Comments on: Weighing my life options http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:30:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Leeroy Glinchy http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44355 Leeroy Glinchy Mon, 11 May 2009 19:39:19 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44355 OK, no advice, but please don't hurt yourself. That would make me and the other readers upset. We are all rooting for you. We know you will find the answer _on your own._ Remember, you were the one who keeps teaching us to stand up for ourselves in everyday life. I know I am going to read the blog and you are going to married _and_ get a dream job. Also, I know that it's going to be so much better for waiting. 30 is NOT old. It's just not. OK, no advice, but please don’t hurt yourself. That would make me and the other readers upset. We are all rooting for you.

We know you will find the answer _on your own._

Remember, you were the one who keeps teaching us to stand up for ourselves in everyday life.

I know I am going to read the blog and you are going to married _and_ get a dream job. Also, I know that it’s going to be so much better for waiting. 30 is NOT old. It’s just not.

]]> By: Maria http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44347 Maria Mon, 11 May 2009 12:43:17 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44347 hmm i see, so is it becuase of a personal choice or a family reason? hmm i see, so is it becuase of a personal choice or a family reason?

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44338 Mona Sun, 10 May 2009 13:30:18 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44338 <a href="#comment-44329" rel="nofollow">@Maria</a> You reading my mine. At times I do feel like I should go live back home.. I know there is more opportunities there for an Arab!! Oh well, you can tell I am stuck here! @Maria
You reading my mine. At times I do feel like I should go live back home.. I know there is more opportunities there for an Arab!! Oh well, you can tell I am stuck here!

]]> By: Topics about Arab » Weighing my life options http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44330 Topics about Arab » Weighing my life options Sun, 10 May 2009 09:17:52 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44330 [...] Dubai Chronicle added an interesting post today on Weighing my life optionsHere’s a small readingblame them for one last thing, the white or grey hair growth since I was 25. And yes, I blame most of it on being an Arab! Mom: “How come all those girls have jobs? Why can’t you get a job?” When I hear that, I want to go and lock my self in a room and scream [...] [...] Dubai Chronicle added an interesting post today on Weighing my life optionsHere’s a small readingblame them for one last thing, the white or grey hair growth since I was 25. And yes, I blame most of it on being an Arab! Mom: “How come all those girls have jobs? Why can’t you get a job?” When I hear that, I want to go and lock my self in a room and scream [...]

]]> By: Maria http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44329 Maria Sun, 10 May 2009 07:36:01 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44329 Hola Mona, I know this a bit outrageous from my side :down: , but I was just wondering, Why don’t you move out to an Arabic country. In most capital cities cultural issues are no longer a barrier as it used to be. So it’s a two in one, you can immediately find an awesome job, and your English skills all adds up :up: :up: , these days its a huge credit and one of the most desirable skills, ooh and the economic crisis isn’t that bad, with exception to UAE of course. Plus you’ll be surrounded by people closer to you environment and lifestyle, it will be easier to fit in, and they’re deff far more open-minded than the ppl u describe in ur blog posts :shock: Eh,anyways just hold on, its not worth it Best wishes ;D Hola Mona, I know this a bit outrageous from my side :down: , but I was just wondering, Why don’t you move out to an Arabic country. In most capital cities cultural issues are no longer a barrier as it used to be. So it’s a two in one, you can immediately find an awesome job, and your English skills all adds up :up: :up: , these days its a huge credit and one of the most desirable skills, ooh and the economic crisis isn’t that bad, with exception to UAE of course. Plus you’ll be surrounded by people closer to you environment and lifestyle, it will be easier to fit in, and they’re deff far more open-minded than the ppl u describe in ur blog posts :shock:
Eh,anyways just hold on, its not worth it
Best wishes ;D

]]> By: OKsana http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44328 OKsana Sun, 10 May 2009 06:05:27 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44328 Enjoy the mid term in your life :grin: I'm jobless and unemployed! Got no money to pay next month's rent. My marriage is put on hold for external reasons, and I'm hanging in between. And yea, I'm loving it! Enjoy it while it lasts! Enjoy the mid term in your life :grin: I’m jobless and unemployed! Got no money to pay next month’s rent. My marriage is put on hold for external reasons, and I’m hanging in between.
And yea, I’m loving it! Enjoy it while it lasts!

