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Arabs marrying non-Arabs

There is a question that I don’t have a real answer for, but it is the most asked question that people ask me. This question is mostly asked because people think that the Rebellious Arab Girl is such a crazy odd girl who will do anything and everything.

Mona, why don’t you just marry a non-Arab?

What’s wrong with marrying a convert?

Mona, if you don’t like the Arabic culture, why not just marry outside of it and spare us your complaints?

Blah blah blah!

My answer is simple. I was raised a certain way, and I don’t want someone to get accustomed to the way I was brainwashed by the family and arabic culture, and I don’t have to get accustomed to his. However it is my choice, and I never looked down upon Arabs that marry outside of their culture. That is their choice and they have their reasoning to do so. I have no reason to judge, and no one should. I actually understand why they do that most of the time.

Why deal with the Arab in-laws that won’t leave you alone?

Why deal with messed up Arab customs that have no basis or reasoning?

Why deal with Arab backwards ideologies?

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Those are just questions, and everyone has an answer to them. Many Arabs marry non-Arabs. It is known throughout history. A lot of people are against it, and I don’t know why. If it effects you directly, then go ahead and be angry about it. All I know is, that each person is held responsible for their own actions. Let them do what they please. Arab male or female, let them be.

I know there are so many problems with interracial marriages, especially the way Arabs perceive it, but what can you do? Arabs are so picky sometimes that they want their sons and daughters to only marry an Arab. However, this Arab has to be from the same country, speaks the same dialect, and is from the same village. What can you do? This is their mentality. Accept it, or leave it.

For me, I don’t have a problem with the interracial marriage thing, which I know why it happens. My problem is Arabs themselves who need to learn to accept each other first as Arabic speaking people. I used to get ridiculed for my messed up Arabic dialect by “other” Arabs who happen to be from the same old country as me. However, I am from a different region, but to them, I am from a different world. Therefore, this mentality is a reason that many Arabs (not me) resort to this solution of getting out of the whole Arabic messed up ideology, and just marry someone who doesn’t even speak the language and end it there.

Would I do it? Probably not. I like my language, and I like being an Arab. However, I am not rushing or ever thinking of this issue. I know there are so many problems in this culture of mine that make me want to abolish my roots, but seriously, it’s not so bad being an Arab. However, I believe that it is logical for an Arab to marry another Arab. If some Arabs think negatively of it, then maybe one day they will see the upside of the whole thing. If those Arabs really want things to change, then maybe they can start by the way they want to live their life, and raise their children in a more modern Arab lifestyle.

You change, things will change, and maybe you might be a little bit happier as a result. Right?

Not every Arab story is similar to Romeo and Juliette’s, where instead of the suicide, the result is the denial of your entire Arab roots. Let’s avoid that, and think of a way to change the messed up ideologies first, eh?

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178 Comments

  • @Charlie Hayse
    I know. I love this topic and the diverse input that people have been writing. Interesting perspectives and I guess a touchy subject too.

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  • inshallah if i ever have kids if its a girl or a boy they can marry who they want i dont care if hes arab,white,black,pink or yellow lol as long as they love each other but i hope hes a muslim (plz god)

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  • @Charlie Hayse
    That’s very thoughtful shows you’re open-minded :smile:

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  • Hi, I’m wondering about arabs in here, I feel like kinda familiar with you guys names. Are you arabs of yemeni background?

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  • @nabeela
    Well, I did assume.
    Sorry for that. :sad:

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  • @hudaman

    0% Arab :smile:

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  • @Incandescent Chimera
    thanks i guess lol :up:

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  • @Charlie Hayse
    All the best with your endeavors :) May Allah unite us all in peace Ameen, InshAllah.

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  • Marrying an Arab or non Arab doesn’t matter to me, but since my mom is a German convert and my dad is an Arab and I’m a child of a mixed marriage I thought I might let you know the advantages of mixed marriages. We can speak more than one language; we understand more than one culture, tradition and religion even though we don’t agree totally with it. We are able to change people’s minds from both countries and traditions because we are related while some stranger isn’t able to. We wipe away prejudice. We are more open minded. And we bring people together.Those are just a few examples.

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  • @Mariam
    :smile: :up:

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  • The more Arabs mix the better, I have never seen anyone famous say I’m half-Arab it’s always half-Jewish.

