If I have a choice, then I am racist?
Last night, I went to the God awful site called Arablounge again. Why? You can say I was so bored and I was just browsing. I was barely on it for 5 minutes, and this guy from Mississauga popped up to chat.
The conversation was normal, but then he started saying that it sucks being alone. I said “yah.” And then he said, “there are no single women on this site, they are all divorced and old. Most of them are liars.” I said “aha?” Then he said, “do you want to meet to get coffee?” I said, “no. I don’t know you and we don’t even live in the same city.”
He said that is fine. He then said, “well, I will be moving to Lebanon soon, and I want to get married before then.” I said, “ok?” He said, “you want to go to Lebanon?” I said, “no. I live here.” He said, “why don’t you want to live in Beirut?” I said, “well, because I am Canadian. And why do I want to live in Lebanon? I am Palestinian, and all my family is there and I know how they are treated. 60 years and they are not allowed to work or have any rights!”
He then said, “so what? I am Lebanese and Shi’a. I will only marry a Palestinian. Shi’as treat Palestinians differently and you will eventually become Lebanese too. ” I then said, “well, I don’t want to marry a Lebanese or Shi’a.” He said, “what? Why? What’s wrong? Why are you RACIST and PREJUDICE?”
I was like, “wow wow wow.” I then told him off. I said, “I do not want to marry a Lebanese or Shi’a. I have nothing against them at all. But it’s my choice. I want my kids to be Palestinians and Sunni! So? I am not racist if I have a choice!” He then said, “So? They will be Canadian anyways.” I said, “you do not understand. Plus, why am I racist if I have a choice? You guys are so picky. You want a girl who is blond, skinny, long hair or blue or green eyed, blah blah. Why is it ok for you to have a choice, and I can’t?”
He then paused a bit, and then said, “well, I guess this won’t work out.” I told him, “at least I am honest with you and upfront. Remember, we humans have a choice!” He said, “ok. Good night.”
Holy crap, I was called racist because I had a choice? What’s wrong with this picture?
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we arab girls sigh at the thought of marrying a libnani, and living in a plastic-surgery, blonde-hair-dye, blue-contact ridden libnan, DUH MONA!
LOOOOL! Mona, I don’t even want to share my stories with you :X LOL he’s stupid
@Amani
Nothing wrong with Lebanese guys. You shouldn’t say WE because you will be offending Lebanese. However, you are right, their culture has been infested with fakeness.
@chika
Oh per tell!
It would seem to me you were being perfectly reasonable. As a garden variety white Canadian/American I’m not aware of the cultural issues hiding in the background that may somehow come into play, he sounds kinda nuts to me.
Is it possible he, like many others, are too quick to assume they are hated?
@Danko Ramone
yah.. he is nutz! I thought I was crazy!
@Chris Short
Maybe. I don’t know. I am not a psychologist.
Hey Mona!
I think he sounded desperate more than anything else! Actually, he sounds stubborn and desperate… OUCH – bad combination!
I can’t believe he had the nerve to ask you to have coffee with him after just talking on the web. I mean the guy could have been a serial killer for all anyone knows.
He just met you online and proposes marriage! Yikes! That is desperate and weird. For all he knows you could be some 12 year old snot nosed Canadian boy pretending to be a 28 year old woman.
@Lela
Another guy kept pretending that his connection kept cutting off, and kept saying hi.. hi … hi.. for about 2 minutes, then said, “my connection sucks, call me please!” lol I was like no!
@Sapphire
snot nosed.. gross!
I’m a guy and the exact same thing happened to me. The girl was also Lebanese from ‘back home’ and was Shi’a too. I have no interest in a) a girl from ‘back home’ and b) a Shi’a and she went off a rant as well.
@Moo
Isn’t great to share same experiences with others? 
lol. I guess I am not the only one!
grettings everyone and happy new year to all
dont know how i got on this site by chance but glad i did, number one im lebanese and i love everyone and my favorite people in the world are palis, but no need to be putting down shia’s what happened to the fact were all muslims dont we have enough hate going on in the world, we cant we get along i would marry a pali man in a heart beat i see no difference in sunna or shia
god bless and inshalla peace in gaza and its people
nina
“Shi’as treat Palestinians differently”
What a joke!!!
@nina
Happy New year. However, I did not put down shi’a or anyone. I stated that a million times.
@imad
Hmm..
