Comments on: And the drama begins… http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:30:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-28127 Mona Sat, 12 Jan 2008 19:17:49 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-28127 Oh good for you.. I am happy for you. I wish everyone can be happy and be able to filter out the bozos.. Oh well.. for me.. I am staying single and cool until I decide to settle with Mr. Right! :P Oh good for you.. I am happy for you. I wish everyone can be happy and be able to filter out the bozos..

Oh well.. for me.. I am staying single and cool until I decide to settle with Mr. Right! :P

]]> By: Kiwi http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-28126 Kiwi Sat, 12 Jan 2008 19:12:52 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-28126 and p.s. I met my current husband on ArabLounge, so meeting someone online, though not ideal, has become the new "and sometimes only" way that some people are able to meet. Mind you, you also need to have a sensible head on your shoulders to be able to filter the odd people. But I don't think online-meeting, is entirely wrong :eek: and p.s. I met my current husband on ArabLounge, so meeting someone online, though not ideal, has become the new “and sometimes only” way that some people are able to meet. Mind you, you also need to have a sensible head on your shoulders to be able to filter the odd people. But I don’t think online-meeting, is entirely wrong :eek:

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-28125 Mona Sat, 12 Jan 2008 19:02:52 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-28125 Thanks Kiwi for your input and you are completely right. :) Anyways.. she is fine now and she will learn to get over it and find someone a lot better in the future inshallah.. :) Thanks Kiwi for your input and you are completely right. :)

Anyways.. she is fine now and she will learn to get over it and find someone a lot better in the future inshallah.. :)

]]> By: Kiwi http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-28124 Kiwi Sat, 12 Jan 2008 18:59:39 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-28124 With all due respect to whatever has been said about your friend and her situation, we need to be more understanding and sympathetic, to the role our culture, environment and maybe our family have on "Who" we are as individuals.. needy or not! Arab culture has specific "gender" stereotypes and roles for females in particular, I mean look at the fact that we as Arab females are considered the honour/sharaf of our family, hence the "no no premarital sex" bit... and how Arab guys can easily go and get some "experience" (though religously unacceptable, it CULTURALLY is!)... Arab culture 'expect' females to get married as soon as they can! Parents are constantly on our back about finding the right guy (education, family) etc, and when will we have kids blah blah blah.. so your friend, ya 3azizti, is merely reflecting, what she has been expected to do! Now I am not saying she may have some other emotional issues, but let's not be too hard on her. She probably lacks a lot of self esteem and confidence, due to the above reasons, and maybe... a failed experience.. Hope she is doing well though! Love, Kiwi With all due respect to whatever has been said about your friend and her situation, we need to be more understanding and sympathetic, to the role our culture, environment and maybe our family have on “Who” we are as individuals.. needy or not! Arab culture has specific “gender” stereotypes and roles for females in particular, I mean look at the fact that we as Arab females are considered the honour/sharaf of our family, hence the “no no premarital sex” bit… and how Arab guys can easily go and get some “experience” (though religously unacceptable, it CULTURALLY is!)…
Arab culture ‘expect’ females to get married as soon as they can! Parents are constantly on our back about finding the right guy (education, family) etc, and when will we have kids blah blah blah.. so your friend, ya 3azizti, is merely reflecting, what she has been expected to do!
Now I am not saying she may have some other emotional issues, but let’s not be too hard on her. She probably lacks a lot of self esteem and confidence, due to the above reasons, and maybe… a failed experience..
Hope she is doing well though!
Love,
Kiwi

]]> By: Jamaal (TheRadical Muslim) http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-27552 Jamaal (TheRadical Muslim) Tue, 08 Jan 2008 04:53:03 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-27552 Firstly your friend should not meet random guys off the Internet. Its different if they've spoken for some time and got to know each other, and even then it should be avoided. Secondly, she will get married but acting desperate and accepting the first guy that comes along will cause her to make a mistake and accept the wrong guy, which could cause a lifetime of hassle for her. Thirdly, she is your friend but you can only tell her. If she wont listen then theres not much else you can do apart from be a friend and be there for her, advise her how you can. Fourthly, you never know, he may turn out to be a good guy, they get married and live happily every after. insh'Allah. Fifthly, as her friend you should try to encourage that any meetings she has with guys has a third party present to keep her safe and so that she makes the right decision. Insh'Allah she'll find the right person when the time is right, as we all will (i hope). Firstly your friend should not meet random guys off the Internet. Its different if they’ve spoken for some time and got to know each other, and even then it should be avoided.

Secondly, she will get married but acting desperate and accepting the first guy that comes along will cause her to make a mistake and accept the wrong guy, which could cause a lifetime of hassle for her.

Thirdly, she is your friend but you can only tell her. If she wont listen then theres not much else you can do apart from be a friend and be there for her, advise her how you can.

Fourthly, you never know, he may turn out to be a good guy, they get married and live happily every after. insh’Allah.

Fifthly, as her friend you should try to encourage that any meetings she has with guys has a third party present to keep her safe and so that she makes the right decision. Insh’Allah she’ll find the right person when the time is right, as we all will (i hope).

]]> By: Sapphire http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-27539 Sapphire Tue, 08 Jan 2008 01:44:21 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-27539 Mona your friend sounds very needy, clingy and desperate and that would be enough to scare off any potential boyfriend. She will never get a boyfriend with that attitude never mind get a marriage proposal! She needs to focus on other things in her life right now and discover who she is as a person then come back to dating with more self-confidence and independence. Women with one tracks minds who obsess about getting married are the last ones to ever get married if at all. Guys don't like women with secret agendas and they certainly don't like being pressured into relationships. There is nothing more unattractive than a woman throwing herself at a man. Mona your friend sounds very needy, clingy and desperate and that would be enough to scare off any potential boyfriend. She will never get a boyfriend with that attitude never mind get a marriage proposal! She needs to focus on other things in her life right now and discover who she is as a person then come back to dating with more self-confidence and independence. Women with one tracks minds who obsess about getting married are the last ones to ever get married if at all. Guys don’t like women with secret agendas and they certainly don’t like being pressured into relationships. There is nothing more unattractive than a woman throwing herself at a man.