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  • @nabeela
    im not going 2 waste my time talking 2 westerners its a good thing i never said that about arabs caz theres alot of good arabs that i would not have met may allah be with u

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  • @Mariam
    u r soo blessed :up:

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  • [...] converts to Islam? Palestinian blogger Mona, who lives in Canada and blogs at Rebellious Arab Girl, opens a can of worms when she asks these questions in a post, which has attracted 162 comments so [...]

  • @Sabeur
    That is true.

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  • [...] converts to Islam? Palestinian blogger Mona, who lives in Canada and blogs at Rebellious Arab Girl, opens a can of worms when she asks these questions in a post, which has attracted 162 comments so [...]

  • I understand why Muslims want to marry Muslims (and Christians Christians, Jews Jews and so on), but I will never, ever understand the racism in refusing to marry someone from another race or ethnicity. Nearly all of my adult relationships have been interracial; some worked, some didn’t, but of those that didn’t, the conflict was always about something else (religion, career choices, or your average everyday conflict). People should open their minds; I think you’re more likely to find a perfect partner if you open yourself to all of the possibilities, at least – no, especially – when it comes to race.

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  • Well Yemenis and Somalis have been intermarrying each others for centuries. Even though somalis are non-arabs, these marriages are usually successful like normal marriages for the simple reason the vaule ISlam above their ethncity. Remember Yemenis are the true arabs.

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  • [...] La blogger palestinese Mona, che vive in Canada e cura il blog Rebellious Arab Girl,, scatena [in] un vespaio quando pone tali domande in un post che finora ha dato seguito a 162 [...]

  • salam
    koi esi larki hai jo boht majbor ho aur shadi krna chahti ho
    mujhse contect karein only saudi arab girls
    contect technozone88@yahoo.com

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  • Hi… i’m obsessed by the arab community :)

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  • Add me on my skype… Am just obsessed n wanna know bout ur community… thx.

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  • I was quite shocked when someone told me my kids were “mixed” because I married an Arab man. It just never dawned on me my gorgeous kids were considered, “mixed.”

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  • my skype is zorah26….. am just overwhelmed by the arab world..

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  • I hope one day i will run into an arabic women that is willing to date and eventually marry me.I think that the arabic language is so sexy (when spoken by a women).I think the clothing or attire etc etc is over the top sexy i mean DAM!.Hopefully one day but untill then ……..

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  • Well..the Arab world is full of wonders. There are some things I wanna get clarifications. Is it allowed for an arab muslim man to marry a NON MUSLIM woman without she converting to Islam? Please reply….I want proofs also !

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  • I dont understand the problem for an arab muslim to marry a non arab muslim!!!! Am a muslim n am proud…am not arab but i follow Islam better than an arab does. Nobody is superior to anyone. Five important rituals (known as the pillars of Islam):
    1. Shahadah – A profession of faith.
    2. Salat – Prayer five times daily.
    3. Zakat – alms giving.
    4. Sawm – Fasting during the Holy month of Ramadan.
    5. Hajj – Pilgrimage to the Holy city of Mecca.
    I follow these pillars and am not into these bid’as which have been brought from india. I believe in Quran n Hadith, so whats the harm?

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  • I am an Arab Muslim. I definitly love to identify myself as Muslim and I don’t like it when people just assume that the two are the same.
    I think the article had a lot of stereotypes and I totally disagree with the prejudice shown by some comments!
    Not all Arab men are bad or not most of them don’t respect a woman. Arabs who are totally into Islam show a lot of respect and care toward their women.
    I am engaged to a Pakistani. My family were totally against it and I can totally understand their point of view. They have hard time commhnicting with him although he understands Arabic. All steps leading to marriage ar harder then the marriage itself! A lot o differences in the culture even if they are Muslims like us.
    Interracial marriages or let’s say marrying from a different culture includes a lot a lo of sacrifices. I know all marriages do. But let us say I come from a nation that is highly politicized an we all talk politics even the youngest baby in the family my man for example tries to do te same but he is not really interested.
    Marrying someone from your same culture has one thing that is very beautiful is that the two of you share the same history even though you dint grow up together. You boh know who abdelhalim Is you both know what “fasoolyeh” is let’s say :) you both know the way to this small supermarket. You both know your country ad your language just everything. If you decide to let go o all of this then you will do fine :)
    Good luck everyone

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