One thing that pisses me off is the generation of Arab immigrant’s way of raising their children here. I feel that they don’t understand or have any reason of coming here other than having a piece of paper that says, “I am Canadian.”
I know it is hard for new immigrants to cope with the environment here, and get accustomed to living a civilized life, especially when everyone around them is from different parts of the world. What amazes though that Arabs here treat non-Arabs like kings and talk trash behind their backs. Why? Because Arabs think they are the best people in the world. Unfortunately, as an Arab my self, I have to give them a wakeup call every day and tell them, “No, you are not. Not with that mentality. You are better than no one.”
The worst culture to change is the Arab culture. It is so hard to convince them to change, but even harder to tell them they are wrong. If you are an Arab and reading this, then you are wrong. There, I did it, and I will say it every day if I have to. I will tell you guys why though.
You see, the new generation that is slowly opening up to the world around them is pretty much born here, or came very young and were practically raised here. I was raised here too, because I came so young. However, I am stubborn as hell and I never listened to my parents. They got used to the fact that I am stubborn as a goat and I am outspoken. Therefore, I was never affected by them and learned that the people around me are like me. I am no different than them, and they are no different than I. So, why is this new generation still suffering from your stupid mentality?
When young girls, like 18 or 19 years old, who happen to be Arab, want to befriend other Arabs their age, then they don’t have to be ridiculed for their backgrounds. Oh I forget, Arabs hate each other. We can never unite as Arabic speaking people, because the older generation keeps brain washing their children that all the people from Egypt hate Palestinians. Trash those Egyptians! All Lebanese hate Syrians. Trash those Syrians! All those Kuwaitis hate Iraqis. Trash those Iraqis! Etc.. etc.. etc… and so on.
This is what I don’t understand. You came all the way across the world to live a better life, and you are still teaching your children to hate other Arab cultures? You came to one of the most multicultural countries in the world, and you are teaching your kids that? So befriending non-Arabs is ok… You can be friends with them with no problems, but if it is another Arab, you have to make sure they are from the same country as you, and even the same village. Your kids can’t make friends from other Arab nations. Oh no! So and so’s government back home is hateful towards us! Look what they did to our people!
Hello! Maybe that’s why those Arabs, just like you, left their homes, and came across the world to live here and not have to live in such an environment! No wars, no political problems, and no dictatorships. If you “supposedly” left the world that you hated because of these reasons, then why do you keep teaching your kids that are born and raised here to continue on the hate? You came here to change, not to brain wash generation after generation. Are you Arabs stupid!??
If you Arabs hate other Arabs so much, why don’t you go live in a secluded land with no sign of other Arabs other than yourself, and maybe a bunch of bears and elephants. You came here to be civilized and have a better life, but no! You deserve to live in a zoo instead.
And yes, you Arabs with such a stupid mentality piss me off! Be proud of who you are, and teach your kids to be better people in this society. Stop the hate. If you hate each other, then no one else will like you.
[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Mona, Mona. Mona said: RT @rebelliousgirl Teach them to be better people | Rebellious Arab Girl http://bit.ly/5ekNdo [...]
Damn.. I wrote this?
It could have been worse, and there was another Arab related topic I wanted to write about, but I am very hesitant to do so for bigger reasons.
I’m form yaffa and you’re from 3aka, I hate mona!!…loooool!!!
@mohamed
See… a typical Arab! Anyways Mohamed, have you ever experienced this Arab hatred before or seen it with others? You most likely have.
To be honest I never experienced it, but I’ve heard of such hatred. This thing is not only with the Arabs, it’s with some places in Europe, pakistani and indian, Canadian and american and so on…
Very good post Mona and as usual you speak the truth.
I have seen it and experienced it. Palestinians are among the worse. We discriminate against each other. If someone is from Gaza, we talk about them. If someone is from the 48er’s we do the same. This has happened to me. I mean look at marriage. I would have ladies come up to me at weddings and first question is “which balad are you from” and soon as i tell them, they go the other way(For the record Dad is from Gaza, MOm from Nablus)I would be like WTF?????? And I see it all the time, where people from one town dont’ intermarry with people from another. HERE IN THE US. I mean come on already. Get over it.
But I see it changing in this generation THANK GOD. Enough backward thinking.
