I am the same age as youre sister when she got married, and I have had extreme continuous criticism from arabs for the past 10+ years but thats not an excuse !. ”he asked her to stay at home” And she just did it? I thought she was smart? ”About 6 foot (nose about 2 feet)” ?!?!! WOW..not gonna even go there!

“I know Islam respects women, but too bad no one gives a shit about Islam–especially Arabs. It’s all just backward Arabic traditions. That’s why if all Arab women get a education, they’ll never get married, cause no Arab wants to marry a woman like that.”

I understand your anger towards your brother-in-law, but this quote is way too extreme. It’s not true that Arabs don’t care about Islam and it’s not true that Arab men only wanna marry someone who’s not educated. To be honest if I saw your brother-in-law I’d break his face. :vangry:

Oh yeah, home cooked meal. And it better not be 0.5 degrees below the standard temperature. I hate that shit. My mom keeps sneaking “healthy vegetables” into my food and when she does I just trash it and eat OUT.

I can totally understand the whole maid thing. I mean, if I wanted I maid I’ll just freaking hire a maid. But I guess you don’t get a steady sex supply from a maid. I guess you could, but then she wouldn’t be the maid. She’d be the paid. I know Islam respects women, but too bad no one gives a shit about Islam–especially Arabs. It’s all just backward Arabic traditions. That’s why if all Arab women get a education, they’ll never get married, cause no Arab wants to marry a woman like that.

http://img145.imageshack.us/img145/930/cmdy.jpg =D

So, what are you gonna do?

ABORT, RETRY, FAIL?

Secondly, your little code snippet was cute.

Thirdly, with my work and laziness after work, no guy wants to put up with me. Well, no Arab guy would want to put up with me. Because he wants a home cooked meal the moment he steps in the door. And hello!! That’s when I get home too. Also, I can never be a maid or lower than a man in anything. If you really read into Islam, the woman has to be treated with respect and is never forced to do anything she doesn’t want. As in house work, etc.

As for me, I work if I want to. It all depends on my mood. And the guy who actually wants me has to be at the same intelligence level as me, very open minded, and treats me as his equal. That’s why I encourage all Arab women to seek education and employment and not have to be a servant to any man.

“Can you imagine if you are 20, accepted anyone, and got married?”

I don’t need to imagine it. When my sister was 20, she married this Arab guy. She was a brilliant A-student going for a degree in optometry. He had a two-year diploma and promised her he’d let her finish her education even after they’d gotten married. Turns out what he meant by diploma was a I-went-for-it-but-I-kept-failing-so-I-gave-up kind of education. Since Arab men don’t like it when their wives are smarter than they are, he ruined her academic future and asked her to stay at home. She’s pretty and delicate like a butterfly; he’s a disgusting man. About 6 foot (nose about 2 feet), his belly was larger than hers on the day she gave birth to her first child (I swear to God), he’s far from gentle, smells weird and burps 5 times a minute. They have two little children: a girl then a boy. He favors the boy. When the kids cry, he pauses the DVR, pushes them to their mom (she’d be busy being a maid) and says “take care of them” and continues to watch TV. Then with the housework AND kids on her ass, the piece of shit asks her to pour him a glass of water when the fucking pitcher is right in front of him on the god damned coffee table.

But you know what’s funny? After pushing the kids away every time they cry, the motherfucker gets upset if he calls them and they don’t come to him. They never do. They come to me, their loving, caring uncle who plays with them and rocks ‘em to sleep. The asshole would sit the little girl in his lap; she’d run off and cling to my leg. It pisses him off. It makes me happy like sweet, sweet revenge. What’s funny is the little girl looks exactly like her mother when she was her age and the boy looks like his dad. The girl is really smart, smiles a lot and is always energetic and playful just like her mother. She’s sooooo cute (I’ll send you pics if you want!) I wish I could adopt her and teach her how to play piano. The boy, of course, is ALWAYS hungry, and when I play with him, he’d just stare at me eyes wide open like a dumbass. Like father, like son.

I have a feeling that you’re not totally throwing away the idea of being with someone. It’s more like you just want someone who can understand you, not some asshole to boss you around. And that doesn’t necessarily end in a divorce. You just need to find the right person. Think of it like this:

Arab guy + obedient girl = happy marriage (for the guy) = no divorce

Arab guy + thought-capable girl = bad marriage = divorce

Open-minded guy + thought-capable girl = potentially successful marriage = low chance of divorce

Nice guy + dominant girl = ?? LOL

Personally, I am willing to be committed to someone provided they’re the right person. As for marriage, that’s a whole different thing. I’m not ready for kids. Not until I’m done being one myself. I see it like this:

var couples_married:int = 0;
var couples_total:int = 0:

for (i:Couple in the_world) {
if (the_world[i].married) {
couples_married++;
}
couples_total++;
}
if (couples_married == couples_total) {
Hell.unleash ();
}

Marriage (or commitment in general) can be good or bad. You just need to find the right person.
Sorry if I was too long. I hope that gives you a tiny little bit of insight on your question.