The modern Arab way of sexual selection
It’s funny when you are as picky as me, and you think you are doing it for obvious religious purposes, or for healthy lifestyles, or for pure personality compatibilities. Unfortunately, you end up with no one wanting you!
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I don’t ask for much, but I learned a lot from a little experiment I did. I am a very inactive member of Arab Lounge. It is a dating, friendship, etc, website. It doesn’t matter how you label it; it is a stupid useless site. The reason I am inactive, or seldom log into it, because it has too many creeps and liars.
People like me are the reason it seems that Arab Lounge is kind of losing business. The other day, I got an email from them saying that sending messages (emails) within the site are free now. Free!!! That was 1/2 the purpose of paying for membership. You want to either send messages to a person who’s profile you like, or chat with them using the IM built in. So now FREE messages? I read that email and I laughed hysterically. I think I am one of the reasons this happened. I am anal about finding a mate, that paying membership fees to send a shout out to someone is kind of waste of time and money. Especially that I cannot believe half the crap that guys write on there.
For example, religiously, a Muslim is not allowed to drink. Don’t even get me started on that lying episode. So, I just weeded out 55% of the Arab-Muslim guys on there. Then, I am more anal, and I don’t like guys who smoke. I hate smoke! You try kissing a smoker! GROSS after 10 seconds! So, I just weeded out another 35% of the guys on there.
Who are the last 10%? Yep, you guessed it! Arab guys who don’t like a confident and truthful gal like me!
I didn’t want to waste my time, or any guy’s time, because I am oh so considerate. So, I just wrote the following on the about me or in my words section:
From the day I wrote that a few weeks ago, and posted it on my profile, I have not gotten a single person sending me some stupid flirt, messaging me, or bothering to chat while I am online, if ever. My honesty has lead me to weed out every single guy on a huge website such as Arab Lounge, that has thousands of members trying to search for their soul mates.
Wohooo!! Now you wonder why I complain about Arabs. My experiment worked!
If I was not attractive at all, or even so ugly, then I would understand why they would not talk to me at all. However, most of you know how I look like now from my Twitter page, or from the announcement on Facebook a couple of days ago. So I am not scary looking. AND!! don’t tell me it is that age thing! Most girls and guys on there are way over 30, and half the girls on there lie about their age anyways. Why do girls lie about their age? When we were 15, we told people we were 18. When we become 35 or 40, we would tell others we are 29.
Ohhhh!! Speaking of the devil! Arab women, who are obviously my mom’s age or around there, are all 40 or 41 years old! Their kids are College/University graduates and married, but the moms are still in their early 40’s! Mom tells me this about them, “I think they got married when they were all 14 or 15. Too bad that some of them I knew when I was growing up, and they were older than me and married around the same time or after. Kind of funny if you think about how much lying people like that do every day. They also teach their daughters to do the same. And those ladies got more obvious wrinkles than me!”
Hahaha.. my mom can be funny sometimes. Just sometimes! 
Blah Blah, Funny, Ranting as usual!, They said what?, Whatever!
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I wouldn’t look at things this way, if it happened that my selection criteria filtered out all candidates, I would say I am looking in the wrong place, and this happened to me before I met my wife, where I lost hope finding that someone, until I bumped into her.
I know that some would say, being a male would make things simpler than being a female, maybe yes, but if we are to take the religious factor as you mentioned in your post, then we should take the wholesome, and that would include Tawakkul, asking our creator who created us, and created our soul mate to guide both of us to meet (trust me I tried it and it worked).
If I were you, I would get involved in the real world communities (Sunday schools would make a perfect place to start with) and pray for things to happen. Cyberspace is full of deception, due to the technical limitation of relaying facial expressions and body signs, the matrix .. I mean the real world is the one proven to be reliable, especially when it comes to a lifetime decision.
One last thing, it’s a request, please do not put all Arabs under one category, they are not all the same, there are some honest people out there, you just met a couple of bad apples, who tend to give you the bad impression.
sorry for the long reply
@Ahmad
Hahhaa.. ok.. you and others should not worry about me. I just wanted an excuse to make fun of a website such as Arab Lounge, and my experiences with it. I am not going to judge how my life is, and the way it turned out because of that.
@everyone-that-read-this-post
Before you comment, you have to realize that this post is meant to be funny, truthful, and making fun of something that I know a lot of people complain about. I was not the first Arab, or even the last who did.
Remember, when I write posts like this, I use sarcasm a lot. So this post is pure sarcastic!
Finally, the main reason I have a major pet peeve with Arab Lounge, is due to the fact that once I emailed them a problem that I thought would be fun to post on their “ask us about personal relationships” section, and they didn’t reply to me or post it till after one year. They even wrote, this message is over a year old, but we decided to discuss it. ………. ??? yah!
I agree with @Ahmad on needing to get out in the real world to find someone. The net works for some people but not many.
On the age part. My uncle’s wife that literally has 11 kids, has been 32 years old for the last 5 years ,lol.
@Mona
Does that mean all the guys on Arab Lounge either drink or smoke (or, horror, both?)
