Ignoring people works
One thing about me is that I am too nice and I give people too much of my time and I let them whine and talk all they want and I waste my time listening.
When a situation arises, you listen for a bit and give your input.
When the situation slows down and really no point in talking about it, I tend to ignore. I get mad and I want to stop all this nonsense.
The thing about me is that I don’t talk to people about my problems. I usually keep it to my self and sometimes write it in my blog. I just don’t think a person should just keep talking in detail about every little problem they have. Even to their closest friends. I think there is a limit to the whining and complaining and using others to be your personal object where you except them to just listen and not criticize you or give you advice.
So I just learned to ignore. The reason all these years I had one or two friends is because I don’t want to be sucked into someone else’s drama and have to support them 24/7 and keep my mouth shut and be positive.
I really love people and I love talking and joking around with people, but we all have our problems and discussing it all the time will make others not want to be around you anymore.
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yea noone likes to be around people who are always negative and always holding grudges or comlaiing about something, they infect everyone else with their negativity.
I have a friend like that whose now mad at me and not talking to me for something really stupid, it’s just in her nature to be negative. I decided I’m not going to apologize or talk to her about it because it’ll justify her immature actions and make her feel like she’s right. Her only friend aside from me are her sisters and her sister-in-law because she drove off everyone else.
It’s gotten to the point where she refuses to go to gatherings or hang out with the girls if she knows I’m going to be there too but to me that just shows how much she valued me as a friend that she would react so harshly to something so silly and I’d rather just not be friends over having to go “explain myself” to her because this is like the 3rd time she’s done that to me.
You scenario is a bit different than mine. I am not 100% ignoring. I am just not willing to discuss any more issues that I feel have no solution and over dramatic. I like to say, “case closed. No more discussion about this please.”
I wish I could stay away from drama sometimes. But they (Friends) just suck me into their drama and I end up with a horrible headache
what i realise is that ppl blow things out of proportion and when they are negative and expect you to solve their problems it is time to take a step back. you waste your time and your energy is sucked out when u could have taken that same time and energy to do something constructive for your life…..at the end of the day it is OKAY to be self fish and always remember rto love yourself first…