And btw, our stupidity is what keeps us behind and backwards. No wonder Palestine was lost. No unity in the Middle East.
@Dena B
You speak the truth my friend. You speak the bloody horrible truth.. sigh..
@Dena B
Agree with you Dena, I never got treated like that from anyone. Me personaly I don’t differentiate between Arabs, we’re all the same. I have Egyptian, Morroccan, lebanese, Saudi and Palestinian. I hope our generation gets better as long as we keep our 3adat and we don’t adapt the western culture, then we’ll be fine.
I beg to differ Mohamed, there are 3adat that we need to get rid of that are keeping us backward, such as the subject of the blog. And other stuff that I could write a book on. The west is not all that bad, an the problems is when we take, we tend to take the bad stuff not the good stuff. All cultures and societies have good and bad in them. We just have to find a happy medium. Assimilation is important YET we dont forget who we are and where we come from It is possible to do both.
@Dena B
I agree with you, sorry for the misunderstanding. When I said 3adat, I meant our good 3adat, we must not forget those and there’s lots and lots of them. I type fast, so sometimes I make errors and I don’t amek myself clear….lool!!
Beside Arabs making fun of other Arabs, here’s how The brits make fun of Americans:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6r1IcY1pv0&NR=1
loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with you Mona, but the word hate is too extreme, I think we Arabs tend to dislike each other and we bring our bad habits with us wherever we go. Instead of bringing forward the best of our culture we tend to do the opposite. Individually we are good but collectively we suck. For some reason we could not work together back home or as immigrants. Something in our collective psyche, regardless of religion, that we are better than everybody else. I wish we were, all cultures are equally rich in different ways and it is this diversity that enriches our lives.
Arabs are good people, hell yes I am one and proud to be one. We just don’t know how to take advantage of the cultures around us. We refuse ti give up a little of ours in order to acquire some of the others.
@Mohamed Actually, that’s an Australian making fun of Americans
Not to overemphasize differences between english speakers or anything…
Hi Mona, I think you need to do a post about Arabs who show shame in their identity. I’m talking about Palestinians who tell the whole world they’re Jordanians only because they are ashamed of who they are. What do you think? I think its more shameful to say you’re something you’re not.
Nice post btw
Great post and I totally agree. There is no need to teach people to hate. Did you see the ridiculous outcome of the recent football game between Egypt and Algeria? Crazy, crazy, crazy.
@Incandescent Chimera
I did that a while ago. Maybe 2 years ago because people kept thinking I was Jordanian, and I have no relation to that country. I never been there or have any family there. However, some people are too closed minded and think because you say you are Palestinian that you are Jordanian. It’s like all the Palestinians in the world went there or something.
@Susanne
Yes, I heard. I was gonna write about it, but I am not interested in sport wars and idiot Arabs that take it too seriously. The britz do too! So it is a common mental disorder.
I would have preferred if the “criticism” were kept at the level of each team’s technical deficiencies; sadly, the ridiculousness of the whole thing shifted into questioning origin, religion, language and degrees of being an Arab (A sudden source of Pride and Joy, huh?)
Mona, once again, you’re 100% right. No matter how many things in common Arabs have, many more things seem to interfere in separating them. And we dare call one another brothers and sisters … pffft
its crazy n really funny how arabs can be racist againts there own people like that (i am sure some other people do it 2 besides arabs)n r we not all human i mean WAKE UP people !
its a shame that this has lasted sooo long n people still teaching there kids 2 be this way
b4 arabs accept other people (non arabs)they need 2 accept each other first
Best topics in arab for 2009-11-21…
Best topics in arab for 2009-11-21…
You know, if only the parents could read this. They would:
A) Find out who you are and who your family is and trash talk you guys, for many years to come even your great great great great grandchildren will be hated!
B)Defend their asss’s even though they are wrong and secretly agree with everything your saying, but their ego is too damn precious to be taken down.
C) I can’t think of anything more.
I agree with everything you are saying, but hey you didnt mention what caused you to write this rant about arabs.
@Charlie Hayse
yeah, where I come from if your from a different tribe than somebody else, you’re stereotyped. It sucks like I listen to the parents talk to each other on the phone and gossip. They will say that person is a liar because they came from this tribe etc. It’s pathetic and annoying.