Comments on: Is she considered a step-mother or just the father’s wife? http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/ Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:30:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Cookie Monster http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46877 Cookie Monster Sat, 29 Aug 2009 20:04:10 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46877 Unfortunately it is not only arabs. I read a blog written by an asian gal, whose step mom is driving her to thoughts of insanity, and running away from it all. The fact that the kid is treated like an inferior being is disgusting and shocking - but it happens. If only the pain of the sufferer could be felt by the inflictor... if only... Unfortunately it is not only arabs. I read a blog written by an asian gal, whose step mom is driving her to thoughts of insanity, and running away from it all. The fact that the kid is treated like an inferior being is disgusting and shocking – but it happens.

If only the pain of the sufferer could be felt by the inflictor… if only…

]]> By: Meg http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46531 Meg Sun, 23 Aug 2009 03:22:50 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46531 My fiance and his brother were raised by their stepmother since they were very young, and you can see that she treats her stepsons just as she treats her own son. When she married their father, she accepted the whole family, and now she's much more than a father's wife. She's really their mom in all ways except DNA. Just had to defend the great stepmothers in the world! My fiance and his brother were raised by their stepmother since they were very young, and you can see that she treats her stepsons just as she treats her own son. When she married their father, she accepted the whole family, and now she’s much more than a father’s wife. She’s really their mom in all ways except DNA.

Just had to defend the great stepmothers in the world!

]]> By: Ahmed Masri http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46513 Ahmed Masri Sat, 22 Aug 2009 13:23:29 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46513 Marriages in the middle east are those of convenience and/or are relationships based on false and material "love". It's all about position and status for us arabs, and it makes me sick. Real love doesn't exist. It's a fallacy. People are far too selfish for love to exist, especially in the GCC. Marriages in the middle east are those of convenience and/or are relationships based on false and material “love”. It’s all about position and status for us arabs, and it makes me sick.

Real love doesn’t exist. It’s a fallacy. People are far too selfish for love to exist, especially in the GCC.

]]> By: Desert Shark http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46471 Desert Shark Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:06:48 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46471 What you said in the last paragraph or she married him for other reasons? I think that might be it. Even though marrying for love has become more prevelant in the middle east in the last few decades, arranged marraiges are still more common and that might lead to some resentment towards the kids if the woman gets into an arranged marraige with a man who already has kids. I've known one marraige where an arab couple married for love and the man already a kid and the step-mother accepted the child as her own. And I've known one other in which it was an arranged marraige where the man had a kid and the mother, didn't mistreat him, but didn't fully accept the kid as her own. Of course I'm sure there are times when its all vice versa of what I just said, but I think this has to do with the majority. What you said in the last paragraph or she married him for other reasons? I think that might be it. Even though marrying for love has become more prevelant in the middle east in the last few decades, arranged marraiges are still more common and that might lead to some resentment towards the kids if the woman gets into an arranged marraige with a man who already has kids. I’ve known one marraige where an arab couple married for love and the man already a kid and the step-mother accepted the child as her own. And I’ve known one other in which it was an arranged marraige where the man had a kid and the mother, didn’t mistreat him, but didn’t fully accept the kid as her own. Of course I’m sure there are times when its all vice versa of what I just said, but I think this has to do with the majority.

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46446 Mona Wed, 19 Aug 2009 23:04:24 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46446 <a href="#comment-46443" rel="nofollow">@Craig</a> I knew there are many positive stories of people that grew up with step-parents. You had to many though. What's up with your dad? <a href="#comment-46444" rel="nofollow">@Starlight</a> I agree with you. You brought up a good point about stubbornness and inheritance. I think that is their main focus in life, and not the kids. @Craig
I knew there are many positive stories of people that grew up with step-parents. You had to many though. What’s up with your dad?

@Starlight
I agree with you. You brought up a good point about stubbornness and inheritance. I think that is their main focus in life, and not the kids.

]]> By: Starlight http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46444 Starlight Wed, 19 Aug 2009 22:40:27 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46444 I reckon its just the stubbornness. It's because they feel that the child will threaten their household position or perhaps the position of their kids. They think in terms of inheritance and wealth. This is ignorant in many ways, but they are so arrogant and stubborn they may feel the need to protect themselves as "woman of the house"... etc. It's very disappointing and sad in such a way they always want the husband to take their sides during any argument or dispute that occurs within the household. Man, some people are so selfish and cruel. :twisted: I reckon its just the stubbornness. It’s because they feel that the child will threaten their household position or perhaps the position of their kids. They think in terms of inheritance and wealth. This is ignorant in many ways, but they are so arrogant and stubborn they may feel the need to protect themselves as “woman of the house”… etc. It’s very disappointing and sad in such a way they always want the husband to take their sides during any argument or dispute that occurs within the household. Man, some people are so selfish and cruel. :twisted:

]]> By: Craig http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46443 Craig Wed, 19 Aug 2009 22:35:38 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46443 I've had... 4 or 5 stepmothers, depending on what my dad's marriage count is now! I only lived with 1 of them for any length of time though. In my experience, it is the kids who don't accept the step-parent, not vice-versa! I think the stereotypes about step-parents who treat their spouse's children badly are very unfair! I think often they do try to be a good parent to their step-children. Just basing that on what I've seen with myself and my fiends who had step-parents when I was a kid, so it's no scientific study :) I’ve had… 4 or 5 stepmothers, depending on what my dad’s marriage count is now! I only lived with 1 of them for any length of time though. In my experience, it is the kids who don’t accept the step-parent, not vice-versa! I think the stereotypes about step-parents who treat their spouse’s children badly are very unfair! I think often they do try to be a good parent to their step-children. Just basing that on what I’ve seen with myself and my fiends who had step-parents when I was a kid, so it’s no scientific study :)

]]> By: Mona http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/2009/08/19/is-she-considered-a-step-mother-or-just-the-fathers-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-46442 Mona Wed, 19 Aug 2009 21:40:13 +0000 http://www.rebelliousarabgirl.net/?p=8539#comment-46442 Is every single one of my readers does not have a step-parent or has step-children? Weird. Is every single one of my readers does not have a step-parent or has step-children? Weird.

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