I smell a giant rat

i was kinda young and my best friend on our bitter sweet street wanted to rule the clan, or the club that we had devised with the neighborhood kids. I remember feeling that the whole room was plotting against me, and they all wanted to coup de ta my butt outta there. god only knows what i did to spark this but. it ended in a handshake and a peace agreement…haha i make it sound so official but it was really a harmless tween thing. other than that its been a loooong time since someone has done such a thing to me. i pick and choose my friends carefully.

Dude, I went to an all girls school. Out of the 180 girls I’d meet and mix with from my year through various classes I have two friends I’ve kept as they’re the only ones who haven’t bitched behind my back at some point. I hate that girls would put on this sweet we-should-hang-out attitude but then if I was too busy to help them with their coursework they’d inform everyone who cared to listen that I was a selfish bitch . I’ve never had any elaborate plans against me though! I hope nothing too stressful’s going on with you x

This happened at a job. People always trying to make me look bad. I was accused of stealing drugs and syringes. Another worker stuck up for me. She didn’t apologize or anything just waited till the next time she could blame her incompetence on me.

backbiting is such a painful and easy way to hurt someone. its crap when someone youve trusted hurts you and its so hard to get over with.
Mona, if your gut is warning you then listen to it. using the gut feeling is like a chess or poker masters way of winning the game. use your heart as well. let it fill up with water, and when it feels weird or down then something is about to happen, kinda like a martial artists way of guessing where the next punch is going to be thrown from.

I can only imagine this is somebody close to you, or somebody you have to put up with. I have these friends, istaqfirullah you dont know fake untill you meet them, and they are plain mean, have you ever seen girls who want the worst for you, wallah they go out of their way to make sure they make you feel like shit, and their shit talking is unbeilevable (prolly i made a spelling mistake) Ya lahwi ! i swear to you these girls talk shit about you right infront of your face, and you hear it, it never happened to me YET, but ofcourse they talk alot, one of them has been talking about me since september, and i never catch it, because its very obvious they can say “omg me ? i never said that, what are you talking about” and because this girl has a higher social standard, its her word against mine and the girl who tells me this(the girl is totally trustable). I learned from that day on, to stay away from them and stay quiet. FUNNY THING, they shit talk about me being quiet, and staying away from them.

Backstabing at work is a given, and eventually you start backstabing them back, which sometimes evolve into a large percent of your daily task.

@Mona, if your instinct is correct you can start a new service here: Rebellious Arab Girl psychic services, and you can also translate the services page into Arabic and I bet you that you will be set for life! You will be the online miss Clio? Klio?
And with your Arabic name, your credability Is unmatched and high as the sky.

I can’t recall any backbiting against me or from me, but I used to work in a restaurant and whenever one of the waitresses were off the others would say a lot of crap about her. The funny thing is is when that waitress is back the next day and another one is off that same waitress would join in on saying things about her. One day I gave one of the waitresses a ride home because she had no car and she said that she knows that the other waitresses say things about her when she’s not around. Its like they all know that they do this to each other but they continue to do so. Now that I think of it, even as just a busboy they were probably saying a lot of things about me when I wasn’t around. I broke a lot of dishes, I’m sure things were said.

@Mona, I do appologies, it will not occur again.

I was betrayed at 14 by two girls I thought were my friends and made fun of me through the whole school, and it took some time for me, first to realise it because I think I did not want to see it and end up alone – and then to react properly to it…

Maybe because of that I grew paranoid over a few years whenever I heard a group of people bursting out laughing in my neighbourhood (I always thought the joke was about me somehow…) and it was not until 40 that I began again to trust people enough to really have friendships… during years telling “all about me” to any other human being was just unthinkable…

Yes youthful hurts sometimes last quite a long time. I know that when we grow old we should be able to relativise some issues and tell ourselves that “it was just some stupid teenage thing”, yes… but, first of all sometimes the process takes longer than expected – and then you know issues are always proportional to what we can handle at any time of life, thus “only some teenage thing” lived through as a teenager is no less serious than an adult issue lived through at adult age…

Of course it is always much less serious than having an adult issue forced upon you when you are not an adult yet (thank God I was lucky enough in life to have never experienced that )