]]> By: Brian http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44327 Brian Sun, 10 May 2009 04:54:42 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44327 i think a little feathered grey in the hair is sexy. :grin: i think a little feathered grey in the hair is sexy. :grin:

]]> By: Sapphire http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44318 Sapphire Sat, 09 May 2009 21:59:10 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44318 I wouldn't get married just because everyone else is doing it. If everyone else was jumping off a cliff would you do it too? Half of all marriages end up in divorce anyways. There are plenty of people out there that wished they never had gotten married and had kids. The wake up one day when they are older and alone and look back think what the hell did I do with my life. So many dreams put on hold to raise kids who turned out to be ungrateful brats. Some people think the only way to be an adult is to marry and have kids but it isn't and there is no need to give into social pressure and do something you don't want to do. There are plenty of people out there that have never married and had kids but live fulfilling lives and are quite happy single despite people telling them they couldn't possibly be happy. All I can say is your future happiness is up to you and you alone. It is not your parent’s responsibility to make you happy and it is certainly not their responsibility to find you your future mate unless you going the arranged marriage route which I don't think you want to do. By the way, it is never too late to marry. There are women and men out there that marry for the first time when they are in their 70's and even 80's for love. :grin: I wouldn’t get married just because everyone else is doing it. If everyone else was jumping off a cliff would you do it too? Half of all marriages end up in divorce anyways. There are plenty of people out there that wished they never had gotten married and had kids. The wake up one day when they are older and alone and look back think what the hell did I do with my life. So many dreams put on hold to raise kids who turned out to be ungrateful brats.

Some people think the only way to be an adult is to marry and have kids but it isn’t and there is no need to give into social pressure and do something you don’t want to do. There are plenty of people out there that have never married and had kids but live fulfilling lives and are quite happy single despite people telling them they couldn’t possibly be happy. All I can say is your future happiness is up to you and you alone. It is not your parent’s responsibility to make you happy and it is certainly not their responsibility to find you your future mate unless you going the arranged marriage route which I don’t think you want to do.

By the way, it is never too late to marry. There are women and men out there that marry for the first time when they are in their 70′s and even 80′s for love. :grin:

]]> By: Patricia http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44312 Patricia Sat, 09 May 2009 14:35:31 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44312 I can see your situation from two perspectives. I remember being your age and wanting to get away from my parents who were pressuring me about job and marriage. Now, as a mother, I understand where they were coming from. I try hard not to pressure my two adult children but am concerned for them. I want them both to have jobs that they LOVE and I also want them to have someone to love, but NOT just to satisfy ME. I just want them to be happy, but that may seem to them that I am pushing them to do what I want. It's really hard as a parent not to want to help your children in any way possible achieve their dreams--both professional and personal. Hang in there! I can see your situation from two perspectives. I remember being your age and wanting to get away from my parents who were pressuring me about job and marriage. Now, as a mother, I understand where they were coming from. I try hard not to pressure my two adult children but am concerned for them. I want them both to have jobs that they LOVE and I also want them to have someone to love, but NOT just to satisfy ME. I just want them to be happy, but that may seem to them that I am pushing them to do what I want. It’s really hard as a parent not to want to help your children in any way possible achieve their dreams–both professional and personal. Hang in there!

]]> By: Becky http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/05/08/weighing-my-life-options/comment-page-1/#comment-44311 Becky Sat, 09 May 2009 12:47:21 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=6629#comment-44311 I'm sorry and hope things get better soon. Your story is very similar to that of my cousin-in-law; except most of the family (outside her mother) is trying to get her to leave the house. It would be so much better for her mentally. We think she became engaged to GET out if the house... Not good... I’m sorry and hope things get better soon. Your story is very similar to that of my cousin-in-law; except most of the family (outside her mother) is trying to get her to leave the house. It would be so much better for her mentally. We think she became engaged to GET out if the house… Not good…

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