Match maker, I never ASKED you

hahaha!! soundedd like my family…untill every guy in my family went and married a second wife! and then i become the smart one. to study and become independent so no man can take me for a ride! I love it!!!

i am not even going 2 get in2 this 1 haha

lollllllllllllll u had answered sooo right mona i give u a bravooo and we are the ones who choose not them so he got the ASAP answer

I want to hook up just because yer not a predator! Canadian women are predators! lol

Ghost2XS

ASAP ….I hear this phrase all the time at work
I am not in a position to talk about this one as I do not have the details, but Mona why you do not pose and think before you say NO, yes ASAP looks awkward but see him, it might be him, trust me people around you are as smart as you if not more. Try to be not Mona for once

I’m really at a loss. Everything seems so high stakes here.

Why can’t things start out slow like a cup of coffee?

Also, why a doctor? Just curious.

Oh your are too funny. Your daily blogs are the highlight of my inbox. Yea I know I should I get a life. Thanks again for sharing your world with us non-bloggers. I got a marriage proposal for Valentine’s Day it was real and very genuine but there is a religious difference. Okay up for disscussion if you are Muslim and getting on bit like me. Does it really matter if you marry a non-muslim.

Valentines day is just another example of social engineering.

@Mona

Seems so, lol. Valentine’s day brings out the worst or the best in people. Depending on your viewpoint I guess. p

Well excuse me ladies; although it’s girls place after all but I found Mona’s topic is quite interesting, so I decided to drop few lines. Because It can’t be fair to have girls view all over without looking at what men got to say about this.

Moha you have expressed yourself to be what I call it typical \Canadian Arab girl\. I’m sure you will fully understand what I mean by the time you finish reading this.

Life is quite short and specially for girls. Since they go through a lot after they get married. like; pregnancy; raising the child what you call it \baby popper\, deep depression after giving birth and hole list of things that changes girls life dramatically, in addition to the eternity leave from work and other stuff. That is why men want’s to marry girls at young age so she can handle all of those things.

One day I was sitting at my sister house watching her changing diapers for her 8 months boy. I asked her what do you feel when you do this?. She said \Do you think I hate this? you have no idea how I love my kid, this is the most wonderful thing ever happened to me, no matter how pain I suffered and how many sleepless nights I been through. I love my kid and what I’m doing makes me fell happy because he will be clean and fresh and happy!\.

The truth is not your job or changing diapers. You didn’t get married because you don’t want it to be an arranged marriage. You want Romeo throwing pebbles at your window, chasing you on the streets, sending you anonymous pack of flowers and drowning your pictures on the walls. Oh the other thing, Romeo must be born and raised here (north American); Romeo must also must speak with Canadian accent. Romeo must be rich or a doctor.

oh Dear; I can assure that WILL NOT HAPPEN!. No, I should say WILL NEVER HAPPEN.But you just don’t know it yet. lol

Why talk about people, let’s talk about my self; I completed 2 years at college and the worked my ass off full time on after noon shifts just to completed my university degree, then moved my self from company to another till I become a consultant, and my company keeps sending me all over the country every month for work; in top of a freaking blackberry that keeps ringing 24/7. Do you think I will have time (take time off work to chase girls on a streets???) I barely have time to cook food and do my daily routines. I will never have time to look for girls. This is when they family try to help and arrange for marriage.

Successful people work full time 9 – 5 or even more; There will be no chance to meet a girl coincidentally, if that happens know it can only happen in movies, since we live in Canada / U.S and meeting people from our backgrounds are almost rare!

I did not know that all girls who were raised here think that way! I have been looking for a girl for over 3 years. every girl you ask her family say no she is not looking for marriage. well duh now I know why!

I hope I won’t see you single until next valentines day!

Regards

Hi Mona; I never expected to see my post still a live; I though it will be deleted Thank you for that…. Well you are right; very true; every one has an opinion and everyone entitled to voice his/her own opinion.

What you call it BS, it’s what 99.9% if not 100% of the girls want .. believe me I’m not saying it’s wrong or should not happen. Romance is part of any healthy relationship. But when a girl reach her 30′s and she is not married, people will think there is something wrong with her at least within our Arab community. Don’t think I’m living far away when I say this, I was Londoner for a long time; my family still live there. and I know our community.

Again; I’m not writing this to rage a war or start hopeless /endless discussion, The point is clear; no one should neglect other people when they knock their door asking for their hands. These matters should not be dumped carelessly in your closet or behind your couch. Marriage is a serious step in our life and it should be taken very seriously specially when we start running out of time. Girls say my Job, my freedom will be effected by Marriage! I say this is the real BS that won’t put you forward but it’s truly what keeping you behind.

This is the opinion of any Arab guy who came to Canada at a young age. I ask why young Arab guys go back home and get married? Why they can’t find a girl within our community??? why they can’t find the right girl that accept them?????

It’s because of these ideologies that westerners build in your minds. “Marriage should not be arranged” “Marriage should not effect your personal space” “I don’t to be pregnant or be a baby popper” ….etc and tones of these ideologies that keeps a walls between us, and yet proved nothing but 42% divorce rate.

it’s very impotent that girls should let go of these ideologies or else they will NEVER get marriages, unless of course they don’t want to be married for some sociological reasons. They will waste their 20′s hoping they will find the one, then on their 30′s they will be desperately looking for him by age of 35 it’s over. They will reach the “age or reason” and want to go back in time. Well sorry the boat carries you once, so you better take the right direction.

