Comments on: Parents are wise, maybe

By: reem

reem — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 17:58:20 +0000

i come from a some what conservative family but i am personally liberal
ive always dressed the way i wanted 2 nd i wear wat makes me comfortable nd wat i think i look gd in..nd some people may consider them to be revealing however i understand their point of view but at the same time i think they shld respect mine nd my choices…nyways my clothing never used 2 be an issue until my sister moved back to lebanon and wen she came back she came back with a whole new wardrobe that was conservative and the reason for that was because of her worrying abt people talking and judging her…and slowly she strtd commenting on my clothing! i understand the issue of reputation is a big thing in our culture but i find it quite angering that we let petty judgements and talk make us uncomfortable with ourselves and we consider as right…i thik every1 should dress the way they feel comfortable whether it is in hijab or in skirts

By: razik

razik — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 22:58:41 +0000

“…..I don�t know, I think us girls must be modest in our clothing, but making others look at you �that� way is really not Hijab.

My suggestion to those girls, take off your Hijab. Covering your hair is not necessary if you dress like that…..”

You said you think girls must be “modest”in clothing and I see you’ve not covered your hair in your pic….”Modesty” according to Islam is not just covering your body, you think others will not look at you “that way” if you reveal your hair ? If yes, it must be your own explanation about the word “hijab” and “modesty” and not according to Islam and prophet (PBUH) teachings…! you are representing modern Arab woman, and you should not be so rebellous that you ignore our prophet’s (PBUH) teaching and confuse the rest of the world what modesty is accordiing to Ms.Mona, the rebellous, computer graphic designer, modern arab woman….

Secondly you said it is not necessary to cover your hair if you dont dress-up properly, I understand what you mean, but I would like to know WHERE it is not necessary ??? Is it according to your thoughts ? is it in canada ? OR palestine ? or are you saying it is not necessary in religion ?? If it is, then I do not agree with your suggestion “NOT NECESSARY”….You rather would have said COVERING YOUR HAIR IS AS NECESSARY AS COVERING YOUR BODY IN A PROPER WAY !!

It is as equal as suggesting those girls who wear revealing clothes to wear NOTHING..and say “it is not necesary to wear clothes if you dress like that” !!

Anyways,
I liked your web….appreciate your talent

By: Kristen

Kristen — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 23:06:49 +0000

It’s really weird to see these girls wearing hijab & revealing clothes.I actually feel embarrassed by them. Who are they kidding,omg.It’s a big joke. They look ridiculous. No respect for hijabis that wears they hijab the proper way.If I have a choice to cover my hair or body, i wud definitely cover my body first.
I’m a convert n Alhamdulellah(thank God) I wear the hijab very proudly.

By: Ali Zaidi

Ali Zaidi — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 10:43:31 +0000

I think people here (with the author) is somewhat “confused”; or should I say, the idea behind Hijab is not told here.

The point is not covering the head or the neck or whatever part of the body. It’s about “not giving the chance to the on-looker, who is not a member of immediate family to look at you in an un-respectful way.”

Now, I don’t mean that people other than the immediate family look at you un-respectfully. I used the phrase “giving them a chance” Wearing a scarf and tight fitting clothes is absurd and personally I find it quite hilarious when these girls say they are abiding to the prescribed Islamic “hijab”!!

@ Prof. Mikey :
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I don’t think wearing a scarf is out of personal conviction. This is because wearing a scarf is not an act of faith. It is more following the dress code outlined by the religion. Therefore, one can not match wearing a cross or any religious ornament to wearing a scarf.

By: Lisa365

Lisa365 — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 23:22:52 +0000

I agree with you. Though I’m not Arab or scarf wearing (I’m Christian) I still believe that your dress should be respectful… Not revealing, but not so conservative that you can’t have your neck showing

By: Mona

Mona — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:19:32 +0000

@Professor Mikey I agree with you! @desperateblogger see.. it's always what others think.. that's why people like me complain about such things. I am also not the only one.. @Moey Halawaty hmm.. good point. If they didn't wear it, then they definetly wouldn't be wearing clothes like that. @Cookie Monster Many girls here leave the house with Hijab on, and go to school and take it off. @Rahul I agree.. change takes lots of time!

By: Rahul

Rahul — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:57:03 +0000

This is what you would expect in a traditional family, no doubt about that. But we can see more to often that the younger generation is breaking the rules more and more, and what to say becoming rebellious.

The elders have been through this and this is what is right for them. But not the case for the younger ones.

They are bringing the change. and change does not happen in a day or two. It will take time.

By: Cookie Monster

Cookie Monster — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 14:13:04 +0000

In the UK, it is very simillar – there are a lot of girls who wear the hijab and dress ‘inappropriately’. In these circumstances – the hijab is family pressure (most of the time), and nothing else. Infact, in my opinion, I would go as far as saying that the parents dont have any control on these girls and as long as they are ‘covered’, it doesnt matter what they wear.

In UAE, the Emarti girls leave home wearing a full burqah. When they hit the malls i.e. out of sight of their brothers or fathers, you will see revealing and/or skimpy clothes with the burqah on their arms.

At the end of the day, I think it is how your parents have brought you up and explained to you what the significance of dressing up properly is. You dont have to wear figure hugging clothes to show your beauty, infact – how long will you maintain that, right? I also think ‘Western’ society has a part to play, and the ‘pressure’ to conform and look like another piece on the production line, plays a huge role in how both men and women (regardless of religion) dress these days.

By: Moey Halawaty

Moey Halawaty — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 14:03:22 +0000

Totally agree. I’ve got the same conversation going on within my family too…

Their sight is just disturbing.
I always say, if you didn’t have that Hijab on, you wouldn’t have dared to wear those clothes, but I guess that scarf on their head justifies it. IF they take it off, they would be forced to wear modest clothes.

I don’t know, it just drives me insane. It’s just stupid, and they’re everywhere!

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