Comments on: Are good people always the victims of life? http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Thu, 18 Mar 2010 13:41:10 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: I gave you twice the chance, and now it is my turn. | Rebellious Arab Girl http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41810 I gave you twice the chance, and now it is my turn. | Rebellious Arab Girl Sat, 17 Jan 2009 21:09:37 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41810 [...] post from two days ago has spurred a lot of debate. I have avoided answering comments regarding the [...] [...] post from two days ago has spurred a lot of debate. I have avoided answering comments regarding the [...]

]]> By: Lela http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41808 Lela Sat, 17 Jan 2009 17:41:42 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41808 <a href="#comment-41802" rel="nofollow">@jade </a> That is not a typical Arab girl. That just shows you have a lot of hate. @jade
That is not a typical Arab girl. That just shows you have a lot of hate.

]]> By: Glenn http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41805 Glenn Sat, 17 Jan 2009 08:47:13 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41805 Jonnhy (Johnny?) You said it "spot on". Also, to Mona, Maybe you find it hard to accept someone into your life (heart). Why limit yourself to a Arab men only? Jonnhy (Johnny?)
You said it “spot on”. Also, to Mona, Maybe you find it hard to accept someone into your life (heart).
Why limit yourself to a
Arab men only?

]]> By: Mash http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41803 Mash Sat, 17 Jan 2009 06:41:03 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41803 you're an idealist. and one of the 'good people'. It's not that nice people finish last it's just that you think that because you're good, good things will happen. Whereas those other people you speak of.. they get what they want because they want it. you’re an idealist. and one of the ‘good people’. It’s not that nice people finish last it’s just that you think that because you’re good, good things will happen.

Whereas those other people you speak of.. they get what they want because they want it.

]]> By: jade http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41802 jade Sat, 17 Jan 2009 06:24:41 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41802 <a href="#comment-41751" rel="nofollow">@Lela</a> Typical Arabic Girl? the definition of that would be an uneducated sleaze bag who goes around dating 6 guys at a time, who never opens a book, doesn't know the real meaning of hard work (because everything is handed down to her) always lies to both her friends and family about where she is going, who is she with, and what is she doing..Some one who thinks the latest news on Paris Hilton is more important than the death rate of those who are suffering in Gaza..who can't even open their mouth and speak with some intelligence, because all they worry about is their looks; plastered piles of makeup on their faces, their hair color is dyed differently every month, and are committing every bad sin in the book....YET...they are living in a lie, they are a lie, and they will die as a lie...they lie about everything and anything so that when it is actually time to settle down, their parents and their potential future partner would not have to question about anything....Now you tell me why should Mona and girls like her ( hence, myself and others) Live a lie? Something that life will teach you is never to change who you are just for someone to like you..they should like you because of you..because of your eye color, because of you smarts both book wise and street wise, because of your heart..and because of you....not because of all this other foolish things like how to pour Arabic coffee in a cup...(as what Mona stated in an earlier blog post) ta hell with conformity..word of advice if you are a good person..why should you change? NEVER CHANGE FOR THE LIKINGS OF SOME ONE ELSE..if he doesn't like something about you that you think is an important aspect to like then you should end it then and there and tell him to plant his seeds elsewhere... <a href="#comment-41754" rel="nofollow">@jilly willy</a> Dude, how the heck was she comparing her self to others? It's her blog she's able to speak freely about what she is going through and how she feels.... <a href="#comment-41758" rel="nofollow">@Professor Mikey</a> You always seem to dazzle me with your comments..the majority of the girls that I know who got married at such a young age end up dreading the fact that they did...In the past 2 weeks I had at least 5-7 customers who came into the place where I work and complained to me about their martial issues! In my mind I was going mad because you would expect these people to be happy (given the fact of the environment where I work..hence a flower shop) But they aren't..the majority of the customers I had ranged from their early 20s (23) to their 60's and they all told me that marriage isn't what it seems to be..a lady told me that marriage isn't everything..there are a lot of people out there who are married but are unhappy and they stick around because of their kids, or financial reasons/problems and what not..I truly believe that in this day and age marriage shouldn't be stressed upon..for sure you will find the person you love..God isn't that cruel..maybe it will take some time..but you can't just expect that person to land fully on your lap you need to get yourself out there..like what they say you meet the nicest people on strange occasions....The thing I hate the most is that people rely on marriage to solve and take away their problems that's why a lot of girls get married at a young age.. A study has proven that the majority of people who thought they would be happier after marriage ended up being more miserable.. <a href="#comment-41776" rel="nofollow">@bingkee</a> Couldn't have said it any better, I'm pretty content that Mona will find someone to share and spend the rest of her life with..it's all in the nick of time...yalla go out to the mall you might bump into your future beau...:P There is absolutely nothing wrong with you darling, your a great person..and these Arab guys who think and act like that would never have a chance with you..(because your way better than that) these girls only run to marriage to get away from their problems..and come on...a father that would accept his daughter to get married at 19-21 must be on dope or something..he just wants to get rid of her right away..because A; shes giving hi ma hard time or B: he cant afford having her live at home....One day you will be "happily" married..you've been through it all Mona, you have a good head on your shoulders don't let people and things like this bother you..I know how you feel and where you stand..God isn't cruel... @Lela
Typical Arabic Girl? the definition of that would be an uneducated sleaze bag who goes around dating 6 guys at a time, who never opens a book, doesn’t know the real meaning of hard work (because everything is handed down to her) always lies to both her friends and family about where she is going, who is she with, and what is she doing..Some one who thinks the latest news on Paris Hilton is more important than the death rate of those who are suffering in Gaza..who can’t even open their mouth and speak with some intelligence, because all they worry about is their looks; plastered piles of makeup on their faces, their hair color is dyed differently every month, and are committing every bad sin in the book….YET…they are living in a lie, they are a lie, and they will die as a lie…they lie about everything and anything so that when it is actually time to settle down, their parents and their potential future partner would not have to question about anything….Now you tell me why should Mona and girls like her ( hence, myself and others) Live a lie?
Something that life will teach you is never to change who you are just for someone to like you..they should like you because of you..because of your eye color, because of you smarts both book wise and street wise, because of your heart..and because of you….not because of all this other foolish things like how to pour Arabic coffee in a cup…(as what Mona stated in an earlier blog post) ta hell with conformity..word of advice if you are a good person..why should you change? NEVER CHANGE FOR THE LIKINGS OF SOME ONE ELSE..if he doesn’t like something about you that you think is an important aspect to like then you should end it then and there and tell him to plant his seeds elsewhere…

