Such a shame

i would ask him just so that you clear all the misconceptions. as muslim you know you cant judge no one. so its better if you go out bluntly and ask him ? why he is not fasting? because technically your are backbiting and thats against our ikhlaq. so just go and ask him if he is muslim and why he is not fasting? whatever his answer just take it and dont judge him.

It must be SO hard to fast in if you live in Canada or the US. My husband does it and has such a hard time because most people don’t have a clue – but for a Muslim to behave that way in front of other Muslims is just wrong. Maybe he has a medical condition? (more likely a mental condition). Does he have to travel hours to get to his job? My husband has a daughter who’s last name is Sultani – sounds Muslim, but she has never been exposed to the Muslim religion probably doesn’t even know what Ramadan is. She was raised by her mom who is neither Arab or Muslim maybe he grew up in the same type of situation. Or, he could just be a self-centered moron.

1. Ramadan Kareem, Mona!
2. Maybe he incessantly asked questions, in the beginning, to see if you’re a devout Muslim or not, so that he wouldn’t hide to eat in Ramadan?
3. Last names are quite misleading. Mine, for one, would never hint at my being Muslim.

P.S. Is it just me or the captcha is simply illegible today?

As-salamu `alaikum Mona, I understand where you are coming from, having been in similar situations myself.

Ramadan Kaareeem, and remember as Muslims we have to make 70 excuses for eachother, and I understand this is hard, but we should try our best, and don’t forget, the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said something to the effect of No one has faith until he loves for his brother (i.e. muslim) what he love for himself.

I love these emoticons lol!

@Mona Then, only he knows what’s best for him.

Have you started looking for a new job?

@Mona

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@Mona
What’s your dream job?

Maybe he’s a non-practicing Muslim. Or maybe he’s agnostic? He has no courtesy that’s obvious. I think you should keep your distance if it bothers you. At the end of the day, he holds responsibility and is accountable for his deeds.

i agree with sarah, i know why he bothers you because he came off as if he was a practicing muslim. i am not saying this in a mean way but its really none of your business becuase it is between him and allah. he might have a medical condition that is not so obvious, you just have a bias against him from the beginning thats why it bothers you. but ramadan kareem mona

Hes obviously a non practicing Muslim.
Btw the other day before the bomb for iftar set off I sat down and had a listen to the Imam on TV. I thought Id give it a chance since I am fasting and this is supposed to be a time for patience and forgiveness. So about 3 seconds into it he says something along the lines of ‘God will forgive youre sins in Ramadan because you feel the suffering of the poor’. I ALMOST! FELL OFF MY CHAIR! I couldnt believe the imam was equating the suffering of the poor, who do not have the comforts of a comfortable home, stable income, plenty of food, to not eating for about half a day for a month of the year. I carefully studied his body language and his eyes and he didnt look like he knew he was a sadistic liar, so my only conclusion is that he has a very low IQ! (Hope ur well Mona, Sarah!)x x

@mais
Thanks Mais I hope all is good at your end and wish you and Mona both a belated Ramadan Kareem. May all our hopes, dreams, and endeavors come true in this Holy month. Ameen

Not everyone might be as comfortable with their religion as you are Mona.

Some people might be having difficulty finding God. Others are having other sort of doubts, such as faith vs. reasoning; and the true history of religion (shocking). Some people might feel wronged by faith in general. You never know the reason why someone isn’t fasting. It’s not always the case when you see non-fasting Muslims for them to be soulless or ‘white washed’.

Furthermore, so what if he is eating and drinking around you? It is his soul that he is hurting, not yours. The temptation is a good thing, it makes your fasting all the more real and righteous.

In fact, I hate how the Arab nations force a person to fast by closing all restaurant, shops and cafe’s. It’s not up to the government or even the family to force someone to fast. That is wrong.

You gotta ask yourself, do people fast because of faith? or because of culture?

I don’t want to be rude here: However you seem to be very angry over this man who isn’t fasting. First, what is it to you, whether he fasts or doesn’t fast. That’s none of your concern. Secondly, just because he has a muslim name—I suppose by muslim name you mean an arab name. It doesn’t mean that’s muslim. Anyway, even if he his muslim, it’s none of your concern whether he fasts or doesn’t fast. Just focus on yourself, and your relationship with God. That’s it. Life is too short to be caring about what others are doing or not doing.