Oh I know you will hate me for this, I will make sure my visits to London be short

If you are Muslim or even Cristian you may listen to this speech; very good speech.

http://www.iiid.ca/pages/Library.php?id=238&visit=7

@Mona
Then you’d fit right in with all the other women in my life!! Staying single isn’t easy but its a lot of fun!! I’m half Sikh and fiesty too!!

Ahmad you been looking for a girl for 3 years and can’t find one. Uh duh maybe it’s your attitude

As what you said
LIFE is quite short and specially for girls. Since they go through a lot after they get married. like; \pregnancy; raising the child what you call it \baby popper\DEEP DEPRESSION AFTER GIVING BIRTH! how do you know that Ahmad (only if you were the husband I think) -ETERNITY LEAVE – you mean Maternity Leave don’t you. Then again maybe you it would be ETERNITY LEAVE to get away from you.

All I can Ahmad clever girls for turning you down, go Sisters. Yes your entitled your opinion but Ahmad may I suggest you import a mail order bride who will be so grateful to get out of some Third World slum hole, she’ll worship the ground you walk on. Otherwise enjoy your the rest of your life as a single brother, brother.

It seems that women can handle being single much more than men. There are guys who are happy being single and don’t want to settle down, but these guys are almost invariably players who just don’t want to be tied down to ONE woman. I am currently single, and I am not a player, and I’m freaking miserable. So it’s quite crazy to me when I hear a woman say she is perfectly happy being single. Not that I expect I’ll ever understand women….

@sarah

I actually did not want to reply anymore because all what I wanted to say was written down. But Sarah was funny.

Sarah you read my comments quite thoroughly and it seems it got your nerves so bad to the point you have nothing to say but nonsense .

you seem to be really young to be engaging in such discussion. instead of discussing a real issue girls facing in Canada, it went to talk about my attitude like I’m some monster. you really made me laugh so hard.. How old are you 16?

Do you actually think that “clever girls” turning me down? you really make me laugh! you did not get the point, duh. Go read my post again and again until you get it.

The “some Third World slum hole” that you talk about is where your parents came from so do not neglect it like it’s a peace of dirt you throw it from a window. I’m will not meet any girl who neglect her place of origin like that.

I’m not engaging my self in worthless discussion with a girl thinks like 16 years old, I guess I will leave it to the readers to decide what to believe in.

Good Luck everyone

2 tell ya the truth i only read as far as “A lady (mom friends with her) said that there is a guy who is looking for a wife. And wants an answer ASAP!” who n what does this guy think he is ?

k now i read the rest ….nothing against yr mom mona but why cant u have a rich doctor ? i mean u or anything girl could have a rich doctor …i know some places r like this …like man n woman almost has 2 have the same status but thats really got nothing 2 do with it .what he does or she does 4 a living .U know even back in the old days some kings n stuff would take woman of no major status anyways i belive what u do or he does has nothing 2 do with marrying some1 n loving some 1 …or at least it shoulden …salams

@ahmad
i just want 2 point out what u said…. It’s because of these ideologies that westerners build in your minds…i belive poeple let in there minds what they want 2 let in n they r free 2 choose what they want 2 let in

@Mona
but i will say mona it is in human nature 4 most of us 2 want 2 be with some1 ,some 2 share our life with ,some 1 that u know no matter what has yr back …i can go on n on here but i wont lol salams n have a good night or day ,what ever it is when u read this hehe

Charlie your posts always put a smile on my face.

Ahmed, your impression of girls is probably based on your experience with women, and your experience of women reflects who YOU are. Like attracts Like. PS Ahmed if you think changing diapers is the most difficult part of raising a child then God help you. =)

Why is everyone so against what ahmed is saying? He has raised some legitimate points. A) it is difficult meeting western ideologies about love and romance (we live here, we get influenced) and islamic principles of marriage. Fact. Its okay to want both. But also to compromise and allow for reality and islamic principles. B) as women we may have very high expectations of what we want in a spouse. Doctor, rich, bla bla. Its good to have high expectations. Try to keep deen first. Hold out until you get someone you think you are compatible with. Which leads us nicely to: C) its okay to listen to what that ASAP guy has to offer. My cousin who was fiercely independent got an arranged marriage proposal. She said HELL NO! straight away. But after lots of convincing agreed to talk to the guy on the phone. She actually realized he wa decent and they were incredibly compatible. They cudn stop talkin on the phone! the ‘ ASAP’ thing is kind of off putting though…. D) a lot of decent muslim brothers are struggling to find muslimah sisters to marry. For many reasons. Ahmed i applaud u for highlighting ur frustrations that i am sure many muslim men feel. It is unfortunate ur comment was met with such anger and rudeness. Inshallah I make dua that Allah may give you someone who is kheir/right for you. E) plz ignore any typos and dont highlight them so painstakingly as sarah did…im typin on my phone, sorry.

Ps: if ur happy being single and dont want to get married, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I totally respect the wanting freedom, financial independence and being ur own person thing :p Do ur thing and dont let anyone pressure you into being someone you are not.

@Mais
maybe i should post more often :up: lol