Comments on: The right to choose http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Fri, 19 Mar 2010 02:30:42 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: The right to choose | Randomblog blog http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40098 The right to choose | Randomblog blog Tue, 28 Oct 2008 22:01:31 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40098 [...] The right to choose Posted by admin on October 29, 2008 random There is a major difference between animals and humans. Obviously it is the human intellectual thought process that is completely different than an animal’s. Moreover, there is a difference… [...] [...] The right to choose Posted by admin on October 29, 2008 random There is a major difference between animals and humans. Obviously it is the human intellectual thought process that is completely different than an animal’s. Moreover, there is a difference… [...]

]]> By: Brian http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40097 Brian Tue, 28 Oct 2008 18:21:32 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40097 as with everything there are two sides to every story. an arranged marriage can be good and bad. It has been said that the secret to love is to pair to seemingly normal folks together and viola; mashallah. The mentality of an arranged marriage, i am guessing, would be something along the lines of, "We are together now and in order to prove ourselves to each other and the rest of the world it would be best if we stayed together." The problem with an arranged marriage is that it takes that whole 'soul mate' fantasy out of the story. when something becomes YOUR CHOICE as god intended it, then it takes on a whole nother dimension. In nature does a peacocks mother choose a suitable mate or is it the lustre of the feathers that make the date? Gods law is natural and to window shop based on beauty alone is not unrequited and not mutual. yah sure a peacock might have lovely feathers, but how is his nest building? how is his touch and respect? but most of all who cares if hes not arabic? as with everything there are two sides to every story. an arranged marriage can be good and bad. It has been said that the secret to love is to pair to seemingly normal folks together and viola; mashallah. The mentality of an arranged marriage, i am guessing, would be something along the lines of, “We are together now and in order to prove ourselves to each other and the rest of the world it would be best if we stayed together.” The problem with an arranged marriage is that it takes that whole ’soul mate’ fantasy out of the story. when something becomes YOUR CHOICE as god intended it, then it takes on a whole nother dimension. In nature does a peacocks mother choose a suitable mate or is it the lustre of the feathers that make the date? Gods law is natural and to window shop based on beauty alone is not unrequited and not mutual. yah sure a peacock might have lovely feathers, but how is his nest building? how is his touch and respect? but most of all who cares if hes not arabic?

]]> By: JJDW http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40095 JJDW Tue, 28 Oct 2008 18:12:36 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40095 Even from the guys side I don't see why they would want an arranged marriage either. It just adds a bunch of stress to both people if they don't get along. I think you can end up caring for someone if you are forced to live with them long enough, but you can't make someone love another person. I'd keep refusing until they understood what you want or move away and find your own partner. Even from the guys side I don’t see why they would want an arranged marriage either. It just adds a bunch of stress to both people if they don’t get along. I think you can end up caring for someone if you are forced to live with them long enough, but you can’t make someone love another person.

I’d keep refusing until they understood what you want or move away and find your own partner.

]]> By: Bruno Biscontini http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40094 Bruno Biscontini Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:49:50 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40094 This type of marriage may succeed This type of marriage may succeed

]]> By: Dede http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40093 Dede Tue, 28 Oct 2008 09:19:14 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40093 Malika Lika . ;) lol thanks for the advice hehehe if it worked ill look 4 u and invite you to the wedding that wont have happend if it weren't for u :) Malika Lika . ;) lol thanks for the advice

hehehe if it worked ill look 4 u and invite you to the wedding that wont have happend if it weren’t for u :)

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40087 Mona Mon, 27 Oct 2008 19:23:07 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40087 The advice of Malika Lika, priceless! The advice of Malika Lika, priceless!

]]> By: Malika Lika http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40086 Malika Lika Mon, 27 Oct 2008 18:57:49 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40086 Dede, I must say, ur so cute! Listen, if you want to "be in a relationship and get to know a person before marriage", take it from me, keep saying no till your 25. At that point, your parents wont care if you even went to a bar to meet a guy, they just want you to get married :P Dede, I must say, ur so cute!
Listen, if you want to “be in a relationship and get to know a person before marriage”, take it from me, keep saying no till your 25. At that point, your parents wont care if you even went to a bar to meet a guy, they just want you to get married :P

]]> By: Dede http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2008/10/27/the-right-to-choose/comment-page-1/#comment-40085 Dede Mon, 27 Oct 2008 18:16:05 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=3059#comment-40085 Its so true what u said, but thank god at the end of the day its our choice to say yes or no. Although yes its ridiculous spending the rest of your lifw with someone you barely know, In our case as girls in the gulf if it was someone other than our cuzn then a pic will be passed to the wife and groom to b THEN when the girl says yes the sit together supervised !!!! this happens in their ENGAGEMENT period...My sis is gettin married this way she told me its more like LOVE FROM THE FIRST SIGHT !! and after here isti5ara prayer... it seems cute when she talks about it but will i do what she did NO. but what kills me is there is no other way !! I cant come up to my parents and tell them i wanna marry a guy i just met!! THEIR GONNA KILL ME ALIVE ... I wish things can change!! :( What i want my parents to know is being in a relationship and getting to know a person before marriage dosent necessarily mean Their gonna do something BAD!!! 9a7?? OR AM I WRONG.. put some sense in me if i was plz coz im really about to explode. Its so true what u said, but thank god at the end of the day its our choice to say yes or no. Although yes its ridiculous spending the rest of your lifw with someone you barely know, In our case as girls in the gulf if it was someone other than our cuzn then a pic will be passed to the wife and groom to b THEN when the girl says yes the sit together supervised !!!! this happens in their ENGAGEMENT period…My sis is gettin married this way she told me its more like LOVE FROM THE FIRST SIGHT !! and after here isti5ara prayer…

it seems cute when she talks about it but will i do what she did NO. but what kills me is there is no other way !! I cant come up to my parents and tell them i wanna marry a guy i just met!! THEIR GONNA KILL ME ALIVE …

I wish things can change!! :(

What i want my parents to know is being in a relationship and getting to know a person before marriage dosent necessarily mean Their gonna do something BAD!!! 9a7?? OR AM I WRONG.. put some sense in me if i was plz coz im really about to explode.

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