You often speak of people judging you, while not knowing you. Now you do the same. Your prejudice against people who do not share in your customs and (unproven) beliefs (you call them soulless) is also very smallminded.

i agree hebah and amira jameela.

gheeba(backbiting) is bigger sin than not fasting.

some sort of cold war (ego) going on between these two over there.

many muslims think hijab for women is part of faith according to islamic teachings.

any non hijabi muslims know this?..

yousuf yohana was a cristian cricketer of pakistan.he converted to isam,now his name is yousuf muhammad.
many mariams,abdullah’s, easa’s and other muslim named christians are there in pakistan .also , in arab world..that doesnt mean they have to fast.

as some one said above,this guy may be having some health problem…god knows better.

Gheeba in the Heart (soo’ adh-dhan)
Gheeba can be committed by the heart when one thinks ill of another Muslim. Allah said:

{O you who believe, steer clear of most assumption for some assumption is surely sinful. And do not spy on one another nor backbite one another. Does one of you like that he should eat his brother’s flesh after he has died? You would surely hate that. And beware of Allah, verily Allah is Accepting, Merciful.}

Adh-dhann (assumption or suspicion) is that to which that heart is inclined to believe. It is not allowed for you to think ill of another Muslim unless it revealed to you in a manner which leaves NO room for doubt or other interpretation. If a trustworthy individual informs you of it (in a manner which is allowed, of course) and you are inclined to believe him, they you have an excuse. For if you discredit the one who has informed you, then you have thought ill of him and it is not desirable to have good thoughts about one by having bad thoughts about the other. Rather, you should look into it. Is there any enmity or envy between these two? This could be the actual cause of the accusation.

Whenever any bad or suspicious thought occurs to you regarding another Muslim, you should exert yourself more and watching out for him and making du’a for him. This is the best way to defeat Shaitaan and get him out of your business. Next time, Shaitaan will be afraid to suggest this evil for fear of the opposite of his desired result – that instead of creating enmity and division among the Muslims, he has in fact caused more devotion to caring for one another and making du’a for one another. All should ponder this, but few will ever attain it! Allah said:

{And who is better in speech than one who calls to Allah, acts righteously and says, “I am among those who submit.” (33) And act of good is not equal to an act of bad. Repel with that which is better. Then, you will see the one with whom there was enmity as if he is the dearest of friends. (34) And none shall encounter this except those who are patient and none shall encounter this except those who are most fortunate indeed. (35)

After all this it becomes clear to you that the fault is real and verified in your brother/sister, then proceed to find a way to advise him/her IN SECRET, never in front of others.

MONA,
dont change the topic.
admit your mistake and say sorry.
you will be loved and admired more if you say so.
I am also not a perfect man.i do make faults/mistakes.
I admit immediately and never ashamed to say SORRY.

Ramadan kareem.
may Allah bless you.

@nobiting

you talk to much. stop preaching.

@mona

I wish for a harem of women, cheap electronics, free milk, and universal healthcare. Peace in the world can wait.

hi guys,

i know i’m a bit late with my post
but concerning this guy, it’s a shame indeed, but who are we to judge
maybe he’s diabetic and has to take insuline every few hours and therefor needs to eat.
maybe has anotheri llnes
or maybe he doesnt bother with ramadan because he’s not a practicing muslim
Having a muslim name does not make you muslim
There’s more to islam then owning the name.

Mona, you should not put a stamp on people
everyone has his or her reasons for doing certain things
even if you dont agree with it you should just leave it be
at least that’s my philosofy

anyways i still enjoy ur blog
just don’t think it was appropiate of you to write a whole blog about this guy

greetz

One year, I had a Muslim co-worker, and we used to eat lunch together. When he started Ramandan, I fasted w/ him. It was nice.

He said that when he 1st moved to Russia, they had this crazy thing where the sun didn’t go down for a loong time b/c they were so close to the Arctic Circle.

This co-worker of yours obviously has his own situation. I’d ask him if I wanted to know, but each to their own.

Everyone needs to just chill.

The writer is a little upset with a guy who is not consistent in his behavior when it comes to being ‘Muslim’.

Yes, if you are really concerned you could just ask. But, everyone is free to do what they want. Therefore you don’t need to if you don’t want to .

Everyone judges. Its unfortunate. Life goes on.