Comments on: Fifteen-Fifteen http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:30:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Quick weight loss workout to help YOU Lose 15 pounds fast | WORKOUT information http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45198 Quick weight loss workout to help YOU Lose 15 pounds fast | WORKOUT information Tue, 16 Jun 2009 06:17:03 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45198 [...] Fifteen-Fifteen | Rebellious Arab Girl [...] [...] Fifteen-Fifteen | Rebellious Arab Girl [...]

]]> By: julz http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45197 julz Tue, 16 Jun 2009 06:10:45 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45197 hello, i was just wondering why you think being divorced would be worse than unhappily married? i was unhappily married and i assure you, it was worse than when i was divorced! being divorced was fun, because i was free! i was happy and i got to rebuild myself again... i got married at 20 and divorced at 23. nothing wrong with that. he was not worth my time and so i left. i am now remarried and i love the man i am with. so, getting divorced allowed me to be happy and do life my way. :) hello, i was just wondering why you think being divorced would be worse than unhappily married?

i was unhappily married and i assure you, it was worse than when i was divorced! being divorced was fun, because i was free! i was happy and i got to rebuild myself again…

i got married at 20 and divorced at 23. nothing wrong with that. he was not worth my time and so i left.

i am now remarried and i love the man i am with. so, getting divorced allowed me to be happy and do life my way.

:)

]]> By: Mrs.S http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45053 Mrs.S Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:16:47 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45053 Personally it comes down to choice. We all want to have the choice to be single, be in an unhappy marriage or be divorced. We don’t want to be forced into any of the three scenarios. For me, being unhappily married is far worse than being single or divorced because I would feel trapped. Nothing scares me more than the feeling of being stuck in a bad situation, because I’ve seen a lot of women young and old caught in unhappy marriages. I am very happily married, by the way, because my husband and I choose to be with each other. Personally it comes down to choice. We all want to have the choice to be single, be in an unhappy marriage or be divorced. We don’t want to be forced into any of the three scenarios. For me, being unhappily married is far worse than being single or divorced because I would feel trapped. Nothing scares me more than the feeling of being stuck in a bad situation, because I’ve seen a lot of women young and old caught in unhappy marriages.

I am very happily married, by the way, because my husband and I choose to be with each other.

]]> By: marc http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45049 marc Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:07:39 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45049 Speaking for men... I cannot speak for women, but as a man who remained unmaried longer than most, I did not mary untill I was 30. I had no intention of getting married. But it is not easy, your married friends distrust and resent you because you are single. At some point there is a creepy old unmaried guy element to it. So it is not easy. I got this alot, "how come you have never been married, something must be wrong with you?" For women of the same age that were never maried what I was told is that they were "carear" women or "independent" I am gald that the old sterotype (at least in some circles) has changed. But still I think single is better than bad relationships but there is a price to be paid for resisting the trends for men and women.<a href="#comment-44985" rel="nofollow">@Lela </a> Speaking for men…
I cannot speak for women, but as a man who remained unmaried longer than most, I did not mary untill I was 30. I had no intention of getting married. But it is not easy, your married friends distrust and resent you because you are single. At some point there is a creepy old unmaried guy element to it. So it is not easy. I got this alot, “how come you have never been married, something must be wrong with you?”

For women of the same age that were never maried what I was told is that they were “carear” women or “independent” I am gald that the old sterotype (at least in some circles) has changed. But still I think single is better than bad relationships but there is a price to be paid for resisting the trends for men and women.@Lela

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45037 Mona Thu, 11 Jun 2009 13:30:50 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45037 <a href="#comment-45019" rel="nofollow">@Far</a> Maybe I could narrow down the choice, but I think, from what I have read, that most of my readers are not married. So maybe that's why the poll's results were a bit biased. I should make another poll, but maybe change the idea a bit. @Far
Maybe I could narrow down the choice, but I think, from what I have read, that most of my readers are not married. So maybe that’s why the poll’s results were a bit biased. I should make another poll, but maybe change the idea a bit.

