[This is me, Mona, with a frustrated facial reaction every time I read ridiculous emails and comments.]
My normal day:
1. I wake up, do my morning duties, eat breakfast, drink coffee, and check my emails.
2. As I am reading emails, I laugh, cry, cringe from disgust, and answer people’s questions.
3. I ignore half the emails I get because people are so persistent to piss me off.
4. I read every single email, unless the person keeps emailing me because I ignore them 10 times, and they still will never understand. You are spam to me now!
5. People read my old posts and wonder, what? And email me or message me with utter confusion and hatred.
6. People judge me because of the title of the site, and think the only way to comment or email me is by being disrespectful, negative and ridiculing.
7. I get really peculiar emails from Arab girls with their problems, and expect me to give them the advice they want to hear. Yet, I am a very conservative person when it comes to many Arab life issues.
8. I watch TV, read news, and check out latest blog technologies and cool new web applications.
9. I drop 300 Entrecard cards on 300 websites a day. I read some of those blogs, and I am frustrated by the same design that people use. STOP USING BLOGGER.com!
10. If I answered any emails, I get replies back with the following tone: angry, thankful, pissed off, or happy.
11. If I ignored someone’s email or deleted their comments, I get 4 or 5 pissed off emails that I skim through or completely ignore.
12. I have a web server running on my machine, and I test new things throughout the day, and see what is appropriate.
13. I am currently planning a couple of new ideas, and I haven’t been sitting on the computer for more than an hour so I can actually work on them.
14. I end up drinking 3 or 4 cups of coffee, and become too jittery to think anymore.
15. I spend an hour reading and watching girlie videos about makeup, hair, etc.
16. I count the minutes, hours, and days till my wish of getting a real nice and good job where I can meet new people and share my skills and persona.
17. I go to bed, and sleep by 11:30 pm and repeat it all again the next day.
That’s my day.
Now a few RANTS.
I am sick and tired of people judging me by my site’s title. I am sick and tired of people giving me religious advice thinking they can cure me from my rebellious ways. I am sick and tired of people trying to analyze me by focusing on the word rebellious and not anything else that I write. I am sick and tired of people thinking that if I don’t listen to them or agree with them, that I am a very horrible person and should be ridiculed some more.
Honestly, I did everything I could. I automatically got the comments on each post to close after 7 days. I tried to give people some freedom in writing comments without me moderating. I tried to be as democratic as possible when dealing with people’s comments and emails. I feel like I am a president of a country and I am trying to please everyone. However, I am not ANYONE and I am a very stubborn opinionated person. When I say something, I will not go back and change it or change my opinion to match yours. If you don’t like it, then find someone else that will worship your worthless advice. That’s my rebellious thinking! I will not agree that easily, and God gave me the will power and brain power to make my own decisions and formulate my own opinions.
What puzzles me is people’s persistence in me agreeing with them, or forcing me to read their opinion. I am not interested in anything that is forced to my face. I am a human being. I decided to have a blog to share my life, my thoughts on certain cultural and worldly issues, to have some fun writing and enhancing the skill of writing, to be creative in web design, and try to formulate a community of readers that I enjoy reading their opinions of what I say. I love people! However, I dislike morons and closed minded individuals.
Another thing, I am sick and tired of people giving me religious advice. It’s only Arabs I swear to God. And 90% of those Arabs are male. First off, how can you be 100% sure I am a Muslim? 20% of Arabs are Christians. I am not saying I am denying my Islamic faith, but don’t give advice to a person that you know nothing about or bothered to research. My faith is for me to live by, for me to follow, and for me only as a human being. I cannot spread religion, and I don’t want people to force it on me. I know how to read Arabic. I know the Islamic laws and rules. I follow my faith 100%, and I never sway from it. I am more Arabic and more religious and conservative than half the Muslims that I ever met in my life. Yet, I never judge anyone. I don’t care. It’s not my problem. It’s between that person and God.
Lastly, I am very Arabic. My way of life is very conservative. I don’t go out much. I never been to clubs, bars, dancing, etc. I don’t do anything. I am more quiet and more to my self than anyone you met. I continue writing on this blog and I am proud of it because I can write rebellious thoughts of the ridiculous new Arabic traditions or messed up traditions that have no bases, and I question them. I talk about life of an normal Arabic girl. In the end of the day, I view my self as a really good person, and I never in a million years thought of doing anything that opposes my religion or culture as a whole. I am just another girl, who has rebellious thoughts against certain issues. THAT’S ALL!
