The past is meant to be forgotten

Mona, this is so sad. I think I start to feel you. I think I know how you feel. And I guess there are many people experience the same as you do, you are not alone. We don’t really know what we have done to deserve such thing when other people have done worse but yeah I agree, no matter what happens we can only hope and God knows how we are trying.

And Jesus Mona the music. Arghghgh it’s depressing lol.

Well Mona… you’re very dignified you don’t need any haters to invite you simply out of pity to a goddamn wedding you can have so much better fun on your own or with Lisa or any other close friends you may have. I’m sorry this post makes you sound very depressed. Take care & cheer up

Mona, I think you are doing the right thing! I was in the similar situation as you are….yes, I hate being the “after-thought-person”. I learnt my lesson the hardest way…after I had my daughters. I realised need to be a good role model for them and need to be firm and that it is OK to say “NO” and “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH”.

People like these just need to respect the boundaries of others and know that we are better off without them in our life!!

Mona,
I get it. I would not go either, at best she is a fair weather friend, at worst she just wants to flaunt her wedding in your face. So, why go and find out. good riddance.

Be happy about what is good in your life.

For those that argue with you or post negative responses, I don’t get it. You even got some negative responses about the car you bought. Really?!? Some folks just are not happy until they bring the rest of the world down with them. Don’t let em do it.

Take care.

@Mona
I’m sorry my bad.

Hi Mona. I visit here everyday. I believe you are fully in control of your life. As for happiness. It is in you. You just have to let it out. Don’t worry about other people. Do what you feel is right. And do not let people step on you.
I had a wedding problem with a relative. My niece was getting married. She said I didn’t pay any attention to her at her sisters wedding. She did not want to invite me to hers. I got the info from another relative. Her mother made her invite me. I didn’t go. Her mother,my sister than got mad at me. That is life. I don’t go where I am not really wanted.
Well enough blabbering. Keep up the good work and let things happen.

When I was young I felt as though I was invisible. I have learned to seek friends that are real and care about me for who I really am. I still think I am invisible to some but there are some that see me and love me for who I am. I have learned to appreciate and treasure them.

Follow your heart and the fake friends will fall away and the real ones will find you.

Mona, I can relate to a lot of what you say. I’ve been through a lot of evolutions in my life when it comes to how I relate to other people. I was an outgoing and happy kid with a lot of friends until I was about 15 or 16, when I became the opposite – aggressive and anti-social. I’ve thought a lot about that, and it seems to me that after moving so much and being the perpetual “new kid” (between age 5 and 18 I was averaging less than a year in the same school!) that I made a conscious decision that it wasn’t worth the effort to make new friends, only to lose them again a few months later. My dad’s second divorce and the bouncing back and forth between living with my mom and my dad didn’t help much either. And then when I joined the marines I was of course part of a brotherhood, and I was also a good marine and was assigned leadership positions so I had a lot of friends again, and they were really close friends.

And so on…

Right now I’m in one of my stages where I’m anti-social, and it’s been that way pretty much since I got divorced, though I’ve tried to change it a couple times. I seem to be “stuck” on this occasion, even though I know the problem is me.

The only thing that changed between my various extremes is me. My attitude. And that’s why I’m telling you all this, Mona. You CAN change. You don’t have to be that person you are describing, that always feels alone and unwanted. Sure, some people are jerks and will be jerks no matter how hard you try. Don’t bother with them. But if you change your thinking, people will start reacting to you differently. It doesn’t seem like that should work, but people really do pick up on whatever it is you are broadcasting about yourself and they react to it.

I should be giving this advice to my sister, because she seems much like you. But she won’t listen. Maybe you will

Mona, you touch a lot of people on this blog. That’s obvious. You have a lot to offer. You just need to let other people see it.

Hi Mona,that’s the first time i leave a comment on your post (that I think is so full of emotions sensitivity and life) although I try to keep in touch, I’d like to communicate much more with u but my english is not that good (north-african so my second language is french).anyway, i had lived the same situation and i took the same decision and i dont regret it. My friends were so pissed after me and blamed me at first but it was my decision, and we have a sying in my country \edha mestadii fi naharek, shed darek\ it means if you are invited in the last time so better to stay in your home
so dear Mona dont make your self miserable about someone who doesn’t deserve your attention. the friend i told you about, moved in her life and forget about all of our friends and now they do agree with me that she was too selfish to think about anyone but her self.

mona did u ever hear that old saying ‘nice guys finsh last’ in yr case its nice girls finsh last …i always 4 give n 4get n remember the good ,4get the bad always salams n hope yr havin a good day/night

p.s i really like what u said at the end of yr post… My goal is to find happiness. If not, I will at least die trying….thats really good i think

hi mona i really feel u, n i know sometimes we r round of lot of persona who we call friends but we still feeling alone cz they never care about us anyway i agree with u u did the right

salam

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okay you know what mona, you can be bitter about people all you want its your life i get that, that sucks soo fucking hard people screw you over, you are always the one thought of last, nobody cares about you. but really from the way i look at it, i cant feel sorry for you or dont feel sorry, quite frankly im pissed at the fact you sit there and accept it. Then you rant about it, okay i get it life isnt swell for you, i dont understand you, damn right i dont understand you…. dont think you understand yourself. Mona for the last maybe weeks or months or so, you write the way a depressed im going to commit suicide 19 year old would write. You need to get your ass up out of this mini depression, learn that NOT EVERYBODY is bad, go find some people who relate to you, if you cant shut the hell up and move on with your life…….

Wallah I love reading your blog I have been reading it for over a year, I used to sit there reading it for atleast 2 hours straight (your past posts) You were sooo, like how can i say it THE MANNNNNNN ! and i look at you now and say, what the fuck happened ?! You can get mad at me, hate me, fire off at me, tell me I don’t understand, be sarcastic all you want. Tell me get off your blog “if you dont like it why are you reading it” I LOVE your blog, i will never stop reading it, but please mona, try finding happiness even if you die, atleast then you know you died trying to make everyday awesome

lol dude i know this sounds so corny, but hey atleast im trying

You’re absolutely right to feel the way that you do. Friends don’t do that to one another. I’d probably answer the phone and tell her exactly what I think. Then again, she probably does not have the self reflection necessary to understand how in the wrong she is and how lame that kind of behaviour is.

Good luck in your pursuit of happiness.