]]> By: Moonstar Silverwolf http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45021 Moonstar Silverwolf Thu, 11 Jun 2009 06:10:17 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45021 Personally, I don't see Single & Divorced as always being better or worse than each other. Divorce has a stigma attached to it that it doesn't deserve all of the time. For example: Is a 27 year old who was married for 6 months before their spouse had an affair & then leaving the marriage any different than a 27 year old who has been cheated on by their bf/gf leading to a break up? Some divorces are out of a person's control since marriage takes two people. Personally, I don’t see Single & Divorced as always being better or worse than each other. Divorce has a stigma attached to it that it doesn’t deserve all of the time. For example: Is a 27 year old who was married for 6 months before their spouse had an affair & then leaving the marriage any different than a 27 year old who has been cheated on by their bf/gf leading to a break up? Some divorces are out of a person’s control since marriage takes two people.

]]> By: Far http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45019 Far Thu, 11 Jun 2009 05:33:45 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45019 I wonder, how many who voted, realized you could divorce your unhappy marriage partner...? Since an equal number voted for single and divorced, it seems like the majority of the pollers were not married. Perhaps you should do another poll... "were you married at 28?" With answers such as, Yes, No, I wonder, how many who voted, realized you could divorce your unhappy marriage partner…?

Since an equal number voted for single and divorced, it seems like the majority of the pollers were not married.

Perhaps you should do another poll… “were you married at 28?” With answers such as, Yes, No,

]]> By: JouJou http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45018 JouJou Thu, 11 Jun 2009 03:42:22 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45018 P.S. I can't spell apparently. I meant 'can't live with the person', not leave. I was too quick to hit the button :razz: P.S. I can’t spell apparently. I meant ‘can’t live with the person’, not leave. I was too quick to hit the button :razz:

]]> By: JouJou http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45017 JouJou Thu, 11 Jun 2009 03:39:36 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45017 With kids or without kids, people go through trauma as a result of divorce. I personally know people who have been abused, etc, to finally realize they can't leave with the person anymore. Nay, I say. Patience is a virtue, and I would rather die alone knowing I had done all I could to ward off the wrong type of men. And I am not interested in having kids from someone other than the one I love and who loves and respects me in return. Pretty rebellious, huh? :razz: With kids or without kids, people go through trauma as a result of divorce. I personally know people who have been abused, etc, to finally realize they can’t leave with the person anymore.
Nay, I say. Patience is a virtue, and I would rather die alone knowing I had done all I could to ward off the wrong type of men. And I am not interested in having kids from someone other than the one I love and who loves and respects me in return. Pretty rebellious, huh? :razz:

]]> By: Amina H. http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/06/10/fifteen-fifteen/comment-page-1/#comment-45013 Amina H. Thu, 11 Jun 2009 02:59:02 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=7413#comment-45013 Being single or divorced is better than being in an unhappy marriage, I think. But having to choose between single and divorced...um.....I don't know. It will depend on who you are. People like me couldn't care less what others think of my single status at this age (since I'm also approaching expiry age as they say), but to other people, they might prefer divorced to avoid people talking and bugging them about the marriage question especially as they get older...Others also prefer divorced even when there are kids in question - especially when there are kids in question - because their lives change to circle around the kids whom they love very much, and they think the best part of the marriage was the divorce & kids (as long as they can support themselves financially of course, plus the kids solve the loneliness problem). It's not a personal opinion, but just a different opinion judging what I see around..... Being single or divorced is better than being in an unhappy marriage, I think. But having to choose between single and divorced…um…..I don’t know. It will depend on who you are. People like me couldn’t care less what others think of my single status at this age (since I’m also approaching expiry age as they say), but to other people, they might prefer divorced to avoid people talking and bugging them about the marriage question especially as they get older…Others also prefer divorced even when there are kids in question – especially when there are kids in question – because their lives change to circle around the kids whom they love very much, and they think the best part of the marriage was the divorce & kids (as long as they can support themselves financially of course, plus the kids solve the loneliness problem). It’s not a personal opinion, but just a different opinion judging what I see around…..

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