Dear Mona . . . why?

its states that a man can only marry a second woman if u can treat them the same n i think even love them both or 3 or 4 of them the same …i cant see or understand how that is possable …how can 1 man love 2 or 3 or 4 girls the same is beyond me i know 4 me its impossable n i can love alot 2 hehe…. a real man dont love a millon girls ,he loves 1 girl a millon ways

n 2 answer the qustion why some men do this ….thats easy ..4 the SEX ofcourse !

لحد يحش في العرب
لو سمحتو
الرجال له حق ياخذ بس 4 نسوان بس
وكل وحده لها عذرها بأنها تكون وحده من عدة زوجات .

اهم شي انتي فهمتي^_*
والله حتى انا ما اعرف ليش الرجال يتزوجون 4 زوجات ههههههههههههههههههههههههه
بس اكيد انا مارح اقبل اكون وحده من الزوجات

وانا ما اعرف سبيلنج حبيبتي

Applauds :up: Nice Post! By the way, my mother once said in the Arab world, men who practice polygamy are mainly men who are royal or elite class who want many children. It was practiced commonly by men who dealt in trade. Both my great grandfathers had 4 wives! After there time, it became very uncommon in Iraq.

Sarah is right, its mainly among the royals and rich business men (most of these guys in Saudi Arabia). Its not as rampant as people in the west like to think it is over there. Those groups can do this because basically they can afford to take care of 4 wives, they have the money and resources to give them what they want. You will never see someone like an auto-mechanic or a high school teacher getting 4 wives. when a middle or lower class guy does marry a second wife the majority of the time is because the first wife can’t have children and it is basically agreed that he could just go out and get a second wife to have children with. But the rate of polygamy in the middle east is still low, not all that common, people in the west like to talk about it like its more because they don’t approve of it and people by nature like to talk about things they don’t approve of.

Yep I agree with Sarah and desert shark.

Kind of interesting here is one guy that married two women at once :/ Why I do not know!
http://vanillacandlelove.blogspot.com/2010/04/are-you-kidding-me.html

a real {{man}} doesn’t love million girls :down:
He loves one girl n a million ways

lik my man haithm n i love hem sOoOoOoOoO ktheeer

Hmm I don’t think the marriage of 4 wives (aka polygamy) is common these days in the Arab world especially in the eastern levant region (mashreq) and the western region (maghreb), even what’s better its no longer “culturally acceptable”. Due to the rising education and modernization, ppl are slowly leaving religious practices that doesn’t make sense (or those that can create harms more than the benefits its preaches) behind. I guess the arab youth are now more open to moderation and modernization of religion, meaning they openly drop and criticize such practices. Growing up in Jordan I rarely saw any man marrying more than one, and its always perceived as a ‘cultural shock’ or betraying the wife if someone does matty a 2nd wife, the immediate response would be ‘oh poor the 1st wife and her children (if she had any) it must be harsh on her’’, only those who are extremely religious (or those who are blindly religious, who do not attempt to analyze the effectiveness of these practices) would have favouring reaction. There is a man my father knew who had married a 2nd wire, he kept it secret for 20 yrs- why? Because he knew how the people will react and might judge him, the second wife he didn’t mention in his medial service report that his company offered got sick, so he had to announce it. In fact the more I go further away to remote areas or poor regions with extremely low levels of education, the more the 2nd wife lifestyle becomes common…says allot.

Moreover, one Arabian country has gratefully taken a further step to prohibit polygamy legally that’s Tunisia!! Again, this law wasn’t applied to prevent those who are educated and more modernized (this should not be confused with westernization) from polygamy practices, but to ensure those who are either uneducated or extremely or blindly religious from such practice s… yeah you go Tunsiaa!!

Many other Muslim-majority countries that have not adopted Islamic law for marital regulations, such as Azerbaijan, Bosnia-Herzegovina and Turkey have done the same as Tunis.

Fact: Polygamy is declining all over the arab world (with the exception of the gulf region, dunno if it has changed over there, parents usually tend to pressure their sons to get a 2nd wife).

