Why people try too hard to find friends at work?

Let’s say we all know that life’s big lessons is dealing with people. That’s understood and well known. A lot of times I wonder why some companies ask for so many years of experience in working with or on something that doesn’t really need that much experience. It’s all about how well you work with people. People are the problem. It’s not your skills at all. I think that they look for what kind of person and how long you worked in a previous place.

To me that is pure BS. I like people to an extent and I can work with people as long as we ALL have the same objective. However, personality wise, I am not really that impressed with social people. Everyone has this major obsession when they first step foot into a new work place with these exact thoughts, “will other people like me as a friend?” Not as a co-worker, but they want friendship so badly. They find it as a safe first step. Make friends so you can act like an ass but have your clan of friends backing you up all the time.

I call it “work gangs.” I hate it, I hate it, I really hate it.

I hate the fact that if someone doesn’t make friends at work, or if certain people don’t want to be friends with them, they go crazy and all they do is talk about it. “They don’t want to be friends with me, I tried so hard to please them, but they have problems trusting me.” Ah, yah. It’s nothing personal, but having friends at work is a very bad idea. I will tell you why, and there are two reasons for that.

One: if you are friends and you end up fighting or whatever, then the great interpersonal skills have completely vanished. You took it too far to the point that you can’t even look at that person’s face or talk to them anymore. You just jeopardized your work right there!

Two: if you are friends then they know TOO much about you and you never know what they will do to you behind your back. How many things slip out of their mouths about you? It’s not true friendship believe me. I know. I really know.

I’m talking about this from experience. What have I learned? Don’t make friends at work. Be nice to people, tolerable, but to an extent. Making real friendships at work is pathetic and a waste of time. It only leads to problems and people hating you if you do something that doesn’t please them. It will make your work suffer completely.

So you really want friends? You want to make life time good friends, DON’T FIND THEM AT WORK! If all you do is wanting to hang out with your co-workers after work, or parties, or gatherings, then really you don’t focus on your work at all. Other people who hear about these events will get offended and kind of left out thinking that their co-workers may not like them at all and more hostile negativity will inevitably occur.

All I can say, don’t try too hard to make friends at work. Be friendly, nice, tolerable, social during work hours, and that’s it. That’s how you practice your interpersonal skills. That’s really what serious work places want! No one likes a joker or ass who says whatever they please thinking it is OK because co-workers should and are FRIENDS!

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