Comments on: When I rather choke my self to a coma

By: Cookie Monster

Cookie Monster — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 18:54:40 +0000

@Mona
I’ll send you a digital invite and broadcast the wedding online… don’t worry…. just make sure you don’t miss the invitation post on my blog

I’ve enjoyed the comments on this post!

By: Ana

Ana — Sat, 31 Jan 2009 23:03:59 +0000

oh mona, that was really good… and so true, especially the one about the degrees.

By: Sapphire

Sapphire — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 20:56:50 +0000

I’ve been asked if I’ve got a boyfriend by family wondering why I am still single and unattached. Even friends have tried to hook me up with guys but of course I am not going on some blind date with some guy they think is cute. I don’t know why but I am not interested in dating and most guys I have no interest in what so ever. I guess I am not needy or maybe it’s because I live in a town full of butt ugly guys. Who knows!

By: jackieh

jackieh — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:25:46 +0000

I think that kind of thing happens when social pressure is (at least perceived as) so dictatorial and oppressive that no one dares to defy it at the expense of… something hey consider essential to their lives (even if it is only social integration in their native group, but sometimes it reaches far beyond that) but there is that urge for individual freedom of choice and the desire and need to live their own lives according to their own standards… so they become kind of neurotic, double-bound, and in order to escape this they try to satisfy both by pandering to everyone and everything, avoiding conflict while playing double-faced (and playing extreme in their hidden life, which is their only space “allowed” for rebellion – and they are more “blindly rebelling” – doing just the opposite of what they’re being told to do in their “open” life just in order to prove themselves that they don’t care and that they are smarter than that – than really trying to get something of what they really want out of it, or even trying to find themselves in the first place)… instead of starting by “putting their own house in order” in the first place, trying to recognise what they *really* want and what is *really* important for them, and asserting themselves in the open at the expense of conflict (or of worse in some cases we will have to admit!).

Problem is, it is themselves and their own personalities that get destroyed in the process by all the confusion involved – trying so hard to please everyone and to be accepted everywhere (while doing blindly underground everything forbidden by the others) that at the end of the day they no longer know themselves who they are and what they want for themselves.

Social pressure is a damn destructive thing. Opposing it is tiring at best and can cost a lot at worst, and by surviving underground one loses one’s own soul…

There should be a book on how to rebel intelligently enough to *really* survive and come out in the open

By: Mona

Mona — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:06:35 +0000

See, everyone has experienced something similar to what I wrote.. boy or girl, Arab or non-Arab. Life is purely the same everywhere!

By: Malika

Malika — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 09:43:45 +0000

ur so right… I agree with everything. especially about arab girls who think that covering their boobs is enough. at my school there are ‘special arab’ girls,LOL.. they leave the house with a long coat, long skirt.. and when they arrive at school, the coat goes off and the long skirt makes place for a short one… yep, thats their way.. i hate those people…

and u know, they dont talk to guys.. they do other things with them, no talking involved… and then playing a sweet little innocent girl at home…

By: Professor Mikey

Professor Mikey — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:10:50 +0000

So, does that make me old now? I got my masters of fine arts when I was 25 (now 27) :-{ I don’t wanna feel old yet, wanted to wait until I was 30. j/k.

I have heard and seen this kind of talk by people – my parents one of them, they are in denial.

By: Diggy

Diggy — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 06:16:19 +0000

:D:D
Haha such a nice post.
I don’t think it’s JUST related to the arab culture though, I think all mothers in general like to believe their children are innocent.

I was in Dubai 2 years ago, and from what I saw young people are not as innocent as they are supposed to be;)
Guys drink and girls do other things;)

By: Nithya

Nithya — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 01:30:49 +0000

Hahaha I have escaped this trap because I’m a 22 year old Indian girl who’s engaged…to a white guy! I’ve had all the same get-a-degree marry-rich look-after-yourself-better-or-you’ll-never-get-a-man but now it doesn’t apply as I have a man, degree and job. Plus it makes them all uncomfortable to talk about it cos OMG he’s white! So I’m not putting some other Indian recent grauate under unecessary pressure and all I get is hi-how’s-the-weather-bye! Highly recommended :up:

By: Mona

Mona — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 21:02:16 +0000

@Cookie Monster
So when you getting married? Or are you infected by the disease of not wanting to marry called Rebellious Arab Girl!