One last important fact, over the last decades, fertility and rate of increase in population in the Arab world is in vigorous decline, due to drastic changes in family structure caused by two factors:
1)decrease in polygamy
2) women’s status and roles and her active involvement in the labor force

Furthermore women’s residence and education status matters , since studies directed at the arab world have proven that urab fertility is much lower than that in remote and rural areas. Also education in urabn and developed regions are far more advanced , hence normally women in urban are equally educated as men. These results matches all the other ‘devloping’ countries around the globe.

Overall, you can see there is quite allot of positive changes in the arab world taking place not starting today or a year ago, but a notice CONSTANT change taking places since at least a couple of decades ago, maybe its about time for Arabs to look at such issues which sadly does still exist (but in small percentages) with much more ‘positive’ light.

I agree with the other commenters

Polygamy does exist in two cases: among rich royal classes (that’s common in the gulf region especially Saudi) and also among the uneducated poor class who tend to marry more than one (two being the MOst common) to get more kids to help them work and support the family.

Yes Muslim men, you are the best, GOD (a man, didnt you know) has divinely ordained you, you are king, overpopulate the planet, waste more precious resources.

We need to (all of us women that have the means) save the children and help give them a decent life. Parent(s) (men) may be selfish but children are born innocent. Save the children.

Arab children:
http://www.pcrf.net (palestine)
http://www.dci-pal.org (palestine)
http://www.GlobalGiving.co.uk/Palestine
http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/sponsor-a-child/asia/syria
http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/sponsor-a-child/asia/lebanon
http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/sponsor-a-child/asia/jordan
http://www.coia.org.uk
http://www.iraqichildrentrapped.org/
http://www.icrc.org
All children:
http://www.savethechildren.org
http://www.actionaid.org
http://www.worldvision.org
http://www.unicef.org
http://www.childrensappeal.net

I JUST DID A LONG POST ON ALL THE ARAB CHILDRENS CHARITIES. WHY DIDNT IT POST, OK ill come back later. Save the children.

@mais
Thanks for the insightful information. God bless you, Mais.

@reham
Reham,that pretty much sums it up right there, I’m going to remember that line forever.d

Polygamy has nothing to do with women and everything to do with men. Women (including myself) do not agree with many practices that Islamic doctrines allow however this has not stopped them from occuring (for thousands of years). Under Islamic family law youre place as a wife is resigned to a mother and you have very little, or no rights regarding these issues depending on how harsh the interpretation. Countries that ban these practices are doing so on their own merit and not on any account from religious practices. Dont believe me, go ask an Islamic scholar.

i have a qustion ..if a man marrys 2 wives does he wear 2 wedding rings ?hehe

I never thought of polygamy in the way you discuss it here. However, I think/know you are right because my husband is neither Arab or Muslim, but there is no way he would want or could handle any more demands than he has on him already – not from me of course – hehe

it is refreshing to me to see an unbiased view on polygamy, since in essence, it is truly just a different form of family/marriage. and there should not be any stigma against it of being “evil bastards that just use woman for sex/property” and that it has been something to cross most cultures and religions in one form or another. :up: :up: :up:
props,
a new comer.

Men can marry 4 wives for a host of reasons.

When it comes down to it all Semitic religions give man the upper hand over women so it is just in the nature of Judaism,Christianity and Islam.

Every government or religious instution was founded by men, for men. Therefore, all institutions in the world are patriarchal.

Angelina have you done any research into this field, have you spoken to any Muslim women in this situation, have you lived in a Muslim country for an extended period of time, and have you studied Sharia law.

Since I have done all of the above, I disagree with you on the point you have just made.

We have more people in the world now than in the history of mankind put together. The indegenous population of Europe is declining, and very soon most the world will be occupied by Asia, and Africa. So the world will be populated by the nations that are the most patriarchal, have not been able to maintain any kind of stable democratic governments, ravaged by war, Terrible economies, high unemployment, mass shortages of housing, elecricity, and water, children running on the streets, women in a constant state of fear, resource wars, over food, water, and basic amenities will result, the population will be out of control, they will blame everyone else for their problems, dictatorships will arise, the islamic clerics will bury their head further in the ground, blame the west for wars, global warming, and everything else they can think of, all the while there will be a huge wall built across Europe banning the others from entering, european and american citizenship will be divided into ’1st class’ only for the white indigenous, whilst arabs and blacks will get 2nd and 3rd class, a combination of samuel huntingtons clash of civilizations and George Orwells 1984,…………..

Oops sorry some of that is already happening…