Ethics and Bullying

Today I went to two seminars at the University for ethics and bullying. The first one was about ethics in general. The speaker talked mostly about the way children are taught and how they behave as they grow up. To understand the problem of adults is to see how children are raised in this society we live in. As adults in the work place we have to understand that no one is the same and we have to learn to accept one another and ethicaly speak to one another. We are all human beings and we should not call each other any name that degrades us as human beings. That person is no longer a human being, but an “it.” Just an object that is beneath our feet if we use derogatory name calling such as labeling them as vermons, bitches, cockroaches, or weasels. They are no longer human beings if we call them that and we are labeling them as “it” and not “thou.”

Then comes the bullying. Such an interesting subject. I won’t get into detail but we all know that in a bullying situation, there is a the bully, the bullied, and the bystandard. The bystandard is the worse because they just sit there and watch. They don’t talk or involve them selves in the situation and just let the bullying happen. They just don’t care about the situation or consequences. For the bully, to deal with it is not to make them just say “sorry.” It won’t work. Just tell them to STOP IT! Don’t EVER do it again! For the work place, obviously it is a criminal offense and no one should ever tolerate such behavior. The bullied is the target and they are the ones who don’t talk. They are afraid and just tend to ignore it. Why? Because higher authority won’t really believe them and just tell them to ignore and get over it. They don’t try to help them or try to resolve it. If they do, they go to the bully and tell the bully to “apologize.” Not to end the problem completely by enforcing the bully to STOP it or else.

It is quite an interesting talk. I can’t stand listening to such a talk cause I am too emotional when it comes to bullying. I was bullied and ridiculed through out my school years. I had direct sexist comments and racist comments said to my face. All I did was go home and cry my self to sleep. Now, the same thing. Nothing changes. People will always be racist and sexist no matter where we live and no matter what we do in our life. I mean it is enough to go to work and suffer listening to people who don’t care about work and just there to get paid and have zero passion to what they do. They joke around by insulting one another and thinking that it is ok to do so. If they can take a joke and think lightly of anything said to them cause they don’t care, then everyone else should.

Ah no! First, I don’t take jokes, I was raised to not insult others, and I was bullied throughout my life that I don’t want to suffer through this at work too. I am just really at a very depressive edge in my life. I am trying so hard to just ignore people and not get involved in anything and just do what I was paid to do. It is so hard and my head aches are so bad that I don’t know how much of it I can stand. However, I am not giving up and I am still looking for a new job. I need to feel that I am worth something and I have an objective in my life. Not just to have a job and be paid, but I want to do something and make a difference using my abilities and skills. Oh well. I just have to be patient and not give up and hope to God I don’t loose all my nerves and explode one day from my built up anger.

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