Have you ever let it all out?

Done it many times. Feels great in the moment but usually end up regretting it after the fact.

Spilling your guts can make you feel great! It depends on the situation and persons involved, though. For example, if you’re sitting there, practicing a speech about how your significant other doesn’t call you enough and how he has ___ flaws and you hate how he ____ and that maybe it should all just end – it sounds great in your head; it’s like you feed off the anger to come up with all these great points. Then you say this all… and it leads to a huge fight and maybe worse.

I personally enjoy it when someone shares their deepest with me. I think may I be I’m an odd person, but I find it very flattering and something to cherish when someone is willing to tell you things they don’t normally share with people. I personally would love to have someone to relate to really well when it comes to sharing thoughts and listening to their thoughts. Not claiming to be “different” or “super complex” or the like, but my personality is definitely very offbeat compared to the people I know and seem to meet.

If you’re wanting to get something off your chest, consider what it is before you spill it, though. If something someone does is irritating to you, I think it’s best to talk about it in a calm and mature manner – more akin like neatly pouring the beans than spilling them. If something else is affecting you… maybe you’re feeling melancholic or stressed – well, then I hope you have a good friend to talk to. Or a blog. :p

I had a very huge temper. I did not confront people I would just go away and rant and let the emotions out. About a decade ago something really upset me, it was deep and very very traumatic. I went into my room, locked the door and for the first time even cursed one whom I was very close to. I cursed her and thought no one heard that .. I cursed and let loose with a lot of emotion. She phoned me a day later and told me that she had been beaten badly by a mutual close companion… it was totally out of line with him! He just snapped and did this. He was appalled at his actions and he was punished badly for this. I mean painfully punished. I felt horrible because I knew I was responsible for this… because they had heard me… they were very psychic in such things. But that is another story.

I felt awful, just awful and begged them to forgive me. They gave me great love and told me there was nothing to forgive… I was astonished. Then I was told, “You did not realize words and emotions are power and can materialize. You did not know what you were doing but now that you know what you did, just keep a hold of your temper. Don’t do that again.” I was totally humbled by their forgiveness and, since then, I have never done that again. They had taught me many other refinements over the year in terms of reining in my emotions and my thoughts so I understood.

I know this sounds a tad strange, but to me it is natural… these folks had a proven track record. Also, I learned that, after a conniption my body paid the price. I would have chronic digestion and reflux for maybe 4 days or so and also my eczema would manifest.

Anger? I have plenty of it but it is towards the world and the politics that rule our lives. I have learned a cool temper is much better than heat because it can be controlled and channeled towards something constructive.

Last year I was so fed up with my Older colleague who was irritating the hell out of me!! She was constantly nagging me
I tried really hard to ignore her comments but there’s only so much a person can take…
So this one day I just couldnt continue pretending it didn’t bother me
and I let it ALL OUT !!!
she was totally surprised and did not expect me to react that way
but GOD did it feel good to finally put her in her place!!
I do not regret it at all!!!
I dont believe I exagerated, I just told her how it was!!
I’m not saying things got better afterwards but atleast I stood up for myself!