Sibling rivalry at its best
Did I ever mention that I have a 13 year old sister? She is the youngest, and third in line right after me. So me being 27, and her at the onset of her teenage years is not a pleasant mix and causes daily arguments to no avail.
My idea of kids or having kids if I ever get married and decide that family life is what I will settle for has been degraded because of having a much younger sister. Also, having my niece live with us for the first year of her life before she moved a couple of months ago really showed me the dark side of children and my impatience and dislike of having one constantly there infront of my face.
My sister is not normal, or maybe she is and I am the one that refuses to understand this messed up generation that is so materialistic and demanding. I cannot speak to my sister without her replying back with a smart ass remark that shows the ultimate form of hatred towards me. Once my brother left two months ago, her wise ass remarks increased ten folds. She repeatedly tells me that she wished that I left and not him. When I try to ask her to do anything, she says that I am not her mother and she doesn’t have to listen to me at all. She is pretty much trying to take my brother’s place with her sharp tongue, but I am impatient and get angry in a second because of my broken fuse.
All my life, my brother was the one that drove me insane. He always had a smart ass thing to say towards me, but I easily replied back with something and then he would get mad and result to physical fighting. Did I ever mention that he hit me once with the soccer ball when I was 8 years old and my baby tooth fell, and a down pour of blood drenched the floor? Seemingly, it was normal. My brother is 4.5 years older than me. So it was just sibling normal fighting. Nothing more. Or that’s what I thought.
Unfortunately, the fighting continued on and on. Till this day my brother always has a smart ass thing to say. Can you imagine my sister who was practically raised by him, and was taught everything that she knows and even has a sharper tongue due to this generation’s disrespect to others? I am not happy, and this morning was the final draw of her wise ass remarks.
I wake up early every morning. Usually before 8:00 am. I was downstairs cleaning the kitchen, and by 8:30 I saw my sister coming down. I said, “hi! You are awake early. Yay!” My sister on weekends and holidays never wakes up before 10:00 am. So she replied back saying, “why are you talking to me? Go away.” That’s when my mom flipped because she was standing right next to me and shouted at her. I then said, “fine. I will go away. That’s your wish. ”
My mom has been screaming at my sister and telling her to stop her hatred towards me for the past few days because she is sick of it. It never stops and it is a daily dilemma. Later in the day, I was sitting in the family room watching TV with my mother, and my sister came in with a pile of her homework. My mom told her that if she needed help, she can ask me. My sister than flipped and said, “no, Mona doesn’t know anything. Why would I ask her?” My mom than flipped before I was able to say a word, and then she said, “you two, do you want me to die from both of you! Why do you act like you hate each other? Do you want God to judge me for not raising you well and hating your sister?”
That’s when my sister’s face became gloomy and didn’t say a word after it. She left and sat the rest of the afternoon in the basement doing her homework. Does it take religion and the mention of God to have her shut up and have some respect?
I am not happy at all. I don’t know what’s wrong with my sister. All I know is she does not want me in the house and wants my brother back. My brother was more laid back with her and always complied with her demands and took her out. Me? I can’t even talk to her because she has a negative view of me. She hates it if I go to the mall with her and mom. She hates it if I buy the same brand name attire as her. She hates it if I am near her or sitting next to her, and always tells a stupid story and makes fun of what I did. She keeps thinking that when I was sick a couple of weeks ago that I was faking it just to get attention. Can you believe that?
I blame my brother. It’s all his fault. I also blame my parents because they spoil her to death. I blame my self for taking abuse from a 13 year old. I blame society and this generation’s disrespect towards others. I blame my bad luck for being a middle child and always stuck in the middle.
Why would anyone want to have kids and try to raise them in this day and age? It’s a stroke waiting to happen!
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Ok, I don’t know if this is feasible. You should move out. Maybe there are more reasons, but this is probably proof that you should move out.
I rarely post comments, but I will do it because I think it’s important now.
In my belief, you are losing respect because you are still unmarried, so you are like big animal in the house doing nothing (this is not insulting). Your value will rise when you become a “Madam”.
New generation problem: of course, children raised in Canada never respect elder people and you can’t even shout at them because they can call the government.
Wallah Wallyyo attawfeeq.
It is related to their generation where pop culture has misled or brainwashed them into stultifying their elders for the sake of being considered “cool”. This is especially the case in the developed countries. In poorer countries, where children are relatively untainted by pop culture, they behave in a much more respectful manner towards their elders. Raising children is a virtuous act, but the environment in which they are raised is important in ensuring their success in life.
oh dear. i think your parents will be the one to talk to her so that she will give you respect. i agree she is a spoiled brat. i think children depends how they are brought up. i’m just thankful that my daughters are OK right now and not behaving as what western people do.
good luck my dear.
FYI – I am unemployed and I really can’t move out or do anything now. So take that thought out of your heads.
Hi Mona..
Sorry to hear about your predicament but perhaps you should stand up to your sister and demand respect. She is after all 13years old.. and you are the elder sister. I think if you simply ignore her and let behave as such it will get to her head that she can do and say anything to you without consequence.
I know it is easier said than done but you’re a tough girl and I’m sure much tougher than a new generation 13 year old
It might seem childish, but throw it back at her when she makes those remarks. Don’t be hateful and don’t take offense, laugh her comments off and put your own back on her. She doesn’t hate you, it has probably become habit for her to say those things because you let her do it. She is just messing with you (that teenager attitude), but if it’s one sided this happens.
Instead of going and buying the same clothes brand, style, whatever it is she doesn’t like – find a way to take her shopping with you, buy her something, let her “let” you buy the stuff. Then it becomes that you both like it instead of you copying her.
I used every way possible. I resorted to ignoring and barely talking to her. I think I am the impatient one and need to hold my anger. It seems to be working so far.
hey Mona,
…You gain some and u lose some
Here is one situation where it is good to be raised Arabic way
@ reality puncher: that was a bit cruel…but really funny LOL
shamata time
She is at the bratty age where hormones are going wild. She will eventually get over it in a few years but that is probably little consolation for you having to put up with her mood swings.
Yeah the youth of nowadays are really so difficult to manage. *sigh*
But like what some said – it is just a stage of too much hormones. I had to deal with a younger niece who was also acting up aggressively. Just ignore her I guess and when she’s 19 she will probably change.
Girl!! Why are you doing her homework?????
Who did your homework???
What did your brother do when you were disrespectful to him?
Do the same… It worked for him,
Your sis needs a slap on her mouth from you, do it when there is no witnesses