Just relax girl,and don”t make big deal.now you are making west have no problem with the issues you said and we Arab do.Well i agree about some points,but the guy apologized and explained everything.So relax please,what do you want him to do more than he already did ?
Or maybe as he said,you can”t say what you said here to your family and discuss this with them,so here behind the screen you can say whatever you want !

No more talk please,and be wise ppl

Best Wishes

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I’m Pakistani, so perhaps I don’t understand Arab culture. Is it taboo for Arab women to have relationships with non-Arab men?

nice topic!!!! who is an arab??? i can say someone who speaks the arabic language, shares the same culture and mindset in a community of an arab country. you were right people think, when an arab girl travels outside or studies outisde she is open to all ideas!!!. we as arabs are not superior to non-arabs, we all are bani-adam!!! what makes us intresting is our hospitality and the hardship we faced in the early times. We arabs are great travellers, from arabia to india and to spain we have reached. if u go to these countries you will find proof. we have croosed many seas and entered into new lands, and still we form biased opinions on certain people. whyyyyy??.
We, the new generration youth should destroy this stereotype and bring the world closer to us.

Here we go again! :laugh:
I think you got used to some people telling you how “smart” you are and you know so much bla bla…I think that can be dangerous and can lead to vanity somehow, because you start thinking whatever conclusions or assumptions you come up with are the correct ones.
To make my point short: you’re pissed because “some” Arab guys,(God knows how many), that you “chatted” with, have a certain perception of Arabs who were raised in the west,specifically girls, lets say. cuz I don’t think you give a shit about guys lol.Anyway, we can assume that they made these assumptions simply because they don’t know, and they made a generalization based on an “assumption”.Now , a “smart” person like you should figure that out, instead of coming back at them by saying:
“I think the problem is that I don’t understand Arabs back home. I think they are the ones that are messed up. So messed up that it makes us Arabs here wonder who is better? Who is still following the proper Arab way of life anymore?”

Does that sound smart to you?? Remember that you’re talking about a very diverse culture that has people in over 20 countries with a population of nearly 290 million souls!.Furthermore, a “smart” person should understand that the best way to deal with wrong assumptions and stereotyping a group of people is to engage in a dialog with constructive criticism instead of throwing back at them the same ignorance you accuse them with .

Be part of the solution instead being part of the problem.

Peace

By the way, I’m really impressed by your page. I’ve been meaning to start up an online support community for Muslims interested in medicine (mainly pre-meds) living on this side of the world. I already have a couple of articles written, but I know nothing about the internet. Do you have any advice, or can you direct me to a place where I can get started? Honestly, I’m probably doing all this for myself but I desperately need a place to vent my frustrations and connect with other people in my shoes. Salaam!

As for Love/Marriage/Relationships – which you’ve addressed numerous times on your blog – as clichés as it may sound – but it WILL eventually come. It doesn’t ‘have’ to come, you know, only if you allow it to.
Good things take time, and as Allah says in his holy book “wa 3asa en takraho shay’an wa howa khayron lakom, wa 3asa en te7ibo shay’an wa howa sharun lakom”. I also, truly believe in that!

Chin up, cheer up, and appreciate the gift of life!

Lots of Iraqi Lovin’ from the other side of Canada
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