Comments on: You know that it is wrong… but…

By: asoom

asoom — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 07:34:51 +0000

Personaly for me I just don’t put myself in a position to fall for someone that I know I couldn’t be with in the future because of whatever differences. I’m generally conservative when it comes to interaction with the opposite sex and the couple of guys that i was serious about are guys that before I even let get to that point I knew I could actually be with this person.

As for the age stuff, my aunt married a guy about a decade older than her and they had a nasty divorce like 4 years later. About a year after that she married a guy that was 7 years younger than her and they’ve been happily married for like 18years now.

By: Magari

Magari — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 19:36:07 +0000

I just need to say this..

If you wanna go against the norm of society be my guest. It is probably for the better. Just remember what your doing and if you and your partner are not 100% dedicated, it will be rough.

But of course its always rough going against the grain. As well it should be.

By: Another J.

Another J. — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 18:26:43 +0000

Well I just want to say it CAN work if you want it to.. and families can accept it. It just depends on how much shit you want to go through. I’m white married to a pakistani with 1.5 kids for 4 yrs. His family is great to me. Yes I did end up converting in the end. But he propsed to me before I even thought of it. It wasn’t a condition placed on me to marry him. So to the commenter above.. it can be done and it has been done successfully many times. As for it being a sin for a muslim girl to marry a non muslim well that’s another thing.. and I think it’s a bunch of crap. If my daughter falls in love with a non muslim as long as he treats her right.. I would never cause her the pain that I’ve been through.

By: J.

J. — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 05:48:31 +0000

Hmm. I am going thru this right now. I am white and was raised catholic, but am in love with and am dating a pakistani muslim. we know sooner or later he will have to go back to his country and get married to a “good” girl that his parents will pick for him and it kills me, but no matter how many times i walk away we always gravitate towards eachother, even if we don’t see or speak to eachother for months, we always eventually end up together. AND i am 4 1/2 yrs older than him. I believe in meant to be, even though i don’t think it’ll happen for me and him since he is adamant on pleasing his parents by marrying a virgin muslim girl. i wish religion and cultural boundries could be abolished! if you love someone then BE with them. don’t go through life doing what others want and expect you to do all the time, esepcially if it involves going against your heart and not being abled to be truly happy.

By: 3abeet Ø§Ù„Ø¹Ø¨ÙŠØ·

3abeet Ø§Ù„Ø¹Ø¨ÙŠØ· — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 20:13:34 +0000

there is nothing called “meant to be with”
both sides have to work hard for the success of their relationship

and against all odds, they will succeed, if they work hard…
that is the idealistic situation….

Reality says…
NOOOOO

By: Sapphire

Sapphire — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 15:34:38 +0000

Well my great aunt married a guy that was eleven years younger than she was. When the guy met my great aunt, he said this is the woman I am going to marry. The guy just knew that he and she were meant to be together. After my great aunt died, her husband died three months later from old age. It is somewhat romantic when you think about their life together.

By: David

David — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 02:33:15 +0000

ummm this is where I should say people should stick to their own because life is too complicated enough that people shouldn’t rock the boat… yea….
FUCK THAT SHIT… if you more then just click with someone consequences be damned make it work well at least, TRY!!! Why settle when you could have something really special, you never know what love can conjure up (God does this mean I’m a romantic and not the pragmatic I think I am…Fuck this going to require some personal analysis)
Mona!! Where is the Rebellion you are starting to sound like a conformist!
You need to click on your own website (all you people reading this do it as well) to that spot that says “Diasporic Discontents” there a very lovely individual who’s more eloquent then moi who has some blogs pertaining to this very issue This is me putting that rebellion back into you Mona!!!

By: Sajid Patel

Sajid Patel — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 00:45:40 +0000

Trust me, it never went uphill for Romeo & Juliet, nor it will for us.

I recently went through a sad breakup, where I think age, religion, culture – the whole shabang was involved. But we knew what we were getting into, so it was easier when the time was up…

The morning after is another story though….

Thanks 4 the track info, btw.