothing, a wedding right away. Do you see anything wrong? Many people would say no, but others know the truth.
Her parents are very nice people and obviously care about their daughter’s happiness. So they did the immigration papers for him and brought him here. If you are married you can bring your spouse from any where, and it will take about 4 or 5 months to process the papers. That’s cool. If they want to do that, that’s their choice. Oh wait, he didn’t pay for immigration papers, she (her family) did.
Where to live? Her parents re-did the basement of their home to be an apartment for her daughter and husband with a separate door and everything. When you are young and starting off your life, it’s always nice to get family help. Hmm ok…. From the wife’s family? How manly!
Well, the new bride wanted her family and friends here in Canada to celebrate her happiness too, so what did her parents do? They threw a huge ass wedding party here too in a huge ass hall with over 800 people. Hmm.. ok.
During the speeches and stuff, the new groom thanked everyone and felt bad that his family could not be here and he was here alone, but this is his new family now. He promised that he would love the girl and would never leave her till death do them part. Yah.. right. I heard too much of that crap before.
The past two years, the new groom was given the opportunity by her family to get a part time job and get educated at a local college studying some technical two year degree. Normal. He didn’t have many expenses such as rent, food, maybe even clothes. Who knows.
After he got his diploma and the wife waiting for him to finish and she was ready to have children now since her husband is done school and she was happy, then out of no where he got bored of his life. He didn’t want to live in her parent’s home anymore and he is bored of being with her and having such a daily boring routine. He was bored and he left. He didn’t want this life.
He divorced her and left the province to start a new single life with a new career somewhere else.
Can we say that Arab guys can be ass holes sometimes and only marry girls from North American to get citizenship, education, and a bonus a free place to stay and a girl too to share their beds with?
Men are ass holes. 
Actually, I got several proposals in the past from family friends back home asking for my hand as long as I bring them to Canada. I laughed hysterically and I told my parents if they ever dared even bring up the subject of me importing some ass hole who is cheap to come here him self and start from scratch then I would seriously leave the house! My dad wouldn’t allow it anyway. He said, “if he is not highly educated from here, has a job, and money to start a life then he is not worth it!”
I told them I don’t have time for this shit. I told my mom this morning my opinion about the matter. I told her it is cause of those Arabs here with their backwards mentality thinking that if a girl is in her early 20’s and not engaged or married by then, then finding a guy off the net is easy and safe proof. That Arab girls here who don’t want to be educated and just want to marry anyone are afraid that no one would look at them as they get older. Fuck that. GET EDUCATED for goodness sake and be something useful to society. When you are as educated as the stupid man you are marrying, then he would think twice about leaving you. Two incomes? Smart girl? Reliable? Has a great future? A guy won’t leave you for that!
I rather be alone for the rest of my life then having to marry a cheap ass moron who just wants to come to this country!
Seriously, learn what a women is worth for goodness sake!
it’s naseeb … kol she qesmah we naseeb! right Mona
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well yes it’s 2esmeh o na9eeb bas fe nas try to sell their daughters to the first man that knocks their door thinking that he is good for her – will manage to provide a good life.. i feel sorry for these girls bs Mona you will be shocked to see how some of them act! It’s like a chance to go wild!
WOW!
Reb? You live in Canada! I wonder, how come that you talk about Arab girls, Arab men and that stuff when you are not living with them?! You remind me of those American movies when picturing Arabs as people living in tents and using Camels as their ride!!! You are exaggerating. As an Arab guy, I stand here to tell you that you should behave when pointing to Arabs. No one can deny the failure our society is living, however, when it comes to some subjects, like the one you are talking about; we still have values, we still respect woman, no one can hurt a wife of his own, he himself can’t do it, and his family beside the society shall disgrace him! We care the one for each others. It’s not that you heard some stories you hate Arabs and generalize your idea, be a little subjective and constructive. I don’t know the secret behind your hate of everything related to Arabs. I’m also asking you respectively to use more polite words when pointing to us, no need for profanity. You make me feel sad! Instead of you defending us in the country you live in, you are searching for our sins to expose!!!
One last thing, please don’t tell me that this is your blog and you write for yourself welly mesh 3ajbo ma yekra2! If so, then write in your own notebook or diary or something, the Internet is not a free world. You didn’t accept it when a stupid started a blog for the purpose of attacking you, we also won’t accept the fact of you attacking us.
Was I attacking you Awartany? Not at all. I am talking about certain group of Arabs. If you are not part of them then why does this bother you?
And I live between Arabs. That’s my culture. I live in a heavy populated area filled with Arabs. I don’t hate Arabs. I hate how SOME of them ACT SOMETIMES. I used that word SOMETIMES and SOME to mean that only few people are guilty of such behavior.
