Love at first conversation

I loved this post, although I hope you get out of your depression.

I’ve come to the same conclusion as you – if guys would let go of their ego, have patience & actually take the time to listen to the girl when she talks they would have a whole lot easier time with “getting the girl.” The foundation of every relationship is friendship, so develop your friendship with each other and stop worrying about love, sexuality or attraction.

I have had to learn patience the hard way too,Mona.It feels great to have patience,but some people are a little too laid back in my opinion.Are you quite sure you might not be?

I have found walking a great cure for depression,the longer the walk all the better.I do not think that women should jog,it is not good to jar the breasts.

I am very impressed with your insightful writing Mona.

Hi Mona, I love this post… its very insightful and deep. I reckon some guys find it difficult to be in a relationship because they think the relationship is all about taking and not giving… or they give little and expect more in return which is wrong… because relationships are about patience, mutual understanding and in some cases (the constance of willing to give endlessly and having reassurance in your heart that you will receive a good feeling within yourself just by your partner simply giving back). Though this may be small and have no materialistic gain whatsoever the fact that you are interacting together makes the relationship significant. Then slowly thing begin to build up. Attraction, sexuality and love gradually build from there.

P.S. I hope you get over your depression. Cheer up and relax. We all love reading what you have to share with us

i know im preaching to the awesome (and beautiful choir but you have forever to get to know someone. if you fall in love instantly great, but i think the real relationships begin in a steady climb. some say friendships are the first step, and its true, but i think getting to know the family is the first true step. you want to be with someone your whole life, so prove it by at least loving and appreciating the family. but who am i to say the final word, ive had a meaningful relationship based on love at first site and it was wonderful, so it is possible my fair Arabian princess.
Smile Mona, you are loved, by me, and of course by Allah Subhanna wa ta Allah.

When a person is a child s/he never ask such questions And he/she is loved by people And he/she love everybody.
The question is why s/he start asking when he grows up.
Because s/he lost the child within.
One has to find the child within And at least questions about LOVE will be stopped And love will be a discovery.
cheers !!!

I think that bay far this has been the most constructive written piece I have read on this blog. Yes, I have to agree that guys seek acceptance. Especially on the internet which speaks wonders about the social diconnection that we live in today. However in regards to mons wrote about guys not giving girls a chance I Think that is only in north America, mainly because dating here is subjected by all these rules. For instance, if we do kiss on the third date , we are friends. Should I call first, or should I wait for her, how long do I wait. Dinner is romantic and lunch is only for friends. In Europe or Latin America ( based on Personal experience) that situation differes by far. There is not much of these rules. Although People are much more premscious. In the Arab world, well it depends to approch girl you usually have it setup with her friends and you would meet in a group of friends and then you talk about dumbshit etc …. So guys tend to follow those rules. And in the process they tend to think about the “game” that they forget about the main idea of this whole things and that is her…. Then there the socially handicapped guys who developed alter egos on the internet and begin cyber fucking dating. And speak about high school as if this is a segement from “American pie”

I do
not judge
a book by its cover
and
my wife
is a good book
but I have finished it.

Twice.

@Mona

well…that reationship was my first true love experience, but it ended when i moved to Prague.
I’ve never stopped loving her though.
There are still plenty of good guys out there…the problem is that they are stuck in front of the screen.

Would this sound weird if I were to say that I am a guy who was put into a situation with an impatient arab girl..? She stopped talking to me because I “took to long to marry her.” (according to her sister) I thought we were getting along great and were on the same page.. Regardless… I actually have constant arguments with my parents regarding this matter. They would like me to go back oversees and meet, love, and marry the person I will call my other half in oohhhh….3 weeks or so.. Because they know some girls. I can’t seem to allow myself to conform to this thinking. I want to meet someone without the proposition of marriage on the table, I don’t want my first thoughts to be that.. There are guys still like me, trust me, we look beyond appearance and deeper into personality, charm, loyalty..etc. Speaking for myself, I have been in 3 situations where I am put into a friendship with someone and we decide that we are great together, but once we discuss this, things change.. More on thier part, they now want proof that I will commit, and if we talk about waiting then I don’t love her enough. For me, I have a philosophy that I will get married as soon as I am able to provide for a family comfortably and be able to give us an enjoyable life. (so if she doesn’t understand that or trust me, then she doesn’t love me enough..) But let me tell you something about Arab girls, we are conditioned to believe that girls have an “expiration date” lets call it at age 25.. Its sad, but girls (at least where i’m from) live by this decree, they have to get married to not be talked about or disgrace their families.. So its not only the men who cant commit or dump someone at the speed of light, i’ve had it happen to me twice.. Just saying you know. Maybe this will make you feel a little better, because I know ther are guys that think the way I do, so keep your head up.

are u serious about getting married before 25? so hang on, if u expire once ur 25, and u get married, what happens? do you continue to expire or do you stop expiring once your married? what if you get divorced? do you start fermenting again? how does this work, explain! When does a guy expire? And does anyone know any girls personally that believe these fairytales? So what happens after you get married, let saying you marry before youre expiry date? lol!

yeah but you can have kids until at least 40. and since most ppl these days dont like having more than 2 kids, you dont really need to get married till your in youre thirties, and thats if you want kids! So why would you even want to get married to someone who considers you, or whose family considers you a baby machine? How strange.