Sorry, but I can never say such things
I would never call my self shy. I am not shy at all, but I am reserved and I don’t really talk in public or in front of people much. You can say that I only talk when I am spoken to or have to. It’s not that I don’t know what to say, but maybe I have that little fear inside me that won’t go away when speaking to others. Like, did I talk too much? Did I say something I wasn’t supposed to say?
Then, my mom pointed out the obvious today in a conversation about the various types of Arabs she interacts with.
Me: Do you like to talk to all kind of Arabs because you have to?
Mom: No. Some people are just horrible to work with, they say the weirdest things, and so demanding and rude. What can I do? That’s just the way the world is.
Me: I would never say anything mean or rude ever to someone I don’t know. I do it to my sister, but she is my sister. I have fun, but no way to strangers or anyone older than me.
Mom: You and your sister need to get out more. You two are so shy and don’t interact with other human beings at all. Look at other girls.
Me: Mom, I didn’t mean that! I am not shy, I am talking about being rude or demanding to strangers or people I don’t really know very well.
Mom: You two don’t talk to other people at all and have zero interaction with other people. How long will you keep this life style?
I rolled my eyes and ended the conversation. It was going no where.
All I can say, I can never be like other people. Yes, in a weird way I am sort of shy, but I don’t really like to talk to any one just like that. Also, I can never be rude or demanding. I can’t even do that at the mall. Never in my life was I ever mad at customer service. I am an ideal customer! 
Why no one understands me? If I start interacting or being a bit more open, will it change who I am or my entire life style? No. I will just get more headaches and more stories to write about my discontent with people’s behaviours.
I think I am fine just the way I am. Don’t you think?
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I don’t believe one needs to interact with others just in order to ‘talk to someone’. Who knows, you may be saving yourself from a heartache by staying away from some people. You know yourself, and who your friends are – that’s what matters.
I was once being told off at work for being ‘nice’ – how silly is that, am I supposed to be mean to people that I deal with on a daily basis…arghh! Something is wrong with the world Mona, not with you!
its great to stay away from people and just don’t talk with them because you will save yourself from a bad headache
It’s totally up to you to decide if you’re fine or not the way you are. If you’re happy as a solitary lady with the company of tried and tested good friends and family then you’re fine. If you’re lonely or think you need more compant, then get out more. Simple as that.
Just because you strike up a conversation with a stranger doesn’t make you rude or demanding. You just need to be able to pick up body signals well enough to know if they’re happy to chat while waiting in a queue or whatever or if they’re trying to get you to shut up
Personally for me I think the heartbreak of getting close to people and then being disappointed is worth it because of the few who never disappoint and I’ve stayed close with.
But yes, I can understand that if you’re happy the way you are then even the smallest headache isn’t worth it!
Keep being nice, friendly, and smiling — you’re life will be better for it!
Wow.. I have not commented back to you guys in a couple of days. So what’s up? Thanks for the advice. I think I will stay the way I am. I am happier this way!
I used to be more quiet just like you but I had to force myself to be more talkative to get any where in the world. Unfortunately employers don’t like shy quiet types. They think we lack self confidence and maybe they are right. I don’t know. All I know is being more talkative tends to go against my very nature that is why I try to avoid having to talk on the phone for more than 10 minutes at a time. I would rather be up and walking about doing something rather than just sitting there shooting the breeze over the phone with someone.
If you are polite and courteous with customer service people, you are unique!
Be true to yourself.
Hi Mona! Just be yourself and ul be happier that way. As for me, I’m known to be a tantrum thrower, but only when customer service really really sucks!
If you were a hermit and never had any contact with someone else or ran away if someone spoke to you, I’d be concerned. But you sound more like me. I like to listen and watch the world around me. That doesn’t me I don’t participate or never talk to someone I don’t know, but I don’t just randomly strike up a conversation with strangers. My mom, on the other hand, talks to anyone and everyone and somehow learns their life story in a matter of 3 minutes. It’s talent.
Kelly
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