I am going to make this post as a warning post from now on before another idiot emails me. Ay.. what a day.
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Mona ..
I really appreciated your statement regarding the Internet. I’ve got my own love/hate affair with the Internet, too.
At least today, you gave me the gift of knowing that I am not alone in my feelings, so thank you.
Mona! You go girl! No care to be liked for agreeing or seeing eye to eye with anyone. How boring would it be if we all agreed. All disagreements with respect and with the open mind for growth!
I’m afraid you will be dealing with this no matter what you say. The internet gives you freedom to write, but it also gives others the freedom to think their opinion matters. Don’t let it get you down too much, especially if the person only knows you through your site, just leave them in the dust along the road.
I bet most of these jerks and morons would be nice as pie to your face in real life. The perceived anonymity of the internet brings out the moron or jerk in some people.
Mona, I just stumbled across your blog. You seem like a very nice person. I’m sorry you get alot of crap thrown at you. Nobody deserves that. I also understand your frustrations with the internet. I have felt the very same way at times. It can be very exhausting… sometimes I feel so much better when I just shut my computer down and find something else to do.
God bless you!
I used to be just like that. Never would I change my mind or agree with anyone. Even when deep down I knew they were right. Now I learned to just be real. If what someone is saying is true I will back down and agree.
-I’m the conservitive muslim girl who doesn’t cover her hair.
-I’m the shy girl who didn’t know how to socialize with people.
-I’m the girl who said I will never marry anyone from back home so they can’t use me as a free ticket.
-I’m the girl who wouldn’t chanage my opinon or agree with anyone if the world counted on it.
People didn’t like me and thought I was crazy.
I feel like I used to be similar to you. But I learned I was only hurting myself.
Another great post. Every time you say something like this, you clarify your views which is great. I got a lot of assertiveness from reading this blog. I think that there are many, many readers who like to hear what you have to say and only a fraction of them who harass you.
Until I got married, I never knew the crap that women tossed at them. It would make a tough guy cry! Anyway, keep it up.
You got a lot off your chest, girl
For some reason, Internet gives certain people false sense of security to put down or judge another person however they want to, yet they would never say same things to your face. That is one problem I see with the Internet. Just because you can’t see the person, it does not mean they don’t have feelings. Good on you for standing up to those know-it-alls. 
I can see why you are so frustrated. Some people can be real dumbasses. I can only imagine that a few of them won’t even take the time to read this post and go ahead and make those comments to you again. I learned the hard way you can’t let what other people say or do get to you. Just delete their emails or comments and let them live in their own self-ignorance. But with luck you may have gotten to some of them with this post and they will learn their lesson.
LOL – Thanks for the laugh
Yes, definitely the tempestuous Mona we’ve all come to know and love. Of course, I’m glad there’s an ocean between us, you’re far too dangerous
I could not help but smile at your post, even though the content was more contemptous than humourous. I like the way you bring wit to describe a situation.
What can you say, internet brings out the worst in us (by us, I mean people). I’m sure those same people will be more civil face to face, but they assume it’s their right to ‘bash’ anyone and everyone if they are hiding behind a screen.
Losers
Have a good day!
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Hi Mona,
I’m not a regular reader, but I understand what you’re saying. And the comments about people being bolder, foolish and rude when they have the protection of anonymity of the ‘Net are quite true.
You sound a lot like my girlfriend — who has to deal the same sort of idiocy. When you’re smart and assertive, people will either like or admire you, or attack you out of jealousy, fear, or simple stupidity.
If it’s any consolation, the fact that you have to deal with all that nonsense only means you’re doing something right. I’d like to finish with something positive and uplifting, but something lame like “hang in there” is all that comes to mind. Ah! Something else came to mind.
You’re doing something right — keep it up!
grace you need.
truth brings grace.
I believe in something very simple, and I guess if you really whant to force the issue, you can say is every individual’s right – the right to an opinion.
It is very frustrating to see people everywhere have an opinion but not consider someone elses in turn. It’s like denying that a coin has two faces – everything has atleast two sides of explanation, each valid enough. The value of accepting each others’ view is the reason why there is no unity in any level of society at the moment.
And don’t get me started on the religion bashers….