Most Arab guys I know smoke but some of them quit when they got married
I personally think that websites such as these are more for flirting than dating. Um, I hope the Arab Lounge is not after me now
Since they decided to wait one year to reply to your question, you should write in the description: “Arab Lounge – So last year”
And sorry, I’ve just realized I used smileys in every sentence. That’s what sarcasm does
I have found that everyone lies both online and off when they think they have a chance to date someone. When you find someone who is truthful, you may have found someone worth keeping.
I agree with the smoking – I dated someone for 1 month who smoked, never again.
And, since I don’t drink, I end up weeding out a lot of people as well since they feel it is unnatural not to have a drink sometimes.
Oh well.
When I tell that my fiance (quite a religious Muslim) does not drink, smokes (but will quit when we get married), and used to work under my leadership (I was his boss for a year), people wonder where I found him.
Makes me appreciate him even more! But yes, there are guys like that out there. Unfortunately most likely not online.
Guys, there are Arab guys who never “Drink” nor “Smoke”!
count one here.
And the reason I wasn’t on the web when I was available is that they did not invent these services by the time I found my wife (any smilies for an old man here?)
I know one who’s available, but he would kill me if I revealed his identity …. enough said about him…. am history now.
PS: your CAPTIA is tough to read, I swear I am human not a bot, but still have hard time reading these black spots
@JouJou
@Moonstar Silverwolf
smoker’s breath is nasty too
@Oksana
yes yes.. online is not the place to find the mate. Hey!! That rhymes. I should create a jingle for this situation!
@Ahmad
If my Captcha is hard to read, then use the double arrows on the side, right above the sound icon, and you will get a new one.
I don’t control what captcha displays, but I have to keep it up or I will get serious amounts of spam.
@Mona
oh yeah, but the thing I hate the most is someone who smokes sitting next to me making me smell their smoke from their clothes and hair, “seriously you smell, don’t sit next to me” but I’m way too polite.
@Moonstar Silverwolf
I try my best to not sit next to them. If it bothers me so much, I just get up and leave. I rather stand far away than sit down.
I agree kissing a smoker is nasty. I am not big on the drinking booze part either from my own painful past experience with alcoholics. Booze makes people act stupid and keeps the police and the ER busy. Not to mention drunks have a nasty habit of keeping their neighbours awake with their partying.
@Moonstar Silverwolf
I was told once by a friend who spent some time in UK, that if you complain about a smoker’s odor, they can sue you with a discrimination charge
@Ahmad
really? well, then I’ll put money away for that then, because I discriminate against smokers and I do not apologize for it. It’s your choice whether you want to smoke, not mine. It’s not the same as your gender, race, orientation, nationality.
@Moonstar Silverwolf
I am waiting for the law makers to criminalize smoking and trading of tobacco
Mona, this reminds me with some paper magazines published in the Arab world whey they use to publish ’short bio’ for “He” & “She” in a way that makes me always laugh.
Don’t let me start talking about the ‘Bureau of Marriage’ where they told you that ‘The Computer’ is finding a match for you. Oh GOD! and if they matched-couples married then problems occurs, I bet they will tell you that the computer were ‘hacked’ or even ‘virused’
I should register for Arab lounge. So many stories about it!
hehe
@Ahmed – well then I’m old too! I barely used emails when I got to know my partner more than 9 years ago. Had not even thought of something like dating sites, maybe they existed, who knows?
And are you sure the smoker-discrimination thing was not a rumour? In European labor law race/ethnicity, gender, religion and worldview (including atheism), age, sexual orientation and disability is included.
Obviously all of these traits are not to be changed (with the exception of religion/worldview, which is believed to be an entirely personal issue), and they do not affect your value as an employee itself (of course there can be women, Muslims, Russians, gays who do not work well – but not BECAUSE they are female or Muslim or foreigner).
So with smoking – it’s a habit. Even an addiction, which can be seen as something negative in itself.
I don’t see why smoking should be protected from negative talk. I do believe it should not be banned – what is next? Fat smelly food? i am WAY more bothered by disgusting McDonald’s smells in the subway than with smokers sitting next to me. Cold fat in paper packages is one of the nastiest smells…
There needs to be some freedom on what people can do without excessive limitation. But it is no discrimination if you talk negatively about the pretty nasty habit of smoking.
And also regarding alcohol: There’s differentiation that needs to be made. Fine wine culture in Italy and other parts of Europe is something outstanding. And even healthy if it’s not more than one (wine) glass per day. I love wine, and make a sharp differentation to what is normally referred to “drinking” where people get close to unconsciousness over disgusting hard drinks
Btw strangely also in the Muslim country Turkey there is one fine alcoholic beverage – Raki. Anis liquor. Delicious with the traditional meaty starters that go with it.
So I’d personally not count people who enjoy a smoke or a drink in very reasonable amounts with the “addicts”
And yes – the captcha gets more and more brain wrecking
MONA – your twitter image is GORGEOUS!! (the one where your head is tilted to the side)