Muslims, Arabs and Sex

I was actually discussing this topic with my friend today about how Arabs make a big deal about Sex. The topic came up as we were playing UNO on MSN games and the commercials on there are all about Sex Education. I told her, “don’t kids play these games?” She said, “yep.. and now in middle school they are getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases.” I remember when I was in middle school and highschool, sex was such a rare thing to discuss openly. It was a private thing that resulted in “oooh, awww.. no way!”

Now, let’s discuss Arabs and Muslims hypocrisy when it comes to sex. So your not supposed to have sex before marriage? Normal. Understandable and Islamic. We all accept that.

So where is the hypocrisy? Well, I am a disbeliever of the engagement period and getting legally married before the wedding day. So ethically blah blah a girl and guy have an engagement party where they are legally married by the Sheikh and through the civil court. Hmm. Ok. For how long? Well, I heard of engagements going on for 2, 3, 4, 5 years! So you are legally married for that long and it is called an engagement period? So, culturally this is done because a girl and guy cannot be seen together alone or holding hands or any of that junk if they weren’t legally married. That’s all? So you telling me through that time period, where they are legally married by religion and country, they cannot have sex?

What’s funnier, that many many people I know and heard stories of giving birth to their first child within 5 or 6 months of their wedding day. That’s when they spend more money for another party to wear a white dress and invite many people and only know 10% of them and have to feed the rest. Such a waste of money! But the birth after 5 or 6 months is funny and so obvious!

So if you plan to get married, then get engaged for a short period of time to prepare for a wedding. Stop spending that ridiculous amount of money on two parties, don’t forget the wedding shower! Another waste of money. Blah! Also, don’t get legally married for a long long time! You know if you have problems, then you have to get legally divorced. In other words, you are DIVORCED! So what’s better? Being divorced before even having a wedding or getting to know someone before getting engaged just like that!

I decided to write this post after reading Asoom’s post about Sex Education by Sheikh Yasir Birjasax. I read it and I was amused that she wrote it. I thought wow, that’s pretty cool of her. She did something rebellious in my book of rebellion!

So for all of those who piss me off and keep searching on Google for Arab Girl sex, etc, and end up at my site, well, I want to share with you what Asma wrote from attending a conference about Islamic Sex Education! I decided to share it because everyone was attacking her for no reason! Enjoy and learn! We are here to educate you! However, no graphical displays.

Asoom wrote Yesterday:

Sunnah practices/recommendations

Man on top (makes for easy pregnancy)
Removing Hair (both sexes, should be removed, at least trimmed)
Smelling good
Circumcision
Foreplay (lots of it)
Taking time
Using sex as bargaining technique (applies to women)
Showering together
Massages/Body Oils
Being playful
HYGIENE

Islamically permissible:

Sex positions (no anal)
locations (as long as other people can’t see you)
Coverless
Mutual Stimulation
Oral Sex (disputed)
Wild Fantasies (with mutual consent, as long as there’s no crossing into the impermissible)
Explicit language
Pregnancy sex (with the exception of last few weeks whatever that means)
Sex in Ramadan (feel free to break your fast with intercourse, yes the sheikh did say that)
Food (disputed)
Live video/mirrors on ceiling (just no taping)
Hand Pleasuring (the other person)

Islamically Impermissible:

Forcing
Ejaculating in mouth
Describing your personal sex life (unless it’s for the purpose of seeking help)
Anal Sex
Menstrual Sex
Video Taping
Masturbation (disputed so I’m not sure why he listed it under the impermissible-there were some conditions were it was ok).
That weird Arab tradition in some communities where they show the blood from the wedding night (7araam)
Watching porn for stimulation (not sure why he added “for stimulation” as opposed to just watching porn)
Adult Toys (?) (again this one is disputed so I’m not sure why he added it under impermissible)

Blah Blah, Random Thoughts, They said what?, Whatever!