I have a bit of a psychological problem from Arabs because they don’t accept me because of my skin colour. Yes, Arabs can be very racist. They think being dark and not so skinny is bad. I thought I was alone, and I was just making up excuses for my self to justify the messed up Arab ideology. However, I got a Facebook PM this morning from an Arab girl who noticed it as well, and wanted to share her view point about this serious matter.
She wrote the following,
I grew up in an Arab country within a relatively religious Muslim/Arab community. There were a few European/Non Muslim families there, maybe out of 100 there were 10, at the time, (this is during the 90s/early 2000s, until I moved to a more mixed community). Ever since I was very young, maybe about 8/9 years old, I received many, many compliments, mostly from the women in my family, extended family, and family friends, on how ”fair” and ”European looking” I was, which was considered very beautiful and good, especially for a girl. Anyways, I never thought about any of this too much because I was too busy studying and involved with my own interests. I only noticed this when I got a bit older and started studying religions on my own. I was actually removed from Islamic studies in school because my teacher kept telling me strange things, and it gave me nightmares, but thatâ€™s another story. So, I realize now that Iâ€™m in university that while Iâ€™m a decent human being, in terms of being the ”perfect Muslim girl” Iâ€™m not really representative, as in, I donâ€™t wear the hejab, I dress quite liberally (within reason from the western perspective but liberally from the Islamic perspective), Iâ€™m quite anti-establishment so I question things a lot too. Also, Iâ€™m not naive at all, nor do I want to be, I research everything and study a lot.
I have really good girlfriends that Iâ€™ve known since I was really young that Iâ€™ve stayed in touch with. I have a lot of girlfriends that are Muslims, and they’re perfect from the Islamic perspective, they pray 5 times a day, they fast, they wear the hejab, they believe and have faith 150% in their religion, they have been taking Islamic studies since they were 5, some of them have even been to hajj, and they are really nice girls in general. Now when I was younger and living in my neighborhood I noticed that the ”white girls” and Arab girls that had western features or were mixed, got most the attention and special treatment from both Arab and Muslim men and women. I thought this was just because the guys were young and stupid and didnâ€™t know any better. Now that Iâ€™m older though, I still notice that my girlfriends that are slimmer, more western looking, even if they arenâ€™t the perfect Muslims, get much more attention, even more marriage proposals than the 100% practicing Muslim girls that maybe donâ€™t look like models and canâ€™t pass for western looking at all.
I know Iâ€™m going to get so much flack for this, and many girls and boys will be up in arms and say that Iâ€™m wrong and these Muslim and Arab guys Iâ€™m talking about havenâ€™t been brought up properly, or they arenâ€™t proper Muslims. Okay, these guys that Iâ€™m talking about, lived in Muslim communities, their mothers and fathers are both practicing Muslims, and they went to schools where they took Islamic studies their whole life. They lived in an Arab Muslim country; they didn’t grow up in London or New York. I also know the situation is completely different for boys. What I’m saying is that most the Muslim boys I’ve met, still place physical appearance quite high on their list of priorities when it comes to a partner. That’s not bad in itself, everyone wants their partner to be good looking, it just means Muslims aren’t that different when it comes to relationships/marriage.
What do you think? She wants to hear your opinions.