Yes. No. It is just denial.
It takes a day for a person to face reality, but will they accept it? No. They rather live in denial than have to think about it ever again. Denial is a psychological disease. It is not lying to others for the sake of the moment and not to get in trouble. On the contrary, it is an unconscious action that a person cannot control. Others can read people who live in denial in an instant and tell them to stop it and face reality now. Others can never tell because the lie is too believable and inconspicuous.
Today my friend called me and she was a bit calm and it seems that she has passed that phase of reality that she hates. Then she mentioned this and told me, “I think I will just go to a psychologist just like you and see if they can help me too. I don’t know what is wrong with me.”
I sat there thinking for a few seconds that I was positive that I didn’t really discuss any in depth psychological thing with her. She knew I suffer from extreme depression but I never discussed anything in detail. She just knows I am moody and depressed most of the time and sometimes for no reason.
So I told her this, “I am a very realistic person and I hate it to the point where it drives me insane. When it drives me insane and I feel suicidal, then I get over it and pretend nothing happened. I go from realism to denial instantaneously which leads to uncontrollable anger. That’s my problem and most people don’t notice it. Some do because they got to know me really well and know I tend to run away and ignore things.”
She said, “oh my god. This is me too. I am exactly like that.”
I though great.. now we have more in common. I can’t wait till she goes to a shrink to tell her off and tell her to stop all this craziness. Wow.. seriously, two of us living in denial as she claims to be. She is not that bad as me.. but who knows.. I known her for two years so my disease could have rubbed off on her without me realizing it. 
In conclusion, I need more friends who are part of the norm as psychologist and sociologists statistically suggest.
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Just because something is the norm doesn’t make it nice or right. A little over half of all Canadians are over weight and that is the new norm now but isn’t healthy. They tell you to hang around so-called normal healthy people but do those normal healthy people want to hang around you is the bigger question. People that are depressed want to get better and make positive connections with other people but their illness drives most normal people a way from them. It is a catch 22 sometimes.