NOTE: CONTEST WAS EXTENDED TILL END OF THE MONTH! AS N SEPTEMBER 20, 2009! PLEASE TAKE YOUR TIME! I DIDN’T GET ENOUGH ENTRIES FOR TODAY!

Ramadan Mubarak wa kul 3am wa into bekheer! Yay I am so excited that Ramadan is here! I hope everyone is doing great wa sawman makboolan inshallah. (Allah accepts your fasting.)

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I decided this month in the holy month of Ramadan, there will be a contest that everyone can participate in!

The contest will test your creativity in making wallpapers. I want you guys to try out Photoshop or whatever image editor you use, and show case for us. I want a wallpaper of your favorite item that you cannot live without, with cool decorations around it or anything fancy. Impress me and everyone else especially. The banner has to be tasteful, and nothing bad at all!

At the end of the month, I will post all the banners with your name next to it, and my readers will decide which one they like the most. The winner will receive $50.00 to their Paypal. Also, if you have a website, then I will advertise for a week a banner to your site that I will make for free on the sidebar sponsor’s area of my site!

E-Mail wallpapers to: rebelliousarabgirl@gmail.com

Rule: I have the right to not post your banner if I find that not enough work was put into it. I also have the right to cancel the contest if I don’t get enough entries. I am looking for minimum 10 entries. There are so many tutorials out there, and we all need a challenge in life, right? The reason I decided to start the contest with a graphic design because I am a graphic designer and I like pretty things. Also, I want people to go beyond their limits and do something with their free time.

Please Tweet, tell others, or post this contest on your site and spread the word. Let’s make this exciting and fun for everyone! Sharing is great!

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I always knew if there were another person like me, it will be chaos on earth. Can you imagine if I had a twin? An identical twin that looks exactly like me? Acts like me? Does the stupidest things like me?

So I hired her to take some pictures of me. She was stubborn as hell, and wanted to be in the pictures as well. So I told her fine! I was gonna pay you in 1920 Canadian currency value, but NOT ANYMORE! NADA, ZIP, NOTHING!

She was so annoying!

Who do you like better? ME or HER!??

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I got another one for you guys, and it is not so pretty! Someone searched my site asking Google the following: “way to treat Arab man so he will love you.”

Oh boy! Someone really screwed themselves over when they came to my site typing that shit. So, you Arab girls or girls in general who think that you have to treat a guy a certain way so he can love you, need to be slapped around. Send me an email and I will send you a ticket to my house so I can slap you silly, and give you a few wise words while I am at it.

Do girls, especially Arab girls, think that they need to treat the Arab man a certain way just so she can receive his love and affection back? She has to earn it? Why the hell can’t he earn it? Or better yet, why can’t there be a mutual compromise on both sides of the relationship?

Am I the only one that thinks logically here?

I know, some of you will say, “But Mona. You are 28.5 years old and still not married. Why should we listen to you?”

My answer is simple, “Listen to me now, or you will END UP LIKE ME and learn it the hard way!”

God! You girls make me mad!

Listen, no good can ever come out of this one sided love. You cannot make a guy change his feelings towards you by doing “something.” I know many Arab girls who fell for this stupidity. There are many Arab girls that I knew that even go all the way to sleeping with the guy just so he can love her back. Now that is stupid, especially when he dumps her ass few days later, or even the next day! Good thing I was never that stupid and had some sense!

Please, my little Arab female friends! Quit thinking that you have to be an object of affection for some guy in order to receive his love. Why can’t you let the guy act like a guy for once, and let him do SOME work? I feel that Arab girls, especially in the past 5 or 6 years, really changed and are effected by their surroundings, and don’t know what “love” is. It is not a fantasy. It is not something you have to earn. It is not something that you have to spend your life time looking for, and then giving up and going to a totally different tangent by selling your self.

Am I making any sense here? Do I have to seriously start slapping girls around so they can come to their senses?

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I have a very neurotic family, and they love to pin point every single detail. Even the ones that are not important, or useless from the distant past.

However, bringing up the past made me realize that maybe I had a problem since I was little that was not addressed. What else would you expect? I was born and raised in an Arab household. Anything strange or not right in a child means nothing but a phase of “growing up.”

Today, I was walking downstairs, and I saw the front door open. I atomically locked it. My sister saw me and said, “Who cares if it is open? We are all in the house.”

I told her that I am a complicated person, and I have a problem with front doors being open. I have to close them. It is a habit, even in the car! The moment I get into a car, I close the door manually. Maybe I like to feel secure? Who knows!

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My parents over heard us, and then came to pin point the past. They hysterically laughed and blurted out, “Mona had a bigger problem when she was little. She used to take thread and tie door knobs together and make spider webs all over the house. Why did you do that Mona? Maybe you have a problem.”

I look at them, and remember the days when I was 5 or 6 years old. So what that I played with threads and made spider webs all over the house? The door knobs are where the strings got tied at. Hmm. So? Do you see a problem? I just see a child bored to death and does not like Barbie dolls.

Unfortunately, my parents keep reiterating the same story, and I keep remembering the past. Reading this post, and seeing what the hell I just wrote, made me realize that I may suffer from some weird ass infatuation with spiders or door knobs. Or maybe I like to lock things to feel secure all the time?

Who is a psychologist out there that wants to interpret my problems for me!

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Yesterday, I took a 30 minute break from designing, and watched a bit of Arabic Satellite TV. I watched a glimpse of a TV series where a woman discussed her childhood growing up with a father’s wife.

I noticed in the Arab world she is not called step-mother or referenced as a mother, although she would have raised her husband’s children from infancy, because the maternal mother would have died giving birth.

Why the hatred?

What puzzled me, and always have been, that the father’s new wife is always mean, hateful, and mocking of her husband’s children. She hates them with a passion, and treats them poorly. It’s like the evil step-mother from Cinderella, but in every household. I don’t think you hear an Arab marriage with a step-mother as a “good” one filled with love towards the children. It is rare to hear, or maybe that is the way Arabs portray the new father’s wife and over exaggerate the situation.

In some cases, it is true and not over exaggerated. Many women that marry a man who has kids, treat his children as inferior to her. She makes them work day and night, and hates them with a passion. Why?

Avoiding hell on earth

Many Arab families, when they lose the mother when the children are still in their prime, refuse and make sure their father does not re-marry, because they don’t want “a father’s wife” to treat them like dirt. I guess it is so common, that they try their best to make sure it does not happen. I guess the stories are true, and the way Arab women who do marry men with children act this way are so common within the culture. Why?

Treat others the way you want to be treated

Even though the majority of Arabs are of Muslim faith, you wonder why these Arab/Muslim women act this way towards children with no mothers. Why can’t they take the role of a mother? Is it the children’s fault? Isn’t it wrong to treat them this way? Some of these children are also victims of divorced parents, and are stuck between two step-parents. However, I don’t understand why the hatred? I don’t understand why those women would do such a thing. Can’t they put them selves in these children’s shoes for once?

Avoid the marriage to begin with

What puzzles me is that a woman accepts to marry a man that has children, and hates his kids. Does she love her husband then? Or she married him for “other” reasons? Arab women really confuse me and make me wonder how shallow and arrogant they are. If you cannot handle such a life, why did you go into it in the first place?

What do you think? Is it a common thing within many families, and not just Arabs?

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