What am I to do?
Honestly, is it me or the whole world is messed up? I will explain why I don’t like people.. because people are ass holes.. and they hurt others for the hell of it.
My best friend now is crying her eyes out, and she lives in another city and I am not there to comfort her at all.
So what happened?
Ok.. I had enough of the drama the past 3 days. I was patient and I was quiet and I wanted the whole thing to end. So she talked to me on msn now and she said, “I finally got in touch with him.”
I said, “you really want closure that badly don’t you?”
She said, “it ended. He ended it.. He doesn’t want me at all.”
I said, “ok.. I knew that. It was obvious he just came here all the way from the States to see how you really are in person and that’s it.”
She said, “He said he doesn’t like the way I look, and the pics on Facebook are not how I look. That I look a lot bigger in person.”
I said, “what the fuck. What a fucker… what the hell?”
She said, “He talked more about all the details and stuff we both talked about, and he was so picky.”
I said, “I told you to not go into detail and discuss every aspect of your past life with him. Why did you do that?”
She said, “Mona, do you think I look so different than my facebook pics? Even the past few months, do I look so different and so much bigger?”
I said, “Aah no.. not really.. to me you are still smaller and petite compared to me.”
She said, “Please tell me the truth. Am I such a cow now and so unattractive?”
I said, “I don’t think so.”
She didn’t talk or say anything for about a minute and I knew she was crying.
I said, “Can you please stop crying! Get over it.. The guy is a fucking ass. Why do you even want such an idiot? If he is going to judge you because the way you look, then seriously, he is an ass.”
She said, “but when he met me, he said that he really liked me and said I was attractive and liked the way I look.”
I said, “…. and? So?”
She said, “you don’t get it. If I wasn’t super skinny, I am not pretty at all. He even removed me from Facebook.”
I said, “listen.. you are talking to the wrong person here.. I am much bigger and taller than you and I don’t go through this drama at all. If that is the reason he didn’t want you, then he has problems and maybe you didn’t click the way you thought you did. I told you to be your self and not be so mushy and nice to guys. Guys take advantage of that! He was just going along with what you are saying just so he can come and meet you in person.. and maybe he wanted more than that and wanted a weekend fling.. who knows.. he is a GUY and an ARAB! If you are not super skinny and look like you are going to a club at 9:00 am then you are nothing to them!”
She said, “I don’t know.. at least you are attractive and guys turn heads to look at you.. me.. if I wasn’t super skinny like I was and dress a certain way, then guys would not even look at me at all.”
I said, “ok.. seriously.. you need to stop this.. stop crying and putting your self through this shit.”
She then logged off and probably crying her eyes out right now.
Why the fuck are guys ass holes? What am I to do now? Why do Arab girls have to suffer from such ass holes.. I told her a million times to stop meeting guys off stupid personal sites.. Just meet nice people in her area and be friends with them first without them judging her from the first meeting.
Fuck it.. I am sick of hearing about relationships and love and bull shit drama.. I am going to sleep.
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firstly, yes the world is messed up.
secondly, once again, your friend shouldn’t be meeting random people off the Internet.
thirdly, if shes not observing point 2 then shes going to continue to meet the wrong guys.
fourthly and most importantly, I’m at least one guy thats not an ass-hole, so there is hope theres at least a few more out there for you girls to meet. but then it does work both ways because i could also argue, why don’t i meet nice arab girls? why are too many of them stuck-up and looking for some particular brand of skin tone and family background???
I admire you for your frankness and your friend needs to listen to you..I hope she will. It isn’t worth crying over someone who clearly is shallow..i hope your friend gets that.
hi, i got here via entrecard…have a nice day!
She sounds very naive and will probably have the same problem meeting potential partners offline. I think you have it in that she needs to slow down and get to know someone first before looking for a serious relationship. Maybe this will be a good, yet hard learned, lesson for her to let things happen instead of hoping for more before really knowing the person. Getting all these emotions build up over someone you knew online a few weeks can’t be healthy.
To her credit the guy was indeed an asshole, he could have just said he wasn’t interested. Although it sounds like it would have ended in the same result. What he said is not only wrong, it’s just plain rude…what happened to common courtesy?
I totally agree with Jamaal, I mean, who the hell uses the internet to meet people? Why? Is everyone around her so messed up that she actually resorts to the internet to find the right guy?
Secondly, not all Arab guys are ass holes, yeah, most of them are, but if you look at it from a broader point of view, everyone on this earth, male or female, Arab or not, are ass holes… Only a few are actually good people.
And anyways, sis she really think that guy is into her in the first place? He’s obviously a shallow perverted person.
So what she needs to do is to be confident, and be herself, and stop looking like she’s desperate.
The internet is not a place to meet people. It is a social networking village. That’s what I use it for.
hadi il binet ma ghairha..I know more about her problem than real close ppl of mine..I guess I should lay off this blog for a while!
to be honest she should thank God day and night for getting out of this one in one piece,good thing she found out before its too late that the guy turned out to be a dishonorable man,with no dignity or responsibility..no man should do something like that..and there are a million exit strategies he could have used,but no..he chooses one that puts the blame on her! whats next? ask her to sleep with him to see their compatibility for marriage?
I hope she learns from this close call..and don’t allow scumbags to prey on her in the future.
you know more about her problems than me!?
So say you’re ‘social networking along’ and come across someone that you have a ton in common with, enjoy talking to and honestly believe they are who they say they are…you should dismiss them because you met them online?
i wouldn’t dismiss them.. but I think I would convince my self to not go that far and just be friends.. there are great people everywhere in the world.. but I think online stuff has its limits.,
Well, your friend has a self confidence issue. And you also fell into the problem of judging the world as “Ass holes” (Yeki!! I do not like using these terms and language) because of one guy. This is a fair game because your friend may meet someone who she will describe as anything and not like him as well so girls should stop dealing with male comments as offensive. This is a mutaul thing it may happen one way or another….my 2 cents tips no offense please