Stop pointing fingers at me thinking I am bashing an entire culture. That wasn’t the intention of this article. Read it again and you can see that I am talking about certain type of people. Ok?
I won’t read it again; your clarification did the job!
It could be that the heavy Arab-populated area you live around is influenced by the Canadian culture, the bad side maybe!
And BTW, thank you.
btw.. describe to me Canadian culture? Do you even know how life in Canada is? Canada is very multi-cultured that there is no Canadian definite culture. If you come here, they would classify you as Canadian Arab or Canadian Italian or Canadian Greek. You still hold the title of your culture because you never change.
Anyways.. hope you understood it and don’t go blaming everything on the western culture that you are not even living in.
LOL! Why you are so angry?
I was talking about the same idea! Don’t blame Arabs who you don’t live with. And please, don’t ask me about Canada! And I’m not that type of people who blame the western culture for everything. We are trying to be subjective in here, try to control your emotions please. Calm down a little 
I am calm.. I just don’t like assumptions.
Assumptions? How about someone making assumptions about me, my own culture, and my knowledge? How did you know that I didn’t live in Canada, America, England, France, or wherever?!!!
What is exactly that you don’t like so you call it “assumptions”? Isn’t that the worse culture ever???
Don’t have time for this destructive argument.
It was nice talking to you.
Salam
Do I even know you? Do you have a blog or anything that I can make judgments out of? No. So I didn’t say anything towards you. Yet, you keep coming back here and wanting to argue and then you say “don’t have time for this destructive argument.”
I don’t understand why you are contradicting your self. All I know is if you don’t like something, you ignore it. If you want to keep arguing with me then tell me. I don’t mind.
I didn’t make any assumptions towards you. You started blaming me for being tainted with Western culture and bad mouthing Arabs. You started the assumptions without knowing anything about me or reason behind it. Plus from your IP I know you live in Amman or somewhere in that region. I don’t care if you have lived here or anywhere else in the past. That’s your life and I have no reason to even care.
If you keep arguing about this issue that is absolutely off topic now then you are wasting your time.
Thank you.
I know exactly what u r talking about..i used to laugh when relatives sent pictures with my parents and propsed..yeh im gonna marry someone i never met knowing for a fact that they only want to marry me to go to canada…but i do know someone who married that way and i feel bad for her…hmmm ok i dont really feel bad…when my mom came from lebanon few years ago the girl’s relatives sent a picture of a guy…we laughed and said no way niveen will marry this way…she is a canadian born doing her degree and mac and still 18…well lo and behold she spoke to him online and they got married…she had an awful wedding in lebanon…she came here and her life with him is hell…he wont let her talk to her parents…he beats her…he made her get an obortion when she got pregnant with a second baby(muslim yeh right)and she is only 24now and looks older than i do…she was pretty, was getting an educated and from a good family she could have married someone better had she waited a bit..and naseeb? yeh no it is stupidty! she is my sister’s sister in law and she was horrible jealous of my sister when she marreid her brother and she did this to her self..sorry so long..but i do feel strongly about this subject…im pro marriage big time…but not this way and not too young…
I agree with you Sam. Age makes a big difference in this matter. When you are so young and naive and just think that getting married is a good thing and seems right at the time and someone out there is willing to marry you, then you are only falling in a trap. I feel bad for Niveen because she is still with him and suffering such a life. At this point she is better off divorcing him than living such a life. So sad. Your story made me really sad now.
Okay!
One small comment … I have nothing to do with the whole topic .. but I’m just wondering what made you think that Canada is the PLACE to be in … and every single Arab is trying to get in there.
I’m talking for myself here .. with all do respect Canada is the last place that I wanna go to, it has no flavor at all. and the only reason I think ppl go there is because they can get the immigration stuff done easier than other places.
and BTW look at my IP I’m living in the states,so I don’t wanna marry you to go to Canada or anything, but if we got married (GF) then you need to move to here cause noway I’m gonna live up there!
PS. I’m just teasing you I’ve never seen you this angry before, so I just wanted to push it a little bit.
Salem
“wondering what made you think that Canada is the PLACE to be in”
I never said it was. Where do you get that from? I am not angry in any way and I don’t care if you live in the US. I lived there for 5 years.. and yes.. living there is better then here. I won’t deny that.
Plus (GF) why would I end up with a person like you anyways?
PS. Your comment wasn’t funny..
I just wanted to miss with you, so don’t take it so seriously. maybe you need to relax a bit and take easy.
