Comments on: The giver and taker

By: shay

shay — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:13:09 +0000

wow, Mona, thats a really powerful post. But I think there a lot more people out there who are like you, than you think. I know what you mean though. I, too, contantly feel like I’m the one giving, I’m the one caring and trying to understand people. I am accepting of everything, even their flaws, but I don’t ever feel like this is reciprocated. I’m the one who always calls, always starts conversations, always asks “how are you”, and hardly ever get it in return. I don’t know if I’m just different from everyone, or if I just care too much…this is something I analyze and think about everyday. So, hey, just to let you know, you’re not alone.

By: Christopher (AKA: CaJoh)

Christopher (AKA: CaJoh) — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:34:40 +0000

Think about who you are and how you are giving. I wrote a post last year that tends to sum up what I call the three imps-- Impressive, Imposing, and Impartive: http://cajoh.blogspot.com/2008/07/three-imps.html. I think that if you focus on being impartive you will find that you impart of yourself and share what you have with others for the pure joy of sharing (not for getting anything in return).

By: Charlie Hayse

Charlie Hayse — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:03:04 +0000

@Incandescent Chimera thats true p.s hey u know thats in a song lol (a friend in need is a friend indeed)its a old song by somekind of rock band it gos a friend in need is a friend indeed but a friend with weed is better n a friend dressed in leather is something something i cant rememeber hehe anyways salams

By: Mona

Mona — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:43:35 +0000

Incandescent Chimera :
@Charlie Hayse
I agree. But Indeed, a friend in need is a friend indeed. You gotta love many and trust little, true friends are hard to find.

I agree!!

By: Incandescent Chimera

Incandescent Chimera — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 03:11:30 +0000

@Charlie Hayse
I agree. But Indeed, a friend in need is a friend indeed. You gotta love many and trust little, true friends are hard to find.

By: Mona

Mona — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:30:55 +0000

@Brian lol. I don't want anything.. I am happy that you visit my blog daily and comment. That's more than what I can ask for.

By: Brian

Brian — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:28:18 +0000

Friends hurt when they don’t stay.
Some friends change us when their hearts sway.
Friends are always nice, and they never decay.
Spend all your money on crap, and watch you true friends drift away.

Mona, You are a true friend because of your heartfelt emotions always surprise me, something you never cease to do.
Like a piano in motion your insightful messages always brighten my day, i should count the ways.
I consider you a friend because you sent me a good book. So add one more to the list chabibi!
Now………what can I do to give back?

By: Charlie Hayse

Charlie Hayse — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:45:36 +0000

@Incandescent Chimera i belive real friendship is about giving n not looking 4 anything in return u give 2 a friend caz it makes u feel good that u helped him/her n thats the reward

By: Charlie Hayse

Charlie Hayse — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 00:41:34 +0000

firends r not chores lol or at least they shoulden be friends (real friends)except u how u r n except everything if not there not real friends i like 2 think we r friends not best of friends caz i dont know ya good enuf 4 that lol but u seem pretty cool mona its a cold n loney out there without friends salams

By: Leeroy Glinchy

Leeroy Glinchy — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 20:25:05 +0000

I think you just had bad luck w/ friends. Perhaps that has made you more guarded to not let new people in your life. Perhaps some new people could be good for you. Who knows.

I had some good friendships that I am only realizing now. I also had some bad ones. I do have some really great friends now who are generous and they accept me for who I am.

You sound like you know enough about what you want to start a good friendship. I’m positive that a few close women friends in the London area would do wonders.