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-27535 Mona Tue, 08 Jan 2008 01:21:30 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-27535 I am trying a new approach on life and to be realistic. I usually don't say anything or bother with anyone and keep my distance and opinions to my self, but in this situation I got tired of it and I can't stand seeing anyone get hurt.. especially my only friend.. She doesn't read my blog anymore. She doesn't need to. I tell her everything. Although she met me from this blog, she doesn't need to know anymore or read anymore that she already knows. I am trying a new approach on life and to be realistic. I usually don’t say anything or bother with anyone and keep my distance and opinions to my self, but in this situation I got tired of it and I can’t stand seeing anyone get hurt.. especially my only friend..

She doesn’t read my blog anymore. She doesn’t need to. I tell her everything. Although she met me from this blog, she doesn’t need to know anymore or read anymore that she already knows.

]]> By: mr.anonymous http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-27529 mr.anonymous Tue, 08 Jan 2008 00:00:55 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-27529 oh..that friend of yours..did she read my message a few days ago? If she's reading this one too..let her know that even if she looks like nicole kidman,with this kind of obsessive behavior and immature teenage attitude..if I were that dude I'd be in mexico right now trying to get as far away from her as possible..get a grip on urself woman! and mona..u come off as a really realistic strong woman..maybe too strong. oh..that friend of yours..did she read my message a few days ago? If she’s reading this one too..let her know that even if she looks like nicole kidman,with this kind of obsessive behavior and immature teenage attitude..if I were that dude I’d be in mexico right now trying to get as far away from her as possible..get a grip on urself woman!

and mona..u come off as a really realistic strong woman..maybe too strong.

]]> By: David http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/01/07/and-the-drama-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-27527 David Mon, 07 Jan 2008 23:34:51 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=1281#comment-27527 :shock: Whooa, what's wrong with that chick... so your saying she was talking marriage right away :???: to guy she met online just recently :razz: seriously you need to shake your friend and tell her to get real. Here are 3 things a girl should look for before even considering marriage (I'm no expert, but here's a Western guys approach) 1)This is the most important -- HOW DOES HE TREAT HIS MOTHER?? If he yells and complains to his mom and takes her for granted, baby he's going to treat you the same way when the honeymoon is over. If he is kind, loving and helpful to his mother then girl you have a keeper (but BE CAREFUL you don't want a mamas boy either; he's to be your man, not hers) **WARNING THERE IS A BITCH MOTHER CLAUSE** if his mom is a genuine bitch ignore this rule 2)DOES HE RECIPOCATE SEXUALLY... like does he do unto you as he likes being done if ya now what I mean... hmmm now for a islamic suitable test for this.... how about does he give good back rubs or back scratch with keen effort well keeping his hands and intentions in check. **ATTENTION** HORNEY DUDE CLAUSE you can't hate a brother for trying to cop a feel :mrgreen: :mrgreen: maybe it was a mistake 3)Do you like his music? NOT CAN I TOLERATE HIS MUSIC NO!!!!! you must like it, you must like it. This is to be written in stone. If you hate his music forget about him even if he is hot and rich 'cause if you hate his music once the erotism has left the relationship and it will. You chicks become homicidal bitches who ruin a dudes music collection in fit of wrathful rage :cry: Music is harmonic gel that can keep people together when times are tough so don't under value this one You must be the voice of reason for your crazy friend 'cause that's what true friends do... she must go through three steps/questions before she exercises any more marriage thoughts... you may need keep your cool for her sake but crazy friends are worth keeping they make life more interesting GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK :grin: :shock: Whooa, what’s wrong with that chick… so your saying she was talking marriage right away :???: to guy she met online just recently :razz: seriously you need to shake your friend and tell her to get real. Here are 3 things a girl should look for before even considering marriage (I’m no expert, but here’s a Western guys approach)
1)This is the most important — HOW DOES HE TREAT HIS MOTHER?? If he yells and complains to his mom and takes her for granted, baby he’s going to treat you the same way when the honeymoon is over. If he is kind, loving and helpful to his mother then girl you have a keeper (but BE CAREFUL you don’t want a mamas boy either; he’s to be your man, not hers) **WARNING THERE IS A BITCH MOTHER CLAUSE** if his mom is a genuine bitch ignore this rule
2)DOES HE RECIPOCATE SEXUALLY… like does he do unto you as he likes being done if ya now what I mean… hmmm now for a islamic suitable test for this…. how about does he give good back rubs or back scratch with keen effort well keeping his hands and intentions in check. **ATTENTION** HORNEY DUDE CLAUSE you can’t hate a brother for trying to cop a feel :mrgreen: :mrgreen: maybe it was a mistake
3)Do you like his music? NOT CAN I TOLERATE HIS MUSIC NO!!!!! you must like it, you must like it. This is to be written in stone. If you hate his music forget about him even if he is hot and rich ’cause if you hate his music once the erotism has left the relationship and it will. You chicks become homicidal bitches who ruin a dudes music collection in fit of wrathful rage :cry: Music is harmonic gel that can keep people together when times are tough so don’t under value this one
You must be the voice of reason for your crazy friend ’cause that’s what true friends do… she must go through three steps/questions before she exercises any more marriage thoughts… you may need keep your cool for her sake but crazy friends are worth keeping they make life more interesting GOD BLESS AND GOOD LUCK :grin:

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