One thing (several actually) that really annoyed me about him is that he thought you’d be willing to move half way around the world to MARRY this ignorant loser after chatting for 5 minutes. Desperation is by no means attractive. He just sounds like a self-righteous, selfish weirdo to me and avoiding a relationship with a self-righteous, selfish weirdo does NOT mean you are racist. It means you are intelligent and know better than that.
Hey guys woah..Okies..so I think that on every apple tree there will be some rotten apples and some delicious apples…
oh Arab lounge oh arab lounge..that’s where the majority of the rotten apples lurk…(with the exception of a few…eye candy is what we all need here and there…)
Mona good move..:) guys like him are weird…simply weird..
Your choice if your choice. Don’t change it for anyone. So, what if you are called a racist. Stick to your decision.
When choosing your life partner you’re free to be as rascist as much as you can because you will be marrying their “culture” and your children will endorse it.
I am a guy and I have been to arablounge site many times in the past (I still have a profile there).It is okay to ask someone out for cofee when they chat there -I had many blind dates from arab lounge and all were fun and ok – Some of girls i met through the site became my friends. This guy must be a player and stupid at the same time. Why would an arab guy living in Toronto think of marriage? “akeed majnoon aw ahbal”. This guy is a player and he many not be even living in Canada. Must be a desperate lebanese who wants to get his papers …. al sho..lebanese living in canada going back to lebanon (min kotr el shoghol wi halawit el 3eeshe be lebnan) and want to marry a palestinian whom he just met 5 min ago …ehle2eeelo. palestinain girls must marry palestinian guys…yalla salam
hey Mona..one more point. I just read in your profile that you (like me) were born in Saudi, been in canada for the past 11 years (like me) – you are from Akka like me …and you are in IT field (same here) – and by the way, I am also sunni. I guess we have many things in common – too many to ignore. Can we go out for coffee?
Happy new year!
@Palestinian Guy
And how old are you?
Mona, I aam 31 – banfa3?
@Palestinian Guy
You are a funny funny man.
Mona, is this a YES to my date proposal?
@Palestinian Guy
You don’t live in the same city. Sorry.
There is an invention called cars! anyway….have fun and happy new year
nice site by the way.
@Palestinian Guy
I don’t have a car, and what are you implying? You would actually drive all the way to here for a cup of coffee?
Ma7ada beya3ref Nassbou wein bekoun…
something is fishy though…
@Jade
Of course it is fishy and kind of lame.
Thinking about it, and reading the other comments, I’m sticking with the “he’s kinda nuts” diagnosis. I’ve heard similar stories from women about many men online being like that, just as pushy, and -somehow – OFFENDED when a woman doesn’t swoon at the suggestion of being with them after 4 minutes of cyber contact.
khaletooha fishy and lame kaman!! walaw 3ala el banat! you keep overthink/over copnplicate life …
yalla have a happy new year!
We live with choices, some choose to hate, some of the choices have to do with killing people or saving people. What does that mean? I don’t know my mother is Japanese and my father is African-American, and they are happy, really happy. I believe that love don’t have any boundaries. Do what what you feel that is in your heart, and screw everyone else. I have lost my true love, my soul mate because of stupid reasons, and I am damned! We live, we die.
@nina
I just wonder it seems that Arab-type women stick to their own then most races. I wonder why is that, some people may perceive that in another way. I heard people even say, “if that’s the case why not go back to their own country.” Just wondering, when people ask me, “I usually say I don’t know, ask them.”
buddy’s totally lost it and you should ban yourself from such sites
that should control the influx of douchbags and wife shoppers. It’s funny coz it’s a story I hear often… this I’m going to Lebanon BS and they come back with extra baggage… inno you’re not buying a bag of potatoes, this individual will be in your face for god knows how long aside from other things there but wtf ?
and then comes the religion side which has 0 value whatso-fken-ever… so what if u wake up to jump in front of a moai and i don’t fken know chant war songs! when the bleep did love get a color a religion and a whole list of other crap… i thought it was blind ?
any1 ?
I’m totally with you on this, he sounds strange
I actually got a lot of pushy proposals myself being an Indian in the UK with a good job. By golly, why DON’T I import delhiplayer69 to come live with me? Getting rid of MySpace was the best thing I’ve ever done.
@adrian from what I understand the type of muslim a person is and where you have ‘hometown’ allegience when you live in another country gets dictated by the religion and origin of your father. So if it’s important to a girl to bring up her children with the same religion and love of a place she has to choose a husband who’s the same. Plus obviously they’ll have more in common as a couple, sometimes love doesn’t conquer all and it’s important to share core beliefs.