PS.Your comment was funny as I expected
lol @ Salem.. you do have a strange sense of humor.
Ahaaaaaa! Did I say that I live outside Amman or something? Should I post a star on your forehead for using http://www.ip2location.com? You think you are so smart? Good for you! You really love to argue and scream! Don’t you? Anyone can read these comments and judge how close-minded you are -sorry.
You know what? I was trying to be careful and selective towards my words when talking to you, but couldn’t even get around the uncontrollable anger of yours! You hate everything, everyone, and everywhere! I never seen anyone can’t even be loyal to something, just one thing for god sake!
I was trying to reach something with you; I now know the only way is to agree with you.
Nothing left to say…
I don’t want you to agree with me… but when you post a comment think before you write.
I am not angry at you or anyone or anything. I wrote this article to state a point. You didn’t agree and called me a closed minded person who has a Western mentality. Did you expect me to stay quiet and just agree with you for making judgments?
Please.. can you stop arguing with me. You are way off topic and seriously I have no idea why you are fighting with me now. Do you have a point?
What an article.
I have to say that I agree with you, 100%!
That tempts me to write an article about why Arab guys are crazy about s*x more than anything else. I guess that might be sort of relevant.
I have to clarify something regarding my reply.
The reason I want to write about this particular thing is: Why guys are so desperate like this? Must be something better do to on the internet you know.
Anyway, great article “as usual” *thumbs up!*
Thanks Ahmed.. I am curious to see what you will write on your blog about such issues..
whooaa, the emotions are running High, luv it… this is one of the most interesting blogs Mona you’ve had in weeks. Good girl… you so rock!!
1)except Canada is better then the US… deal with it. Canada is just like the US but without less assholes.
2)I’m not a cultural anthroplogist or anything but i don’t think Arab men have a exclusive asshole gene, us men in general tend to be fucked up that way in general. — the Problem is getting married too young no matter what your culture, in this day and age marrige should happen later (mid to late 20’s) the maturity and dedication involved in marriage comes too lightly for the young and dumb
3)Arab men are sex crazy because there represed then they go fucking nuts (like Catholic Priests) represion is not a good thing; case and point go to the Heathrow Airport in London and the magazine store and everytime you’ll see the Arab porn club for men congregating and the porn section; it’s kind of funny actually seeing them all huddled together olgling they latest deprived spread.
4)I’ve been to both places–My opinion Jordanian men are far superior to Egyptian men (smarter, better looking, more honest, and more trust worthy… its a fact) OHHHH Mona please don’t fall for some egyptian guy, If you gotta go Arab, go Jordanian. Go Hashimite
Very interesting perspective on the issue David. I am not particular about the nationality of the man I will marry. As long as he is honest, have high morals and a decent human being, then I am all for him.
As for the London Airport thing, wow. Very interesting.
Who said that we are fighting here??? And did I mention that I hate your Western mentality? No! I hate your specific mentality and your bad attitude. It’s my right to hate and love whatever I want, however, I don’t offend, curse, or judge on anything unless being sure of what I’m saying! You can review the comments and you will see how polite I was with you and I didn’t judge you I’m dealing with facts here!!! It’s obvious that your audience which is those who agree with you cause who don’t, you just burn the hell out of him/her are those living the west life without even knowing what Middle East is!!!
Don’t reply with diplomatic answers please, I hate that method and people aren’t that stupid.
I lived in the middle east half my life.
Anyways.. you bore me with your nonsense. However, thank you for trying to make a point. From your tone of writing, your anger level has risen. Is it because I am arguing back with you and I refuse to agree with you?
Too bad. Anyways, I don’t know why you keep coming back and replying. I still don’t know.
Are you replying to my comments? You must be reading someone else’s comments
Finally you got something, I’m trying to make a point in here…
It was nice talking to you, and I should reply to your comments that’s why I keep coming back! Mesh 3ashan sawad 3yonek 3a2olet elmasal! LOL!
Have a nice life :mrgreen:
Wow.. you are a very strange man.. took you a few useless comments to make a half decent point.
Have a nice life.. maybe it will be composed of you not coming back here and wasting your time with nonsense commenting. Seriously, you love wasting time and I got all the time in the world to reply back.
I dare say; I find it quite amusing.
I’m back… let’s gab about, why oh why :lol: this is not a Arab issue… this is a issue of young dumb girls falling in love over the internet, then having the audacity to marry him. Don’t feel sorry for some dumb twat who marries some dude then brings him back home to Canada, then later he ditches her. Sounds like she is a victim of her own consequences. Sounds like her parents are partially to blame… I don’t condone violence towards women but someone should have given her a metaphorical reality smack. Sounds like Canada is the victim we get another western hating fucknut (aka egyptian) living here dammit!
speaking of fucknuts who said Canada lacks flavour grrrrr 
I wondered when a fellow Canadian would defend our fair land’s honour!
