Comments on: Will things ever change?

By: Moonstar Silverwolf

Moonstar Silverwolf — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 01:14:59 +0000

Anyone who thinks a woman should just forget about education & career and be married before they are in their 30s are shallow & do not deserve an independent intelligent mind. I’m just as confused as you are with them.

By: Little P

Little P — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 14:18:21 +0000

Craig beat me to it! It’s true in the US too about age playing a role in marriage. In fact, the only place in the world I find things differently is in parts of Europe, where people marry later, don’t marry (domestic partnerships), and/or divorce is so common it doesn’t carry a stigma like in the US
It also depends on where you are – the metro areas usually have people marrying later than in suburban/country areas. But, I know that this is probably off your point anyways and I’m glad that you wrote about this because it’s unfair everywhere the difference between guys and girls marrying!
To throw in another wrench though -the BBC has recently been publishing articles where doctors in the UK are trying to get the word out that even with fertility treatments, after a certain point it is very unusual for women to get pregnant. This is necessarily related to marriage, but many people figure they will marry THEN have kids. And we know that women with kids have a certain stigma on the dating scene.

By: Ahmed Masri

Ahmed Masri — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 08:05:54 +0000

Love is about balance. Without balance, there is no love, only lust, desire, and confusion. That is all there is to it.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:34:44 +0000

Or if the 30-year-old can’t find “any guy”,even,she will be put out to pasture,right?Maybe out in the forest somewhere away from the public eye like a dried up old useless cow.It’s similar to the United States of America the “Throwaway Society”.Just look at Hollywood,there is the rotten root of it all,it all stems from there.I can just hear those Hollywood guys in boardroom meetings talking about the woman who played Mrs.Smith in Mr. and Mrs.Smith being replaced by Megan Fox in different kind of movie roles.They are now scheming,plotting and planning to ease Ms.Fox into the other woman’s role that is Mrs.Pitt’s or Jolie’s.Little by little, so as it will not be to obvious, after all Mrs.Jolie or Pitt is 34 years old and past her prime.And what good will she do,in the United States of America, at 34 and beyond?

By: Craig

Craig — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:23:33 +0000

That guy probably thought he was being helpful with that advice, too

Since I’m not really qualified to comment on the post seeing as how I’m neither Arab nor Muslim, I’ll comment on generic American culture when it comes to marriage.

There’s a popular saying amongst unmarried women over a certain age: “all the good ones are taken”. And there’s probably some truth to it. Because, if somebody is approaching middle age and they haven’t found a mate yet, chances are that either they aren’t looking very hard or their expectations are too high.

And then there are the people who are divorced, who many think of as “damaged goods” because a lot of divorced people tend to have a lot of baggage, not to mention being a bit gun-shy about being burned again.

So, while I’m sure I disagree with that guys reasoning, I don’t necessarily disagree with his bottom-line. If things aren’t working out right, it’s time to change the game plan. Continuing to do something that isn’t working is not a viable option. And I say that as somebody who is pursuing that non-viable option, which is pretty weird but whatever!

By: Sayyed

Sayyed — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 23:20:21 +0000

There are educated Muslim, and there are uneducated Muslims. There are countries like Suadi Arabia who prohibt feamles from driving, and there are countries who don’t mind feamles driving. So you get to be careful to whom you listen

By: Mona

Mona — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 22:26:38 +0000

@Digital Nomad Some people are still backwards. @Mo If I wanted to share such a video I would have posted it, but I didn't.

By: Mo

Mo — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:55:25 +0000

What is the name of this video? I am curious to watch it.

By: Digital Nomad

Digital Nomad — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:48:54 +0000

That guy who said to just accept any guy…hmmmm, I want to know, is he by any chance, “just any guy?” He was kind of insulting his own gender there :lol: and implying that there really is not a lot for us women to choose from! Well, that’s my spin, and I’m sticking to it. And who the heck are they to tell us what to do with our lives. I have the right to my expectations, and I recognize that I am responsible for living with the consequences of my expectations, even if that means being single for the next 55 years! Grrr.

I’m guessing he thinks women don’t need an education, since all they’ll be doing is “marrying young and having babies.” I wonder, does he *want* his kids raised by an uneducated woman?! So odd.