Will things ever change?
I know I know! I have not blogged in like 3 days. I am sorry, but you have to understand this, I am lazy. When you are on vacation, you don’t have much to write except that you are taking lots of pictures and enjoying your time.
However, at times when I am not out, I do a lot of internet browsing and checking out lots of things. I do read a lot about religion and culture. You can say it is one of my main interests. I was watching a video the other day about Islam and marriage. I usually don’t watch these videos, but I got many emails from Arab girls to talk more of the problems that the younger generation (us) are going through. Also, to explain how different we are than our parent’s generation and that the gap is becoming bigger all the time.
I disagree, there is no gap because most of the kids end up like their parents. If people are not willing to change, then nothing will change.
So, I was watching this video that I don’t want to point to, but it was a video created by our young generation. It was a bit disturbing to see how people interpret things and will not change their opinion about some things, although life changed so much.
If life changed so much, and we are advancing as a civilization, then why do we still view female and male roles in society like we are in 1520 AD?
I am not against culture or religion. You have to understand that this post has nothing to do with that. I just want to argue the point in the video I saw that made me turn it off. Although it was supposed to be humorous, but I just couldn’t stand listening to it anymore.
The video I saw was of a Muslim female asking if she is too old now (she is over 30), and she should give up looking for Mr. Right. The guy answered her and said, “yes, you are old and to stop looking for Mr. Right, and accept any guy.”
The moment he said that I was like what the hell? Then he continued with his argument saying that a man can be any age, the older the better to get married. He would be well off, and have money and a good career. Also, that a man’s wealth is important for him to get married. Then he said that females should just get married young and stop worrying about career and money, because that is not important. That is the male’s responsibility, and women give birth and take care of a family only.
I was like what the hell!
Is it me or I don’t get it? I don’t understand the world we live in anymore. Some of our parents make us go to school and Universities to get an education, and expect us to work after and support our selves. I thought in Islam that we are supposed to get an education. Even if that education is going as far as China to get it. Yet, others think it is all wrong and pointless ???
Do you see the problem here?
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That guy who said to just accept any guy…hmmmm, I want to know, is he by any chance, “just any guy?” He was kind of insulting his own gender there :lol: and implying that there really is not a lot for us women to choose from! Well, that’s my spin, and I’m sticking to it. And who the heck are they to tell us what to do with our lives. I have the right to my expectations, and I recognize that I am responsible for living with the consequences of my expectations, even if that means being single for the next 55 years! Grrr.
I’m guessing he thinks women don’t need an education, since all they’ll be doing is “marrying young and having babies.” I wonder, does he *want* his kids raised by an uneducated woman?! So odd.
What is the name of this video? I am curious to watch it.
@Digital Nomad
Some people are still backwards.
@Mo
If I wanted to share such a video I would have posted it, but I didn’t.
There are educated Muslim, and there are uneducated Muslims. There are countries like Suadi Arabia who prohibt feamles from driving, and there are countries who don’t mind feamles driving. So you get to be careful to whom you listen
That guy probably thought he was being helpful with that advice, too
Since I’m not really qualified to comment on the post seeing as how I’m neither Arab nor Muslim, I’ll comment on generic American culture when it comes to marriage.
There’s a popular saying amongst unmarried women over a certain age: “all the good ones are taken”. And there’s probably some truth to it. Because, if somebody is approaching middle age and they haven’t found a mate yet, chances are that either they aren’t looking very hard or their expectations are too high.
And then there are the people who are divorced, who many think of as “damaged goods” because a lot of divorced people tend to have a lot of baggage, not to mention being a bit gun-shy about being burned again.
So, while I’m sure I disagree with that guys reasoning, I don’t necessarily disagree with his bottom-line. If things aren’t working out right, it’s time to change the game plan. Continuing to do something that isn’t working is not a viable option. And I say that as somebody who is pursuing that non-viable option, which is pretty weird but whatever!
Or if the 30-year-old can’t find “any guy”,even,she will be put out to pasture,right?Maybe out in the forest somewhere away from the public eye like a dried up old useless cow.It’s similar to the United States of America the “Throwaway Society”.Just look at Hollywood,there is the rotten root of it all,it all stems from there.I can just hear those Hollywood guys in boardroom meetings talking about the woman who played Mrs.Smith in Mr. and Mrs.Smith being replaced by Megan Fox in different kind of movie roles.They are now scheming,plotting and planning to ease Ms.Fox into the other woman’s role that is Mrs.Pitt’s or Jolie’s.Little by little, so as it will not be to obvious, after all Mrs.Jolie or Pitt is 34 years old and past her prime.And what good will she do,in the United States of America, at 34 and beyond?
Love is about balance. Without balance, there is no love, only lust, desire, and confusion. That is all there is to it.
Craig beat me to it! It’s true in the US too about age playing a role in marriage. In fact, the only place in the world I find things differently is in parts of Europe, where people marry later, don’t marry (domestic partnerships), and/or divorce is so common it doesn’t carry a stigma like in the US
It also depends on where you are – the metro areas usually have people marrying later than in suburban/country areas. But, I know that this is probably off your point anyways and I’m glad that you wrote about this because it’s unfair everywhere the difference between guys and girls marrying!
To throw in another wrench though -the BBC has recently been publishing articles where doctors in the UK are trying to get the word out that even with fertility treatments, after a certain point it is very unusual for women to get pregnant. This is necessarily related to marriage, but many people figure they will marry THEN have kids. And we know that women with kids have a certain stigma on the dating scene.
Anyone who thinks a woman should just forget about education & career and be married before they are in their 30s are shallow & do not deserve an independent intelligent mind. I’m just as confused as you are with them.