I just stumbled across this website. I just love that one guys response that included ‘the internet is not a free world’.
Uh, yes, yes it is a free world. And if you don’t like what you read, go away, don’t read it.
Nothing like a Arab to tell people what they can and can’t write, or think. Not to mention an inablity to take an even the slighted insult. What a overly sensitive small minded people.
lool.. exactly.. I so agree with you rain..
I found this website looking for a translation to an arabic word whose meaning I dont know…..
And Damn, this is interesting stuff!
I love the typical arguing between you and Awartany, and LMAO at David’s response!
I am looking for this translation to a word (bekheer) because I need to find out about an arabic friend of mine about her friend how she’s doing and I’m not sure if He speaks english.
So I’m composing the message in arabic aswell.
I live in Finland, by the way.
Woooo Hoooooo…. “North boys go Middle East.” :mrgreen:
bekheer = in good health or well or feeling well..
LOL! You people are funny!!! The fact that Reb herself can moderate her comments is a proof the Internet isn’t a free world. And BTW, I didn’t mean it technically! I mean that I’m here and I can reply to whatever she claims and I see wrong! You look so silly when accepting those who agree with you even without thinking of what they are posting!!! For god sake, be a little subjective people! Don’t let your emotions control you.
Salam
Awartny.. you don’t think and you cannot fathom the idea of having a blog. The internet is a free world. I agree. It’s free for people like me who bought this domain, paying hosting fees and trying to present content to the world. I have to moderate comments and agree or disagree with people. I don’t agree with you. Is that a problem? Seriously.. ??
It’s my blog.. so get a grip. I didn’t remove any of your comments and now you are mad that people are not agreeing with you either. I gave you your freedom to talk. So accept it and learn to accept the idea that you are NOT right and people WILL not agree with you.
And Rain, don’t talk about Arabs! I wonder from what origin you are. I guess an Arab too. I know many examples apply to you. And you know what? No No Forget it!!! I’m sick of arguing with WALLS!
Whatever…
By the way.. Over 50% of the people that visit my site and comment are NOT ARABS!
So live with it and accept people’s differences!
LOL! I even forgot what we were discussing here at the first place… This is ridiculous! You are talking about me like when you are talking about yourself!!!
Listen, this is getting too far from the original point, it turned into useless argument…
You call this people differences? And you want me to accept this? Shame on you Mona. I’m disappointed of you counting yourself as an Arab without even defending against the wrong ideas about us…
I’m out of this post. 5alas enough!
GOOD! You finally decided to stop commenting on this silly post!! Thank GOD!
ur article really touchy huh.. u gotta love arabz.. we make the world what it is..
anyhow.. i do support education.. its something dat no one can take away from you.. and its something dat some arab lack off.. so as long as education is offered to u plz dont refuze it..
salam..
Good article, very insightful, you have summarized the biggest problem (I think) with some young arab ladies looking (or waiting) for the love of their life.
Your argument is correct, education, jobs, personality and principles/morals of the man and woman are essential factors that determine whether a couple lives together (till death indeed parts them) or not.
But I have to stress that such events don’t involve ppl through the internet, this can happen between relatives, I saw this whole fiasco unfold between my cousins who were planning to get married, but the man was a drunk and slept with ‘escorts’ on a daily basis with a degree which he literally ‘bought’ (by bribing professor staff), the marriage just fell apart, and the 2 mother-in-laws were sisters who became bitter enemies because of this situation.
In terms of internet marriages, not all of them are gold-diggers looking for citizenships and job opportunities, my other cousin got happily married to this man from canada (Arab as well :O :O ) and they are a happy couple looking forward to having kids.
This problem is not arab-specific, I read this article a LONG time ago about an american couple who were planning to get married but ditched her when she was in a wedding dress with packed bags in the airport… OK, the man is a cruel a@@hole for breaking a woman’s heart…but at the same time, the woman was also stupid for falling into such a trick!! She claimed she never saw his face!!! ppl these days… :hmph: .
All in all I agree that arab women need to wake up to this issue, get educated, open up their minds to ideas and concepts i.e. intellectualize, then they can even make their OWN decisions about marriage (parent’s consent is needed tho) as they can then see whats beyond the perceived love, understand the situation logically and seeing how marrying the man will affect them in the short and long term.
