The bravest one of all
I always get numerous comments and emails from people saying, “Oh you are so brave, I couldn’t have a blog or say the things you say.” I always read them and laugh. To be honest, I just find it funny, because when I write on this site, I don’t do it because I am brave. I just don’t care or worry about who reads it. Even though there are some people that I know in real life that read this blog, I got nothing to hide or be ashamed of. If you agree or disagree, what do I gain? When you insult me, then I get mad; otherwise, I am always open for debates.
Also, I get people asking me how I do it? How do I write this way? I don’t know. I guess the older you get, the more expressive you become about the things you dislike. In my case, I dislike a lot of things, because I live between cultures. It’s not easy to live your life in the middle, and you can’t live your life one way or the other, because people around you will not accept or ever understand why you are like this.
Finding a happy medium is hard. It is really hard, and it is something I struggle with all the time.
For example, I don’t talk about my self much at work. If someone asks, then I answer, but I have no reason to talk about anything personal. Since it is Christmas season, I just say, “Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.” I don’t find it wrong to say that, but I have met some Arabs/Muslims that won’t even say it. Fine, whatever, you are not going to go to hell if you wish another religion to enjoy their holidays. You live around them, and you work with them, then have some respect, or they won’t respect your beliefs.
I wouldn’t call this brave, but the idea of finding a happy medium that will satisfy everyone and let you live a comfortable life is something you have to work harder at. Discussing it with others that live a similar life as you is even harder. It’s hard convincing people with a thought, but that is not the intention of my writing. I want you to think about the things that I write. Even if you disagree or agree the first time you read it, then it should make you end up thinking. It’s not nonsense that I write, but it is something real. Real is what sells. Remember that!
In conclusion, I love thought provoking ideas, and writing them out publicly for the entire world to see, and engaging in a debate about them is very satisfying. If you would like to classify this as brave, then I have more reason to continue on writing.
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I not only love your blog,which I have been following for ages,but I love the way you rationalize your ideas (e.g. saying “Happy Holidays/Merry Christmas”)
I’m a Muslim,Alhamdulillah,and seeing that those around me may not follow my faith I do not impose myself upon them and visa versa. That being said,I feel no guilt when I wish them the best during their holidays – wouldn’t I feel at ease when a Non-Muslim tells me “Eid Mubarak” or “Happy Ramadan” etc?
People have become so self-righteous,smugly ‘moral’ etc they end up leaving no room for others to find the beauty of unity with human beings,which exists within Islam.
Our Prophets (alayhum salam) were the most welcoming of people – our very greeting is PEACE BE UNTO YOU! So,to find individuals so wrapped up in themselves that they find error in wishing someone of another faith ‘happy holdays’ I can only shake my head at their petty mindset.
By wishing someone a happy holiday I am not committing shirk,I am not saying that I shall follow in their religious advents etc – I am wishing them the best.
Lovely post Mona,keep it up.
Muharam Mubarak,Happy Holidays et al!
I respect you for what you have done with your blog & your life. Just getting to know you has made it easier for me to get over my own problems. I think the biggest thing you taught me is stop caring so much about what others thing and just be yourself. You are not brave for what you say, but because you say it. Keep it up, you are awesome.
I also agree with Muslimah in everything she says. I don’t push any of my faith on others, but will not shy away from wishing them a happy holiday whatever faith or nonfaith they are.
@Muslimah
I thought about this yesterday, I am born safar of 1400 hijri. If I calculate my age in hijri terms, I am over 30! lool
Happy hijri new year!
@Moonstar Silverwolf
Glad that my blog writing has influenced your thinking while writing on your blog!!
You can probably see why some people think you’re brave. Most people don’t know how to express what they feel about what’s going on around them, sometimes its caused by fear of what others might think of them for saying it. You don’t have that fear, you are just being yourself, so to you this is just normal. So when others see what you write they wish they could be brave enough to say the things that you could say. If they are reading this, and they wish they could do a blog, let me just say just go ahead and write your blog, nobody is going to know its you unless you tell them about it. once you get started, eventually you won’t find it easier to express yourselves.
How come all my English teachers hate it when I write this way (I was born and raised in the US.)?? I guess they never had to find a happy medium between cultures. Anyways your writing helps me feel less alone and that there is someone out there who dislikes as many things as I do. You are brave because you’ve went to no place an Arab girl would go and hopefully I can do that too!
@Desert Shark
I agree with you. Good analysis!
@Randa
That’s cool! By the way, English teachers never liked the way I wrote either. I would always get a B+ in English. I was always a percent or two shy from an A! ARGHH!!!
Keep on expressing your self in any way you want!