This is my humble opinion, but I feel that you want an Arab guy who doesn’t act like a typical Arab, but at the same time, you act a lot like Arab girls. Certainly more educated and liberal, but nonetheless, pretty Arab. Before (or if) you ask, I’ve lived in the Holy Land long enough to know how Arab girls act.

Basically, I think that you have a double standard with Arab guys due to your negative experience with them… so I don’t blame you. It’s sort of like “Affirmative Action” for Arab Women, if you know what I mean.

Take care.

As for meeting 10 other guys first, then times your total by 2 or 3. Because don’t worry, I have talked and met many guys. I am just picky, or feel that I don’t want to deal with the same thing again so I end it quickly. It’s a subconscious problem. It has nothing to do with loving some shit head from the past. It’s the idea of what would happen if it got too serious. That’s all.

Mona :
@Brian
The Arabic word for love is “Hub” not ‘khub.’ Where are you learning your Arabic from? This is not the first time I see you write Arabic wrong.

And this just cracked me up real hard! LOL!

Mona :

I understand your reaction, but you would go off and marry anyone within that time frame even though you were with someone else for way way longer? I just don’t care if a guy moves on and finds another girl, but marriage? That’s what I am trying to explain here. Marriage is a major commitment, but for some guys it is just a way to tell the other person, see, you were never worth it for me to reach that level of commitment! I found someone else that didn’t care about anything else in life but be a good girl.

Ok, you do have a point and I guess for girls this is very painful. However, I still urge you to find out his exact motives behind this. One possible reason is that he was really hurt by something you said or did and it was a no return point for him. I am of that type. It is either black or white for me, and when it is over, it really is over. It isn’t necessarily a good feature, because life needs you accept the grey colour sometimes.

Do you know for a fact that he loves you? Or was he just playing around with you? You can’t blame him if you were “giving off” signals of “non marriage” material. Does he still love you? I know you do- you should be if you haven’t met anyone after him and it still bugs you- , but don’t know about him. But then again, he may have never loved anyone else but you, but was forced to marry another.

You see, many young men are also victims of society and giveup under family pressure and such. I hate it and never accepted it. If both of you were young back then, it is very likely that someone screwed with his head and made him marry that other girl.

Excuse my ranting, but for some reason I feel I need to help. Let me know if you are still interested in this guy and whether or not it is ok for you to get him back. However, I suggest you go meet 10 other guys first, then decide whether you still have feelings for this one. If after that you still do, then he might be worth the hassle.

I know it in Arabic, not in transliteration. I’m learning from various sources, friends, books. I think it most proper for you to correct me on my love, a love that only you would know, and I yearn to know.

Not only that, over time you keep looking at your self in the mirror and thinking, “I am really not pretty or ever wanted.”

That really got to me. I guess its because you saw the scar and it still looked like an open wound? No one should ever make you feel like you’re less of a person. The guy clearly had issues, and I really feel for you. ::Sending e-hugs::

I’m sure your wound will turn into a souvenir of battle. It makes you stronger, more mature through all the chaos. Keep brushing off the guys that aren’t worth your time. Maybe one day, one will be crazy enough to stick