@jilly willy
Dude, how the heck was she comparing her self to others? It’s her blog she’s able to speak freely about what she is going through and how she feels….

@Professor Mikey
You always seem to dazzle me with your comments..the majority of the girls that I know who got married at such a young age end up dreading the fact that they did…In the past 2 weeks I had at least 5-7 customers who came into the place where I work and complained to me about their martial issues! In my mind I was going mad because you would expect these people to be happy (given the fact of the environment where I work..hence a flower shop) But they aren’t..the majority of the customers I had ranged from their early 20s (23) to their 60’s and they all told me that marriage isn’t what it seems to be..a lady told me that marriage isn’t everything..there are a lot of people out there who are married but are unhappy and they stick around because of their kids, or financial reasons/problems and what not..I truly believe that in this day and age marriage shouldn’t be stressed upon..for sure you will find the person you love..God isn’t that cruel..maybe it will take some time..but you can’t just expect that person to land fully on your lap you need to get yourself out there..like what they say you meet the nicest people on strange occasions….The thing I hate the most is that people rely on marriage to solve and take away their problems that’s why a lot of girls get married at a young age.. A study has proven that the majority of people who thought they would be happier after marriage ended up being more miserable..

@bingkee
Couldn’t have said it any better, I’m pretty content that Mona will find someone to share and spend the rest of her life with..it’s all in the nick of time…yalla go out to the mall you might bump into your future beau…:P

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you darling, your a great person..and these Arab guys who think and act like that would never have a chance with you..(because your way better than that)
these girls only run to marriage to get away from their problems..and come on…a father that would accept his daughter to get married at 19-21 must be on dope or something..he just wants to get rid of her right away..because A; shes giving hi ma hard time or B: he cant afford having her live at home….One day you will be “happily” married..you’ve been through it all Mona, you have a good head on your shoulders don’t let people and things like this bother you..I know how you feel and where you stand..God isn’t cruel…

]]> By: Jonnhy http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41799 Jonnhy Sat, 17 Jan 2009 02:45:03 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41799 Well, life is how people make things happen, not only as personal choices but the people around too, the culture, the government, the useless religions... Guess the only way to really not be a victim is to realize that we are only victimized by our own choices, nothing beyond that, no magic explanations or excuses. Found your blog searching for a picture, it's nice. =) Cheers, good luck. Well, life is how people make things happen, not only as personal choices but the people around too, the culture, the government, the useless religions… Guess the only way to really not be a victim is to realize that we are only victimized by our own choices, nothing beyond that, no magic explanations or excuses.

Found your blog searching for a picture, it’s nice. =)

Cheers, good luck.

]]> By: Brian http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41797 Brian Sat, 17 Jan 2009 01:00:31 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41797 i like you just the way you are. honestly. good things come to those who wait....even if it means waiting awhile. i like you just the way you are. honestly. good things come to those who wait….even if it means waiting awhile.

