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January 7, 2009 @ 10:19 pm | 11 comments

Parents are wise, maybe

By: Mona
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Note: I come from a very religious family. Like extremely religious, but very open minded and knows what is “wrong.”

My dad was talking about “girl’s beauty” today, and he said, “a girl has to dress nice, and have nice hair. That’s it! ”

I said, “hair? You know you will make many Hijabis (scarf wearers) mad.”

Dad said, “Hijabis? with all that makeup and tight clothes they wear? That’s not hijab.”

Mom said, “istaghfar allah, don’t talk about anyone.”

Dad said, “I am not saying anything bad. I see them when I am out. No religious person should be wearing revealing clothes. I don’t even let my own daughters wear clothes like that.”

I said, “umm, yah.. ”

Mom said, “just stop talking about this… everyone acts and wears whatever they want.”

Oh well, I guess we are back to that debate again. Hijabees and what some wear. It’s not my place to complain. It’s really none of my business, but seriously, do girls who wear the most revealing clothes think that covering their entire body with tight clothes and covering their hair is making a religious statement? Is it even making a statement other than … ? I don’t know, I think us girls must be modest in our clothing, but making others look at you “that” way is really not Hijab.

My suggestion to those girls, take off your Hijab. Covering your hair is not necessary if you dress like that.

So what do you think?

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  1. Professor Mikey
    January 7th, 2009 at 22:58 | #1
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    Seeing as I’m not a girl or a follower of Allah, I don’t speak from personal experience. However, my feeling is that wearing the head scarf for girls who wear more revealing clothing than the more conservative dress is likely more about self-connection to your personal experience with God and less about making a statement. Why do some Christians wear cross necklaces? Some wear them to draw attention and make a statement, some do it out of personal conviction within. But, outside of that thought, I really don’t have a clue – I’ve always believed that you wear what is comfortable to you, not what someone else tells you to wear whether it be from a higher power, a father or society.

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  2. desperateblogger
    January 7th, 2009 at 23:16 | #2
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    as a mom, i also find it offensive to see girls wearing highly revealing clothes. i don’t really tell my girls what to wear but if they reveal too much, i let them know.

    wearing revealing clothes does not make one a tramp but there are those who might think you are one and therefore treat you as one if they see you in clothes that leaves nothing to the imagination.

    i think this is what you mean when you asked if Muslim girls who wear scant clothes should not wear scarves anymore. i totally get your point.

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  3. Moey Halawaty
    January 8th, 2009 at 09:03 | #3
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    Totally agree. I’ve got the same conversation going on within my family too…

    Their sight is just disturbing.
    I always say, if you didn’t have that Hijab on, you wouldn’t have dared to wear those clothes, but I guess that scarf on their head justifies it. IF they take it off, they would be forced to wear modest clothes.

    I don’t know, it just drives me insane. It’s just stupid, and they’re everywhere!

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  4. Cookie Monster
    January 8th, 2009 at 09:13 | #4
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    In the UK, it is very simillar – there are a lot of girls who wear the hijab and dress ‘inappropriately’. In these circumstances – the hijab is family pressure (most of the time), and nothing else. Infact, in my opinion, I would go as far as saying that the parents dont have any control on these girls and as long as they are ‘covered’, it doesnt matter what they wear.

    In UAE, the Emarti girls leave home wearing a full burqah. When they hit the malls i.e. out of sight of their brothers or fathers, you will see revealing and/or skimpy clothes with the burqah on their arms.

    At the end of the day, I think it is how your parents have brought you up and explained to you what the significance of dressing up properly is. You dont have to wear figure hugging clothes to show your beauty, infact – how long will you maintain that, right? I also think ‘Western’ society has a part to play, and the ‘pressure’ to conform and look like another piece on the production line, plays a huge role in how both men and women (regardless of religion) dress these days.

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  5. Rahul
    January 8th, 2009 at 12:57 | #5
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    This is what you would expect in a traditional family, no doubt about that. But we can see more to often that the younger generation is breaking the rules more and more, and what to say becoming rebellious.

    The elders have been through this and this is what is right for them. But not the case for the younger ones.

    They are bringing the change. and change does not happen in a day or two. It will take time.

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  6. Mona
    January 8th, 2009 at 16:19 | #6
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    @Professor Mikey
    I agree with you!

