I guess what I did not know is that love is a 2 sided thing… You will never know what the other person really thinks and that is where TRUST comes into it… And you can never fully trust ANYONE but YOURSELF! That is what I have learnt.

But we have different versions of love. I know I will always love my children and nothing they can ever do will stop that.

Love is something that Humans have made up… I really do believe that love between a couple is a virus and a drug… We need it but we also HATE IT! I do.

love is : just a word for god sake ! its not a medical complex or a rocket science !! jeez !
love is a package of things :

mutual understanding , safe ‘n’ secure relation , intimacy , a much closer circle of friendship , a roller coaster with up’s and down’s , an open mind and heart.

sure sure u got yer own cute ‘n’ fuzzy side where ya go blabin and lol over here ‘n’ lol over there !
but thats just a drama , or yer own space
u can go talk bout mosquito life circle or the nano technology for all i care but that doesnt make ya smart !
smart is a social act , including an actual give ‘n take with other people not just nick-names ‘n’ avatars !

u can perform a whole night of charm ‘n’ witty jokes , yet that doesnt make ya funny enough
cuz fun also is a social act
the point is
a real stomach butterflies , not just a phisical reaction for a chemical atarction

u will fall in love when :

1) his opinion matters first
2) u only feel safe with him
3) u dont need 2 explain yer self arround him
4) he completes u and that means he let ya flow yer boat and when ya zig he zag
5) he like 2 share mostly everything with u , even shopping , or watchin a lame mexican soapra
6) he apreciate u , and doesnt take u for granted
7) mutual trust and believe

and ( you will find him girl )

As far how do you know when they are the one. I have asked my married friends, from all different cultures, religions and upbringings and they all tell me the same thing. You just know.

I don’t know you very well, but I think you went through some tough stuff with that guy from your ‘previous life’. I really feel that, that guy took your innocence and vulnerability and I think you need that leap of faith to fall in love and to act on that feeling if you get it. You seem like you are an analytical person who weighs the pros and cons of every situation. In my humblest of opinions, I don’t think you can do that when it comes to love and trying to find the one. I understand not wanting to waste time in a situation that you know is destined to fail, but if you get that feeling, don’t over analyze. You may end up missing out on something special.

All these things you see as negatives of why people might not like you won’t even matter. When you find the right person they will accept you completely and more than likely will love those little things you do.

There are a lot of idiots out there you should completely shut out, but you have to be open for the right one to get to know you too.

I can say I’m like you Mona in so many ways: I can’t trust guys, never believe a word they say, can’t understand how the emotion “love” decides all of a sudden to grow within me to invade all of my being, that nothing i do or say or think is safe from it..in some cases, i wont believe it when im told that im loved, can go on for a while humoring it and trying to find any other explanation for it, but out of the blow, and without any introductions, my resistance break and a dam of love just floods the place!!

and the funny thing is, when i fall in love, i truly literally am blinded of all the fatal flaws in my partner…its ridiculous! i know they exist and i know that i won’t be able to take them for long, but i keep pushing and denying in the hope that one day, they would just disappear! (not that am flawless…but i know what my flaws and i dont really love myself :laugh: )

But few years later, when that love is gone and im bored and have nothing to do but go through my mental diary, and i start looking back to what happened and wonder where the then-partner is now, the inevitable question pops up “why did i love him? why him? why did i cry and weep when it was over? why did i think love is not possible if it isnt for him? why, after so many months and maybe years, i still remember him?”

and i never find an answer

the confusion, it just sux!!

I don’t know how I knew. All of a sudden, it just was.