Part 2 of Mona’s Discontents: Window shoppers
Part of me says that I should give it a chance, but my inner being and my bull headed brain says, “no, no, HELL NO!”
Yesterday, I was watching television and my mother calls me. She was holding the phone and talking to this women at the same time.
She tells me, “Mona, there is a guy, 29, Palestinian, Engineer Mechanical, and is from Hamilton. Do you accept?”
In my head, what is this, a men bazaar?
I hesitated for a second, but she said Engineer. No offense to any Engineer, but seriously, no. (BAD EXPERIENCES!) But if he was exceptionally gorgeous and very nice than maybe I will consider it! 
Then I walked back to the living room and continued watching television.
After my mother finished her conversation on the phone, she comes and says to me, “How long you want to stay like this? How will you meet people?”
I said, “I am sorry, but I don’t like to be an object that people look at while they are window shopping for the perfect one. It is funny that they go look for girls from other cities. They couldn’t find any where they live? The big metropolitan area!”
She said, “So what will you do then? Stay like this?”
I said, “I am fine, I never complained, and I honestly am happier this way!”
She said, “His father owns a gas station and he works there too.”
I said, “You got to be kidden me even more! He couldn’t even get a job as an Engineer? DOUBLE NO!”
See what you can discover about people from not even meeting them? I am so prejudice and such a bull headed loser. Oh well, at least I am not divorced or living a miserable life like some people I know.
P.S. I know many of you will object to my messed up mentality and I am old and ancient, but I had very bad experiences in my life. Honestly, I rather be alone for a while because love is not something I want to experience again (ever really) without a good solid head thinking properly at the same time.
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i still think its messed up how yr parents (most arab or muslim familys)know about the guy b4 u do lol . ..she telling u he does this n that ,do u accept…i am sorry mona n i know most muslims familys r like this but its seems really strange 2 me n kindy funny …salams
i dont mean 2 say anything bad about this caz if 2 people meet like this n do end marrying n being happy ,well thats great ! but it seems wreid 2 me …it like yr parents setting u up on a blind date lol
I agree with you…he seems like a must miss.
I thought it was funny that your mother didn’t wait to put down the phone to tell you. When my mother attempted to set my sister up with some guys she knew she sat her down and talked to her about it. But its not the first story I’ve heard like this, it seems like every arab mother out there is in a rush to marry off their children. We’re living longer these days we can wait a few extra years.
Youre a bright, hardworking girl, so you might be the push a guy needs, not all men are overconfident. Some men need a woman that has her shit together (you), to get their shit together. I am confident you will find love and be very happy, give people a chance. The best experiences have yet to come for you.
I feel like I shouldn’t comment on this since I’m not Arab but i kinda agree with Mais. What do you have to lose, really? If he turns out to be as big a dork as you think he prolly is, no harm done right? And he may turn out to be a great guy who just hasn’t gotten the lucky breaks yet
If you meet him, you’ve got nothing to lose. You seem very picky and selective which is better than taking a dive for a surprise. I agree with Charlie, it sucks the parents always know before we do. I wish you all the best, Mona. Take care
The problem with love is it’s IMPOSSIBLE to be rationale while in love. So if you love a jobless guy, but then you marry and divorce b/c he can’t afford to support his kids and the fights fade the love, then it’s too late. So before you meet and fall in love is the time to talk about the points that are necessary in a functioning marriage (like jobs). That’s why Arabs do it like that and I applaud you Mona for refusing a loser and not getting desperate (Arab girls have a tendency to get desperate and marry any loser).
@mais
I agree with your post that sometimes all a man needs is a little kick from the woman, but is that a chance we are willing to take?
Mona: I am also Palestinian but my parents don’t want me to get married until I finish school. Even though your mom may nuisance you about getting married, I kinda would like parents that want me out of the house!
Thanks everyone for your comments, but either my mother got sick of me and wants me to be like everyone else, or she tried to give it a shot for once and hoped to hit home run with this guy. lol
Haha Mona, the fact that this man needs his mom to find him a girl doesn’t sound too promising to me. I know that this is the way things are done in the Arab world (that’s how my parents got married), but the fact that he lives in Canada just doesn’t make it too okay. You need someone more independent than a guy like this in such a society–especially for someone so independent and confident herself.
hey ..maybe u should give it a shot …whats the worst that can happen ..at worst he wont be yr type n maybe yr mom would be a bit happy hhee
@Mona