    @desperateblogger
    see.. it’s always what others think.. that’s why people like me complain about such things. I am also not the only one..

    @Moey Halawaty
    hmm.. good point. If they didn’t wear it, then they definetly wouldn’t be wearing clothes like that.

    @Cookie Monster
    Many girls here leave the house with Hijab on, and go to school and take it off.

    @Rahul
    I agree.. change takes lots of time!

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  7. Lisa365
    January 8th, 2009 at 18:22 | #7
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    I agree with you. Though I’m not Arab or scarf wearing (I’m Christian) I still believe that your dress should be respectful… Not revealing, but not so conservative that you can’t have your neck showing :-)

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  8. Ali Zaidi
    January 9th, 2009 at 05:43 | #8
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    :pirate:

    I think people here (with the author) is somewhat “confused”; or should I say, the idea behind Hijab is not told here.

    The point is not covering the head or the neck or whatever part of the body. It’s about “not giving the chance to the on-looker, who is not a member of immediate family to look at you in an un-respectful way.”

    Now, I don’t mean that people other than the immediate family look at you un-respectfully. I used the phrase “giving them a chance” Wearing a scarf and tight fitting clothes is absurd and personally I find it quite hilarious when these girls say they are abiding to the prescribed Islamic “hijab”!!

    @ Prof. Mikey :
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    I don’t think wearing a scarf is out of personal conviction. This is because wearing a scarf is not an act of faith. It is more following the dress code outlined by the religion. Therefore, one can not match wearing a cross or any religious ornament to wearing a scarf.

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  9. Kristen
    January 10th, 2009 at 18:06 | #9
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    It’s really weird to see these girls wearing hijab & revealing clothes.I actually feel embarrassed by them. Who are they kidding,omg.It’s a big joke. They look ridiculous. No respect for hijabis that wears they hijab the proper way.If I have a choice to cover my hair or body, i wud definitely cover my body first.
    I’m a convert n Alhamdulellah(thank God) I wear the hijab very proudly.

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  10. razik
    January 13th, 2009 at 17:58 | #10
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    “…..I don’t know, I think us girls must be modest in our clothing, but making others look at you “that” way is really not Hijab.

    My suggestion to those girls, take off your Hijab. Covering your hair is not necessary if you dress like that…..”

    You said you think girls must be “modest”in clothing and I see you’ve not covered your hair in your pic….”Modesty” according to Islam is not just covering your body, you think others will not look at you “that way” if you reveal your hair ? If yes, it must be your own explanation about the word “hijab” and “modesty” and not according to Islam and prophet (PBUH) teachings…! you are representing modern Arab woman, and you should not be so rebellous that you ignore our prophet’s (PBUH) teaching and confuse the rest of the world what modesty is accordiing to Ms.Mona, the rebellous, computer graphic designer, modern arab woman….

    Secondly you said it is not necessary to cover your hair if you dont dress-up properly, I understand what you mean, but I would like to know WHERE it is not necessary ??? Is it according to your thoughts ? is it in canada ? OR palestine ? or are you saying it is not necessary in religion ?? If it is, then I do not agree with your suggestion “NOT NECESSARY”….You rather would have said COVERING YOUR HAIR IS AS NECESSARY AS COVERING YOUR BODY IN A PROPER WAY !!

    It is as equal as suggesting those girls who wear revealing clothes to wear NOTHING..and say “it is not necesary to wear clothes if you dress like that” !!

    Anyways,
    I liked your web….appreciate your talent

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  11. reem
    January 21st, 2009 at 12:58 | #11
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    i come from a some what conservative family but i am personally liberal
    ive always dressed the way i wanted 2 nd i wear wat makes me comfortable nd wat i think i look gd in..nd some people may consider them to be revealing however i understand their point of view but at the same time i think they shld respect mine nd my choices…nyways my clothing never used 2 be an issue until my sister moved back to lebanon and wen she came back she came back with a whole new wardrobe that was conservative and the reason for that was because of her worrying abt people talking and judging her…and slowly she strtd commenting on my clothing! i understand the issue of reputation is a big thing in our culture but i find it quite angering that we let petty judgements and talk make us uncomfortable with ourselves and we consider as right…i thik every1 should dress the way they feel comfortable whether it is in hijab or in skirts

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  1. January 8th, 2009 at 00:32 | #1
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