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The first answer is always right

See what happens when I work with more than 85% women in one place? I get grilled with many questions, and my answers are either told after a 5 second pause in order to think of something that is not too personal and reveal my evil side, or blurt out the first thing that comes to my mind.

You guys know I am stubborn and very opinionated, so whatever comes out of my mouth is usually a very stern opinion that has its reasons. So, one lady that is beyond joyful and upbeat (freaky I know!), who has children almost my age asked me the following question:

“Mona, so how old are you?”

I said smiling, “I am 29.”

She said, “Oh dear, you are still a baby!”

In my head I was like fuck! I am not a baby, or even that young! It’s 29!! Not 19! Uff.

Then she asked, “Well, are you planning to get married?”

I unconsciously replied back, “No. Never.”

She said, “My kids are like that too. What’s wrong with your generation?”

I said, “Who wants to get married and raise kids in this world? Look at how corrupt it is.”

I wanted to start blaming her generation, but I didn’t want to appear more evil than I already am.

She said, “It doesn’t matter. It’s your choice how you raise your kids.”

I said, “Of course it is, but I cannot prevent them and lock them up forever so they won’t get affected by the outside capitalistic materialistic chauvinistic selfish world.”

She said, “True.”

Then I walked away, and I did not want to continue that conversation, because it will lead me to an endless argument. It would be an argument that philosophers (me) would classify as the following: “The biggest generation gap in history of thinking endless argument!”

Adults born before 1980! Funny and living in happy town. Young Adults! Confused. Unfortunately, some tend to rebel cause they have to find fault in everything. Sucks to be me.

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  • It’s not that bad… some of us are in our early 20′s and get asked when we’re getting married by Arab and Muslim women… I mean its like “God, its naseeb… and God has written the fate of our love for us… why ask us when we’re getting married”… You seem to handle it very well… and its probably the most frustrating question you are asked to answer. What can I say? The world doesn’t revolve around been married and having offspring. The challenges of raising kids in a corrupt world in the 21 century are harder than people say they are… :sad:

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  • @Incandescent Chimera
    I like your thinking. Why do you live on the other side of the world? Why aren’t you here being my friend and chilling with the Rebellious Arab Girl all the time? .. Oh well! Life is so unfair!

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  • I’m surprised that she said you were still a baby at age 29, its not the first time I heard something like that. I’m also 29 and I know people younger than me who have a ton life experience. as for that whole marriage situation, it seems the common goal of all older people to get us married off as soon as possible.

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  • @Mona
    Yeah, il take you up on that offer someday if I go to Canada… Brunei is way too far and tropical climates are unpleasant all year round. I’d love to meet you in Starbucks hehe :P

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  • OH, people like that woman piss me off and I’m probably closer to her age group than I am to yours! 29 is SO not a baby! When I was 29 I thought my world was over, I was so old. Turned out not to be true – my world wasn’t over – but it definitely wasn’t that young, LOL! Older people sometimes have such weird attitudes about people in their 20s and even 30s. When I was 26, some guy (must have been around 50 – he had more gray hair than not-gray hair) asked why I had “never gotten married.” So I told him the truth, hoping it would shame him into silence (which it did): “Because no one ever asked me!”

    I think part of the issue is that people, when they have kids, it warps their vision, and they start thinking they’re old and know everything. Makes me glad I never had kids. I don’t think I’m old, even though I’m older than a lot of people and I KNOW I don’t know anything and a lot of people younger than me know more than I do.

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  • When face with situation like such, I always trust my beloved ipod or mobile phone to the rescue!
    I just pretend being busy busy texting texting…listening listeining.

    And when I can’t avoid somebody, I fully utilize my god gifted 2 ears.
    Listen from one and let it fly-out whOoossss asap from other.
    Thanx god for 2 ears :D

    After all what’s the point remembering rubbish!

    My Motto:
    Hear no Evil, Listen no Evil. :cool:

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  • Oops I forgot to ask, so when u planning to marry LOL :P

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  • @Desert Shark

    Don’t be surprised.. people are weirdos!

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  • @Incandescent Chimera
    You will feel differently with all the snow and wish you were in a desert! :P
    Starbucks sounds good. I so feel like a Mochaccino!

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  • @Janiss
    So you don’t like kids? :P Just kidden! :D

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  • @Aman
    I like your motto! So true my friend! :)

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  • @Aman
    In 2030!

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  • Mona, does not getting married bother you? Like do you feel like your missing a huge part of your life? As for children, hey you can always adopt a young falasteeni boy/girl. Even if you don’t like kids, think of the life they are living compared to the life we live. Like when you told your co-worker you wouldn’t want to raise kids in this world today.

    hah i know my comment didnt make sense and was gramtically off, but I am having an off english day which means that I have a hardtime explaining and describing things.

    Hope you sort of understood where I was comming from :)

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  • Ah, but the day will come when you are older and just don’t get those young kids either. They will be twice as rebellious as you are (hard to believe) and three times as blunt. You will wonder if you lost your edge.

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  • @Jasmine

    Does not getting married bother you?

    It’s funny you ask that. If I had an opportunity then I would probably take it, but you see, no one likes me or is ever interested, and if they ever were, they leave me after years and get married to the next person they can find that does not think like me and has an opinion about life. You see, I am the opposite of what Arab men want. They can’t stand me. So yeah.. does it bother me? I think I am beyond that level of being bothered and just learned to accept this fate.

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  • Hi Mona,

    Tired to comment earlier but it got lost somewhere. I just wanted to share that I was there before.

    Even if one day you find a satisfactory answer to the question ‘When will you get married’, lo and behold, you’ll find that it opens up Questions Level 2 – is he the same race, is he the same religion, is he- ‘one of us’?!

    It’s never-ending!

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  • oops typo – ‘tried’ not ‘tired’

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  • @Mona
    I basically see kids as adults-in-training, so I like some of them and some of them I don’t like – they don’t all get a pass just because they’re children, LOL!

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  • @The ? Nomad
    I never look for someone who is not the same race or religion as me. I am picky. I avoid problems from the beginning. I am not dumb! :)

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  • @Mona

    You know why your opposite of what arab men want? Well in my opinion I think your an amazing woman mashallah, and arab guys…well what can we say. You should read the book called Girls of Riyadh by Raaja Al Sanea if you already havent. I loved the book. I am pretty sure you will scream at the book “WHATS WRONG WITH THESE WOMEN!!!” or love it. It’s about a girl who exposes the love lives of her 4 bestfriends who are part of the upper class society of Riyadh, through emails that she sends to the kingdom and greater arabia every weekend. But its not like romancy, it’s spunky and fun. If you ever do read it I am pretty sure you will love Lamees or Mishael. The book kind of reminds me of your blog, because just like you this girl (who isnt named) tells it like it is, and gets hate mail and people who appreciate what she has to say.

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  • @Jasmine
    Yes.. I read that book. :P I even made a contest on my site to win it over a year ago. :P

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  • Mona: I´m telling you, it´s the same thing with most of the western men to. It´s not a cultural thing only, it´s a feminist issue mostly in my view since I can relate to most things you´re writing and I don´t live in an arab muslim society. This is also something Im trying to accept, that im the od woman out since I am opinionated, it gives me no space, no way to travel into the future..
    In my experience, 98 % of the men are either womenhaters, or let the hating of opinionated women pass by not saying anything, then their are some percent that want good and don´t want to hate women but aren´t willing to listen to women enough so it turns bad anyways unconsius women haters… so then there´s about 2 percent left who are smart, consiuss and haven´t been influcenced by the women hate so much that you can stand and even enjoy their presence..

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