I am not saying that women should not get married at 20 yrs, they can if they really wanted to, but this is the age of reason and knowledge, and an education is vital to survive in such an age… and lol, so that the kids can be smart too.
oh and by the way, I read some of the posts… I have a British passport so I wont be so naive trying to marry women to get a citizenship :lol:
I think that you have exercised good judgment. I am an American guy. People often say that our country has no traditions. I say never let tradition get in the way of of rational thought. You are right to express your disgust with the self destructive nature of some individuals.
Only those who adapt to relentless changes can hope to prosper from it. Resisting change is the path to poverty.
hey i am arabian christian guy and i prefer arabian women but i dont mind about white women also she is clean and polite anyway if we like to dating white women cause we like to got a white kids from them its nice mix really but we dont like those nasty white women who dating rude blacks we hate this nasty yuck
Interesting outlook on this whole marriage thing. I agree, but like most things, people make their own choices.
Hi Mona,
Its not just the guys though. Girls from maghreb Syria etc have taken it upon themselves to escape the rather strict freedom curtailing society of their respective country by eloping with a man living in western europe or north america, trust me all I have to do is mention my british passport be a little bit charmig and I have an imported wife in UK. I wish thing weren’t so bad for these girls to be taking this avenue. However this allows me to choose the best looking (thats what matters) for myself and hoping she won’t elope with someone else after she gets here.
Lol, you are one fed up person, just enjoy life instead of making huge articles, i am an american guy bout 19 years old, love middle eastern women, why? because i would love to have a girlfriend with a cute face.
:heart:
love arabian girls, where is my arabian girl?
I love your mind. Like many, I stumbled across your website. You battle very well.
(this is the first article I read)
May you battle with that wonderful mind of yours more.
Rock, rock on.
I couldn’t have said it any better, Mona. Seriously, your blog is just truly realistic and brutally honest. Keep it up girl.
Can’t get enough of your website. I love your mind and your posts.
To the women who do this internet eloping98% of the time it never works out and the person who is in USA or Canada is a lot of the times in for a shock when the person comes to the Americas and statrs misbehaving and doing their own thing once they got their papers…it is sad. This happens in a lot of other societies.
It iis real risky business marrying a stranger over the net.
PEACE
i have to say Mona…i just discovered your blog today and consider myself already hooked :p based on that arguement between you and Awartany! hahaha! WOW. that made my day! It was hilarious!!!
the way some people just HAVE to have the “last word” in something so trivial is beyond me…i agree with you 100%…the only good thing that turned out of that useless situation is something the rest of us can laugh about :p hahaha!
thanks again!
i am an arab and would like to marry an arab in the future, i dont care if he becomez citizen cuz of me!
the only downside z i dont get along with arabz,
i really dont knw why!!
WHY? huh.
i am a half arab guy my dads from the U.A.E and my mum is from England. i was brought up in england but im livig in the uae
i get what your saying about these “stupid girls” but the fact is your are saying all arab guys are just looking for a girl to marry then fuck off in the end, that isnt fair on the other guys that arnt after anything. im educated i have a good job no girl could give me something i didnt already have especially citizenship. i have the u.a.e passport and i can get a british passport anytime i like. so be angry at them stupid girls but dont say that all guys are the same
if you could reply to my comment i would be grateful
hey mona, i like your article, very interesting, at least it opens my mind re ARAB men, but i guess in every culture there are “assholes men” and “stupid women” so in other words you can find it everywhere. Anyway I’ve been to Bahrain, Abu Dhabi and KSA, I’ve noticed that Arab men from KSA are totally more stricter and they treat their women with no importance at all…PEACE!
(from the Asian traveller)
dear Mona,
thank you for the very very nice article,its very true and i agree with you all the way . But you know some times it works the same for guys too , what i mean if a guy looking for a nice good girl and he deiced to marry one from back home(btw i do not this idea) and he brings her and establish a new life and dose the papers for her with that things he doing it for her she might be a a bitch and leave him for a another one …i saw these things from people i know her in Ottawa .So my things it can happen from both sides . And believe I’m a civil engineer guy in my last year @ school and its really hard to find a nice girl ,Im not saying there is none but its hard to find one who she still think Arabic @ least (you what i mean !!) and i do not want to go back home and do the arrange marriage shit
I stumbled at your website, after typing ‘married to an Arab’
and I loved it 
))
I’m ukrainian, married to an Arab, and I agree, that some arab men are pretty big assholes, though not all are. And
I wish you to find your perfect strong man with whom you will want to be a -tobe-protected woman
ps. I’ve worked in three countries and managed a set up of an organization in Middle East. And my sweetheart is an amazing man, who is a great partner and makes me feel safe and secure and loved! I guess I really lucked out