]]> By: Cookie Monster http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41796 Cookie Monster Sat, 17 Jan 2009 00:01:51 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41796 <a href="#comment-41758" rel="nofollow">@Professor Mikey</a> You make a very good point! My ex was simillar in the sense - she wanted a relationship, and all the effort from my side (ofcourse), but also wanted her full fledged freedom like a single person. Relationships are not about I's but about We's. I guess a lot of people don't understand that, but I can see that you appreciate this! :) <a href="#comment-41791" rel="nofollow">@Mona</a> "I am speaking in the terms that life has not been fair to me." - A friend recently mentioned to me (in an attempt to comfort me during a tricky period for me) - Good guys don't come last anymore; they get disqualified. Life is not fair - we know that... but always remember - you rather be happy with someone who cares for you forever rather than short periods of joy, and long periods of struggle. Your ethics and morals are known to you, and are actually worth something not only here, but also in the hereafter; keep that in mind, and give life a chance. 2009 is the year for change - let's hope and pray for it! :) <a href="#comment-41776" rel="nofollow">@bingkee</a> I like what you are saying :) <a href="#comment-41751" rel="nofollow">@Lela</a> <a href="#comment-41756" rel="nofollow">@Nana</a> <a href="#comment-41752" rel="nofollow">@Mona</a> Guys! Isn't stereotyping arab girls a bad idea? Does a "typical" arab girl, in this day and age, really exist? Is that the sound of sharp cat paws I hear? *runs* @Professor Mikey
You make a very good point! My ex was simillar in the sense – she wanted a relationship, and all the effort from my side (ofcourse), but also wanted her full fledged freedom like a single person. Relationships are not about I’s but about We’s. I guess a lot of people don’t understand that, but I can see that you appreciate this! :)

@Mona
“I am speaking in the terms that life has not been fair to me.” – A friend recently mentioned to me (in an attempt to comfort me during a tricky period for me) – Good guys don’t come last anymore; they get disqualified. Life is not fair – we know that… but always remember – you rather be happy with someone who cares for you forever rather than short periods of joy, and long periods of struggle. Your ethics and morals are known to you, and are actually worth something not only here, but also in the hereafter; keep that in mind, and give life a chance. 2009 is the year for change – let’s hope and pray for it! :)

@bingkee
I like what you are saying :)

@Lela @Nana @Mona
Guys! Isn’t stereotyping arab girls a bad idea? Does a “typical” arab girl, in this day and age, really exist? Is that the sound of sharp cat paws I hear? *runs*

]]> By: Lela http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41794 Lela Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:31:16 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41794 <a href="#comment-41756" rel="nofollow">@Nana </a> I said MAYBE act like the typical arab girl. Some guys and families are looking for girls like that. But I said, "In the end it's only what feels right for her." And her answer was clear. She will never change who she is for a guy. I was not considered a typical arab girl either and have been told I need to change. I was just giving advise I have recieved before. @Nana
I said MAYBE act like the typical arab girl. Some guys and families are looking for girls like that. But I said, “In the end it’s only what feels right for her.” And her answer was clear. She will never change who she is for a guy. I was not considered a typical arab girl either and have been told I need to change. I was just giving advise I have recieved before.

]]> By: sami soni http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/01/15/are-good-people-always-the-victims-of-life/comment-page-1/#comment-41793 sami soni Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:16:47 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=4550#comment-41793 I think Mona you r overexhausting your brain's muscles a little bit 2much....I too am 10% worried about myself and have come down 2 Mumbai 4rm Dubai 4 d same(marriage)...3-4months here..Spent plenty of my hard-earned money..no lucks yet!!But mine is a bit different story...I am a divorcee(married a English girl inspite of being coming 4rm a very conservative Hindu family)its hardly lasted 12 months...I had fought wid my family and married against their admission...see now/ I too am lonely but am not suffering..I take each day as my last day and enjoying, focusing om my targets,client's deadlines etc...& ofcouse personal hobbies. I am not sorry 4 anything or dont expect anyone to feel sorry for me: I hate this lame-duck-emotions-self pity!! You're v.good looking women with good brains & humble nature...I think the other way round::Who is that unlucky-pathetic arab turd who dont wanna marry you? coz he aint knowing what's he missing!!..so Stay Tough & Kool as u r!! I think Mona you r overexhausting your brain’s muscles a little bit 2much….I too am 10% worried about myself and have come down 2 Mumbai 4rm Dubai 4 d same(marriage)…3-4months here..Spent plenty of my hard-earned money..no lucks yet!!But mine is a bit different story…I am a divorcee(married a English girl inspite of being coming 4rm a very conservative Hindu family)its hardly lasted 12 months…I had fought wid my family and married against their admission…see now/ I too am lonely but am not suffering..I take each day as my last day and enjoying, focusing om my targets,client’s deadlines etc…& ofcouse personal hobbies. I am not sorry 4 anything or dont expect anyone to feel sorry for me: I hate this lame-duck-emotions-self pity!! You’re v.good looking women with good brains & humble nature…I think the other way round::Who is that unlucky-pathetic arab turd who dont wanna marry you? coz he aint knowing what’s he missing!!..so Stay Tough & Kool as u r!!

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