What’s wrong with being polite?
I don’t know how people are raised now a days, especially my great generation, but seriously, some people lack ethics and politeness. What’s wrong with saying “thank you?” What’s wrong with saying how grateful you are to others? Why do people point out other’s politeness as something strange?
I am not talking about my self here. People know that I am too nice that I always say, “hello, how are you, thank you, sorry, my bad, etc” These words have resided at the edge of my tongue for a long time, and I just say them because it’s “ok” to be nice to other human beings. Nothing wrong with it.
However, that’s not the case for some people. I know a guy who is nicer than nice. Way too nice and he is extremely religious (a Christian), and well behaved. He keeps saying thank you to everything, and very nice to everyone. I was sitting in a room with him and other people, then out of no where this smart ass blurted out and told him, “why are you thanking us? There is nothing to be thankful for. We don’t want to be here anyways, but we have to.” The guy just smiled back and didn’t say anything. I looked in disbelief and thought to my self, “are people for real?”
I just don’t understand my generation. Is it wrong to be polite, nice and thankful to other human beings?
Aye.. I am just dumbfounded by peoples’ words. I think I want to start teaching manners. I know the little generation now (teens and tweens) are way worse. I feel that I am obligated as a human being to smack some people and tell them that it is ok to be nice to other human beings. God was nice enough to put you on this earth and let you live this long, so be nice to other humans! It won’t kill you to be grateful! 
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Manners are politeness are important. It’s also important not to overdo it. If you overdo it, people tend to believe that you’re not being genuine.
Let me give you an example. When I used to work at a restaurant, the most common thing to be said by each staff member to other staff members was “Oh I’m so sorry
!” after running into them, or getting in their way. Now, considering that this can happen to each person approximately 50-100 times per night, it becomes the belief that this “I’m sorry” is just an obligatory response to something that is completely inevitable given the work environment.
@Dave Lahn – I am not talking here about over doing it. I am just saying in general, why do people think it is strange. I understand over doing can be fake over time, but some people say it because they mean it. Like me, I say thanks and sorry constantly. It annoys people, but I do mean it. Nothing comes out of my mouth unless I mean it.
I feel the same way!!
Especially when I travel to another state… I guess it’s really true that people in the south are a little nicer. This reminded me of a few people who could use a smack for being rude recently-lol, but I really do not understand what pepople are being taught anymore… what is wrong with saying please and thank you? That really gets under my skin.
This is a sad reality.
Most of the time I get to hear kids (very young) specially street children who do not have any manners at all. It’s disappointing. I can say that their parents are not doing good on disciplining their children… and I guess it’s because kids now are exposed to an environment that displays bad influence.
With the grown-ups case, I guess they and specially most men, they think that being extra nice will make them less manly, that being an ass can make them extra cool and can gain them more respect because they’re feared.
I guess there’s nothing wrong reminding people to be nice or show respect… that’s the least thing we can do so they’ll realize that they’re not doing any good at all.
very nice entry here. ^__^ keep it up.
have a nice day.
Hi there, it’s really good to see a well written blog that’s insightful as well as entertaining. cheers!
just from our little emails mona i find that when i say thank you, you return it with a thank you times two. i believe that was the sunnah, but i was like that even when i was a christian so it had something to do with how i was raised. i dont want to speak for the people who dont use such salutations in the conversations, but without them we wouldnt notice the importance of a simple ‘thank you’.
I can say thank you all day long, but when it comes to saying sorry im just a bundle of kleenex away from really being sorry.